Every person is unique. At your age I would strongly urge you not to seek physical help from anyone else. If you really feel like you are going crazy with very strong urges for sex...you can seek professional advice from a doctor.
There are two good books that may help you better understand what is happening. The first is "Everything you wanted to know about sex, but are afraid to ask" and "Sex for dummies". I could no longer find the first in print. As each of my children reached puberty, I bought them a copy of "Sex for Dummies" after I read it cover-to-cover.
Rest assured, masturbation is as old as humanity and it is not exclusive to people; many animals in the animal kingdom masturbate. It is not "evil" and as others have written, it is a much better alternative than to be having other forms of sex with other people risking sexually transmitted diseases and risking being abused sexually.
I am not a professional doctor or psychologist, but I believe I can answer you with some common sense: You are in a period of self discovery and your brain is growing at a phenomenal rate during this part of your adolescence. Both boys and girls go through various degrees of confusion, a feeling that they want to assert their own independence, and a sexual awakening. It affects each person although to various degrees.
My advice [I am a guy and I hope most mature women will agree with what I am writing] is that you treat yourself like the lady you are becomming. When you feel strong sexual desires or urges, plan some special time for yourself. Your hands will do just fine, but if you prefer sexual aides, make sure you keep them clean and sanitized. Rubbing alcohol is safest since it evaporates and leaves no irritating chemical compounds behind. A good anti-bacterial soap is better than nothing, rinse well. This also applies to your hands. With that, you can make your bedroom or bathroom a special place by making the lighting and decor to your preference. Then with your special time and place, delight in your body. You are special so treat yourself special. Discover yourself and the places on your body that you enjoy the stimulation. When you are older and ready for a sexual partner, you will better be able to guide that person in the art of pleasing you and stimulating your erogenous zones. This could make the experience for both you and your partner [later in life] much more satisfying and pleasurable. Keep in mind that you owe it to yourself to act responsibly, especially concerning sexual activities.
Whatever you do, don't abuse yourself and don't let anyone abuse you. If you feel that you have a good honest and open relationship with your mother or maybe your older sister (if you have one), it might not hurt to ask for advice and guidance.
I have two daughters and I was very open with them because their mother was not. My oldest is 22 and my youngest is 16. I think they are both doing very well in life and making good decisions with their lives, so far.
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