Having a threesome when your married????

Question

It really pisses me off that people think this is okay..if 2 people are dating each other, whatever...they are dating and thats it? have at it? BUT.....if you are married, that means that the two people should only ever lust after each other sexually as far as im concerned and thats that..why the hell would a wife want another woman in the bed with herand her husband? why would she want to even see her husband in the presence of another woman naked? i consider that cheating in itself?! this just makes me so confused. i think its disgusting, and should not be any part of a marriage. what do you people think?

Answer 1

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I think it's none of my business what people do in their marriage.

If that's what they want, then fine.

It doesn't effect me. My marriage is strong and my husband and I would NEVER do that, but that doesn't mean a marriage can't be strong and have a threesome.

Just because you don't get it means it's wrong. It just means that the WIFE is secure in herself and their marriage to not be jealous.

Answer 2

NOOOOOOOOOO!!!! such a bad thing. it's cheating. if i'm not with my husband, then it's cheating.

Answer 3

I am not down with that either.

Answer 4

your just mad becuase you cant have a 3some !! and we all can

Answer 5

Me and my man have always been exclusive from the very first day we decided to be a couple.......

Answer 6

i agree

Answer 7

Sounds like you shouldn't do it, since you find it disgusting.

Other people believe differently. Let it go.

Answer 8

to each thier own, i have enough problems in my own life to waste time worrying about others sex lives.

Answer 9

Straight up? You will never have what you had with your SO. It will never be the same and will inevitably end. And you will NEVER be the same.

Off to the dark side. I think its absolutely F ed up!!

Answer 10

Not in a million F-ing years! NEVER!

Answer 11

I agree totally with you...too bad you weren't around to lecture me this before my FIRST husband and I got involved with swinging...One of the dumbest mistakes we ever made....

It is one thing to FANTASIZE about threesomes when you are married...but it is something else when you make it become a reality...

Answer 12

I think that if two people love each other they should be comfortable enough to respect and share in each other's fantasy's ,,,

Answer 13

To hell with 3some..more the merrier

Answer 14

i think its totally wrong...i couldn't agree with you more!!!

Answer 15

well i was dating a guy and he asked me about this too... and i was fair i thought about it for a couple days and then brought it back up and told him i couldnt i didnt wanna know that my man was being pleased by some other girl... but hey wutever floats ur boat!...

Answer 16

I TOTALLY AGREE

Answer 17

I agree with you i think its completly a bad idea even if your just dating I would never want my mans hand on some other woman let alone giving her sexual attention like what the heck!!!!

Source(s):

common sense

Answer 18

Fantasy is a healthy part of everyones life. Married doesnt mean your dead.

Answer 19

I really don't know why someone would have a three-some when your married!!!!! Your basically cheating on your wife also! People are crazy.

Answer 20

I agree with you my friend,marriage is what it says it is,i have never married but i will one day and it will only be the once that i do...i also think in a dating relationship it should be the same or don,t bother leading someone on....good for you and well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 21

Not something you should do that's for certain. But to some people it's something they enjoy. My wife and I have had a number of threesomes over the years, and it has never affected our marriage one bit. She enjoys watching me with other women, and being with other women, before we were married she told me she would need her "Chick Kicks".

We currently have a girlfriend, but neither one of us has ever "cheated" on the other one as we've always been together when we were with another women.

It works for us, but I agree it has destroyed a NUMBER of marriages over the years. if it's something you both want then there are no feelings of jealousy.

Answer 22

I think that it is wrong. If someone is married to someone and doing that, its like they're just using marriage as a fall back plan.

Answer 23

I've seen peoples relationships shot to sh*t after a 3some. Not a good idea when you are married unless you went into the marriage knowing you would be cheating with other people. I could never share my husband with anyone. Sure it is great to fantasize about ,but that is where it will stay, in my mind.

Answer 24

Hey it is there life, what ever they do is there business not yours or mine

Answer 25

I totally agree with you!

Answer 26

I`m divorced now because of it . It was my ex- wife idea after that she felt like it was ok to f_ck anyone . ha! it not a good idea.

Answer 27

I do not approve of threesomes. I think that they are disgusting and the couple has no respect for each other. If you are going to have threesomes then why be married? I have no respect for anybody who does things like that.

Answer 28

You definitely have a beef, But just because you feel the way you do, don't mean they should honor your feelings. They're married to each other and apparently this is what they're in to.

It shouldn't be your decision as to what's normal to you, but theirs to do what ever they want. And yes, you do have the right to be as confused and disgusted as you want.

I hope you have a nice day.

Answer 29

Prude!

Answer 30

Whatever...cheating is defined by each couple. What you consider cheating and what someone considers cheating is going to be completely different. It is all in what the couple is comfortable with. If both partners want to have a threesome, then who are we to judge? I have done it and while it was a one time thing and it won't ever happen again, it has made my marriage stronger and our love for each other grow deeper than it has ever been. Understandably, most couples can't survive this but some can. As long as no one is forcing you to do it, why are you so worried about it?

Answer 31

It's only disgusting if you think it is. But there are many different people out there with different views and preferences. You view it as cheating, I view it as mutual satisfaction and fun - no harm done and we are happily married and sexually satisfied and if my husband or I wants extra action, then we'll get it together rather then him going south behind my back and then having the dramma of divorce.
So just because you think it's cheating, doesn't mean everyone else should think the same way.

If this is what your hubster wants you to do and you are not comphortable with the idea, you should not do it of course. Just be careful in how you place your personal judjements on the rest of the world.