My Husband wants Threesome?

Question

My have been married for around 4 yrs. We have 3 year old daughter. From last 6 months while making love he asks me all sort of question like about my affair before marriage and whether I have slept with any guy before marriage and all sorts of sex related questions with other guy. Now he asked whether I am interested in threesome or having wife swapping. I have told him if you feel then we can go for swapping as I was excited. He also brings lot of porn stuff and wants me to do all that. Now he regularly asks me to have a threesome What should I do? I am from India and city is Mumbai. I think when I got aroused I said yes but I am a bit afraid of threesome. Is something wrong with my husband? Whom should I approach for help?

Answer 1

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Something is wrong with you for agreeing to the idea in the first place. Find out if you have any suppressed feelings. About your husband, see if you can understand why he wants the swapping. Maybe the answer to both is the same? You just want some spice in your sex life, which can be done by the two of you also, without a third.

Answer 2

do it, your husbands a legend lol

Answer 3

first of all this is your decision if you want a 3some or not. if you dont feel comfortable with this situation please talk to him about it. sex is a wonderful thing that is shared between two loving people. if you dont want to you have to tell him

Answer 4

You should only do what your comfortable with If you think you would enjoy and thats what he want's as well then go for it I have had a threesome before but I was the other women and I had fun but now I could not do it I cannot see letting my man have sex with another women I would be hurt beyond belief.... so just trust yourself if you dont want to than dont

Answer 5

not its normal for a man to want sex with three women. you dont really need help you just need to go through with it and then decide if you were liked it or not. if you find that you didnt enjoy it then tell your husband that you dont like it. then maybe suggest having a threesome with you and 2 men instead of 2 women and see how he handles you asking him for that.

Answer 6

I wouldn't do it if I were you. Talk to your husband and discuss the risks of a threesome, such as unwanted pregnancies (if the other girl got pregnant), sexually transmitted disease and a possible strain in your relationship. Whatever happened to being loyal to your partner and commitment to your marriage? Nothing's wrong with your husband since a lot of men love to experiment about sex. As for wife swapping, I don't think that it's a good idea. I've heard stories about that which ended in divorce since the swappers don't like to go back the the real partners.

Answer 7

No threesome with kids involved, if you did not have any children, then fine, but now you have a child, and your husband wants a threesome, what kind of a man is he??

God forbid, what if your daughter walks in, she will be scarred for life!!!!

Stuff before marriage should be left in the past, your husband and your child are your future, what is his fettish with your past??

You never did into his past, do you?? I think he gets turned on by your past and that is just a little wierd!

What does the country you are from have anything to do with a threesome, just asking.

But you have a child, honestly, do you really think you should be thinking of this NOW!!!!

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Just offering you my opinion and that is all it is.

Carrie Green!!
Wife to a wonderful man of 15 years will be celebrating our "sweet 16" in February, and mother to a wonderful 10 year old daughter. :)

Answer 8

Why not have a foursome and everyone gets what they want ?I'll volunteer for the fourth!!??

Answer 9

You sound like quite an open women, go for it, see what its like. You only live once.
I would if i were you, mabey you like it.

Answer 10

Hi Neel,

You have to decide if you want to do this as a lifestyle or as a occasional thing. He is chomping at the bit to do this, but the question is whether it will blow-up in your face. Don't get me wrong like most guys I am a pig. A threesome and girl-on-girl is cool by me. However, especially with a kid it would have to be away from the house and only from time to time. He has to remember that he needs to be able to connect with you sexually without the extra trimmings too.

I would give this careful consideration before deciding. Know this! If your answer is "NO" and he keeps pressing you probably have bigger problems on your hands. If he doesn't get this he may try to (lamely) use the fact that you didn't give in as a way to justify an affair.

Answer 11

You should be a little fightened and uneasy its a new experience. ONLY do it if your sure and comfortable. But I can tell you something from experience... If you give in to the porn and 3some, he will never stop asking. he is always going to want there is no stopping that. But it can be fun and exciting, if your completely 100% comfortable with the idea.
If you wan to talk to someone find a sex therapist. If your from Michigan I recommend a good one I had as a college professor, Pamela Landau Jacobs. Or you can look her up and call her. She is awesome.

Answer 12

i think you should tell your husband out of respect for him! and if he doesn't see where you are coming from, then he isn't respecting you, and then i would suggest you go to counseling for that! However if you fell like you could complete his requests but with some boundaries then go ahead and tell him what you want to happen and that everyone has to play by your rules! I think that you shouldn't do it with a close friend because if something was to go wrong then everyone would be hurt, and that isn't healthy to any social relationship. Also i think you should ask the person to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases, if that is something you are worried about. Also i think you should all use birth control if that would make you feel safer. you can never be too safe when it comes to having unprotected sex! I think that a healthy sex life is great and that if you and your husband both feel like this is something you both want to do then i say go ahead... but trust your gut!

*( I would send the little one to a grandmothers of a friends house so she doesn't walk in on anything, or ask any questions that you would hate for her to hear, or so she doesn't assume anything is wrong or out of place!)

Answer 13

Sex is just one part for having healthy relationship which differs greatly with the thing called as LOVE, you cant be so happy going to bed with another man you dint have any feeling at all. To satisfy the desires of your husband without considering your own would be defying and violating your own personal rights to do what you would believed is morally upright for you to do.

Answer 14

Earlier he was joking , I think. Now he is testing your faith in you. Never surrender to any of his immoral demands & ask him to be God fearing. You too must be strictly religious & God fearing. His illegal & immoral demands will vanish. When he is in good mood, ask him whether he can think of similar things for his sister too as he asks about you. that will be the good answer.

Give him good books on etiqueetes of husband-wife relations for best happy married life & other religious books so that his dirty stuff can be made ineffective.

Answer 15

you lot are messed in the head...

do you even know why you bothered getting married anymore????

Answer 16

I, in my opinion, think if you do agree to this, you'll end up in a divorce. A marriage is between "2" people, a man and a woman, not a man and 2 women. It just seems to me that a man than wants this is just wanting to have an affair with his wife's permission. I don't agree with it at all, for I could not share my husband with anyone. If you aren't going to be faithful to your spouse what the purpose in getting married. I know there are those who are going to disagree with me, but that's fine. To each their own, but for me, I believe in the vows I spoke before God and friends and intend on honoring them.

Answer 17

It is a choice only you know that you feel comfortable with. If you have any doubts then don't do it. It could wreck your marriage- its horrible sharing your husband with another woman- unless of course you want another man- your husband may not be so keen on that solution.

Answer 18

If you are from India, you are asking for troubles of all type.

Life is not sex only.

Think.

Answer 19

once you lose respect and dignity for your self and each other, it is hard to get it back; other people in a marriage don't ultimately add to it but slowly erode the intimate bond that included 2; if a man doesn't have a problem bringing in another woman to degrade you , then he isn't a man that respects you; a lotto ticket is fine until you are camped out in the casino, a drink is fine until you are drunk every night; and sex is fine until you need everything and anything to fill what ultimate is the void that lives within you and will never be satisfied.

Answer 20

Hi I think your husband got crazy,s Indian woman and having a baby it,s really risky and dangers,you tell your husband I am sorry I can not do it and say strongly and with power in your vice.I am also Indian and I can understand you position.Just to be strong and power full no.if you need any help you can reach me via Yahoo.

Answer 21

You should do this ONLY if U want to! Not because u feel u have to.It sounds like u have already given your answer to him, buy being excited with the wife swapping.Good luck & have fun with this.

Answer 22

You have 2 choices:

1. You have the threesome and have the best time in your life and save your marriage.

2. He will find a mistress that is willing to have a threesome and he will have the best time in his life and you won't know anything about it.

Good luck listening to the "liars" for advice oh sorry I mean the "normal" people.

Answer 23

2 woman is every mans fantasy. I would go for it if you are both open to the idea. My bf of 8 years has brought this question up many times and I agreed to have a 3some, but I told him he has to find that other woman.

Answer 24

Go for it sounds fun May I join in the festivities

Answer 25

There is nothing wrong with your husband, lots of men have fantasies about their wife having sex with someone else. It's obvious by his questions about your sexual past and his arousal from it that he is one of these guys.

The question here is "do you really want to?" Swinging (and yes, a threesome between a couple and someone else is technically swinging) has to be something that has to be BOTH of your fantasy, and the idea has to be as exciting when you're not horny as when you are. If it's exciting when you are, but not other times, this is your voice of reason kicking in and your fears, real or imagined, are surfacing.

What I would do is do some research about swinging and how couples do it, who does it, and why the do it. Then you'll be better able to decide if it is right for you or not.

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