How to overcome "difficult to conceive"?

Question

I've been trying to conceive for more than a year and a half. I've very irregular period, ranged from 28/30 days to 60 days sometime. Therefore, it's very hard to figure out the fertile days. I've little low progesterone level than normal. And my husband has sperm motility problem. With all these barriers in achieving pregnancy, I just can't be calm, relax and stress free anymore. Every month is an addition to my age and afraid off becoming 35. My biological clock is ticking. I can't express how much I want a baby of my own. Every couple I know is having babies, but I can't, which breaks my heart. Does anyone had same experiences like me and achieved pregnancy later? Would you please let me know how you have succeeded? May God bless you!

Answer 1

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Hey there,

I know that it is INCREDIBLY hard to see others around, more so because you want a babe so bad....

I'll share a bit of my story...I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) when I was 19 - no big deal at the time, just went on b/c to control the weird and unpredictable cycles. Then it came time to to start our family and whammo - hit a big wall. Started with the Clomid and then mixed that with Glucophage (Metformin)and still no results. Our OB really started pushing for IVF - a step that my husband and I felt that we weren't ready for, either financially or emotionally. So, after many crying nights and forced happiness for close family who were getting pregnant, hubby and I cam to the realization that we'd have to get used to being "single". About a year and a half later, I visited a new OB with the purpose of getting the PCOS under control and mainly, just getting healthy (I'd be lying if the thought of pregnancy wasn't lurking in the back of my mind....). First consult with the OB and she recommended that I try a treatment called Bio-meredian. Sort of like bio-feedback....most MD's haven't a clue. My OB however, focused on alternative health and meicine as well. I had my "Bio" visit and was subsequently prescribed to follow a "yeast-free" diet. And the funny thing was, that while telling me what I had to do and how to go about the diet, the OB warned me that if hubby and I weren't ready for kids, to use protection. "Yeah, right." I thought to myself - I've been on all of the fertility drugs known to man and they didnt work....I wasn't even thinking that her warning could hold true for me...

So, fast forward two years later..... my daughter just turned 1 and I am back on the diet, looking to conceive #2. Oh yeah - what I thought was impossible happened for us in 6 weeks! Diet and accupuncture I believe were what made our dreams come true.

My skeptical self is holding out on the time it will take to get to #2, I'm unwilling to believe that it can be so easy again...

So the moral of my story is three-fold:

1.) Irregular periods can be a sign of PCOS - get that checked out (if you haven't already).

2.) Let yourself greive a bit about the tough time that you are going through and cut yourself some slack. It isn't fun and it's ok to be grouchy about it. During my 7 years of questions and heartache, I gave myself permission not to go to baby showers - I'd send a gift later. Most of my friends and family were very supportive and understanding. Wanting a baby so badly you cry for hours in the shower is ok to....

3.) Look for alternative measures in treating infertility. Had I not visited this OB (I forgot to mention that my usual OB up and died of a heart attack - that's why I went looking), I seriously doubt that I would have my daughter. The stuff she said about Yeast Overgowth syndrome and how it affected my body made so much sense!

Oh and one more thing -

People say "You've just got to relax" or "You're trying to hard" or "If you stop thinking about it, it won't happen." When you want a babe so badly - that comes across as really insensitive and hurtful. It would make me want to scream! However, there is a bit of truth in that, as hard as it is to hear. So - make a mid-afternoon rendouvous with the hubby, meet a restaurant for a leisurely lunch and a glass of wine, skip off to a hotel and be one with one another.

That's how we got our daughter!

Good luck - email me if you need some support or if you have questions: [e-mail]

Take care and hang in there!

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Thank u very much Kenna's mom (Martha). I do really appreciate u'r long supportive message that indeed gave me tremendous hope. I'll keep trying & have faith in Almighty God 2 bless me with a baby. Thanks a lot 4 u'r personal email; I'll definitely email u 2 seek more support & get answers of my Q's

Answer 2

I actually went through my own set of large obstacles as well as my husband having medical issues as well.

I've had 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's and a huge array of testing.

At some point, I realized all I wanted to be was a MOTHER. I was focused on wanting to be pregnant and lost sight of the bigger picture...parenthood.

Pregnancy only last 9 months...parenting lasts forever.

My point here is that...I chose to adopt. And I don't regret it for a second. No one can tell me that a doctor handing me a new born baby felt any differently than if he had handed it to me after giving birth myself.

Parenting begins from the first second your child is handed to you. I realize that adopting is not for everyone....but it was for me....and it is the best thing that has ever happened to my life :)

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http://thefertilityshop.com

Answer 3

I don't know how true this is but it seemed to have worked for me... We didn't have the troubles you are facing, but we tried for over a year when I came across and article that stated some cough syrups can actually help improve your chances of conceiving. I used Equate Tussin (cheapie Robotussin), but you can also use Mucinex. The key ingredient to look for is called Guaifenesin. You want to look for something that has just this, no alcohol. The guaifenesin thins out all the mucus in your body - including cervical mucus, which will allow the sperm to pass through more easily to get to the egg. I just took some cough syrup before getting busy, did some foreplay to allow it to take effect, and then got down to business. I only had to do this for one cycle before I got pregnant. Hope this helps!!

Answer 4

Yes, I know how you feel. It can be such a long frustrating waiting game. I had long cycles too. My husband and I tried for years. We finally took a year off and decided we needed to stop thinking about it. I was low on progesterone too! After 4 miscarriages, we have 3 children and for those 3 pregnancies, I took progesterone for the first 3 months of pregnancy. You have to take that stress away. The fact that you want a baby so bad will cause your hormones to not ovulate. 35 isn't too old! It will happen for you. Just focus on other things and keep yourself busy. Join Yoga, do whatever you have to to get relaxed. Good luck!

Answer 5

I am 35 and just had my first child after years of infertility. I was finally diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian sydrome). Basically you don't ovulate therefore no egg to fertilize. I was put on Metformin for insulin resistance and then started Clomid (pills). I was so sick of not having a normal period and was about to give up on the dream of motherhood and so I asked my doc to put me on birth control pills. She said I might get lucky and the pills would jump start my ovaries and it did! I took my last round of pills and clomid in October and found out I was pregnant in January! Ask your doc about PCOS!!

Answer 6

They say try not to think about it so much and it will happen. Try taking a pre-natal vitamin. For irregular periods I would reccomend the herb called Chasteberry also known as vitex-agnus-castus. Also you can try Fertility blend for men and women found at any health food store. For your cycles go to mycycle.com they can give you a printout of you monthly clcle and let you know when you will ovulate.

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mycycle.com

Answer 7

I know how you feel I was with my husband for 10 years and always wanted a baby with him then we decided to get married through the church and come to know God We started praying together and thanking Him for the child we believed we would have now after being married for 2 years we had a beautiful baby girl who is now 1mth and 3wks Don't give up and relax don't stress out so much about it.