Jennifer Lopez decided not to breastfeed, just because her mom didn't. Do you think that's selfish?

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Just because someone's allowed to make their own choice doesn't mean they made the right one. She's allowed to have her opinion and so is everyone else. Why are people so afraid to disagree with someone these days? "It's her choice" is not an answer. Of course it's her choice, thank you for stating the obvious, I'm interested in your OPINION on not breastfeeding just because you "don't want to" and not giving any regard to the health benefits of breastfeeding the babies are being cheated out of.

Jennifer Lopez is just an example. I read an article where she gave that as her reason.

I think it became out business when she made a public statement about it in a magazine. Do I think it would have been our business otherwise? Probably not. But you guys are really missing the point here. Whether it's Jennifer Lopez or somebody not famous the question is really about whether choosing not to breastfeed without a good health reason (like not being able to produce milk or being on medication that would be harmful to the baby) is a selfish decision.

Answer 1

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geez, you really got attacked on this one!! :(

yes, i do think it's a little selfish. if breastfeeding is the best thing for your child and there's no medical reason that you can't do it, then you should atleast give it a chance.

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Thank you. I agree, to not even give it a try because you think the babies will be fine without it is a very uninformed decision. I hate it when people hide behind that "it's a choice" bull...in my opinion choosing to deprive an infant of the natural antibodies they need is a BAD choice.

Answer 2

No, I do not think it is a selfish decision. Any woman has to do what makes her comfortable. My baby is 10 weeks old and I decided not to breastfeed as well.
This is my first baby, I knew it would be tough and enough of a change just having him in my life, let alone having him attached to my breast every hour. I am glad I did not breastfeed, you want to bond with your baby no matter how you are feeding them and if you view it as a chore because you are doing it just because its what's "best" for baby then you won't enjoy it and the whole point of bonding is being missed.
My son is perfectly healthy, thank God, and a very happy baby. I also took into consideration that my mom did not breastfeed and all her 4 of us are perfectly healthy as well.

I do not think it is selfish at all,

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I think you misunderstood Jennifer Lopez, I am sure she did not mean "I am not going to breastfeed because my mom did not" I am sure what she meant is that seeing to how her mother did not breastfeed and her children were healthy she saw no reason that breastfeeding was the only way to go.

Get a life.

Answer 3

Jennifer Lopez is not a good example of anything in my opinion. I don't really care how she's feeding her baby.

Answer 4

its her choice whether she breast feds or not...really it is none of anyones business

Answer 5

Well i don't think it's necessary to breast feed...I wasn't breast feed and i'm not going to breast feed my kids when i have them.

I don't think it's selfish, It's her kids and her boobs

Answer 6

You ARE asking for people's opinions. You are asking whether we think her personal choice was SELFISH or not.

The answer is that EVERY, E-V-E-R-Y decision that has to be made when you have a child is SELFISH. The decision to have a child in the first place is SELFISH. People have children because they want to have children. The world is not going to end if you do not procreate (nor is the human race as there are over 6 billion others on the planet). In fact, the world would be much better off if there were fewer of us around than there currently are. We have children out of a central desire for them. THIS IS SELFISH!

If we choose to breast feed, it is also a selfish decision. If we choose not to breast feed, it is considered a selfish decision. If we use disposable diapers = selfish, cloth diapers = selfish. Baby carrier = selfish, sling = selfish, and the list goes on and on.

We make our decisions because it is what WE WANT. Any benefits of one decision over another don't matter because our primary motivation for choosing what we have is because we want it. Pure and simple selfishness.

So, you ARE asking for our opinion and EVERY choice that you make when you have children is selfish.

Being selfish or making selfish decisions doesn't mean we're bad people. It simply means that we are human.

Peace,
Jenn

Answer 7

This is sooo annoying listening to people express their hardcore opinions about what they feel is right.
It is indeed a 'choice' if I want to breastfeed, if I want to circumcise my son, if I want to get my infant daughter's ears pierced, and last what I choose to name my child.
Free country we should be able to do what we please without interference until all these things become illegal.

Answer 8

I don't agree with her decision but I wouldn't call her selfish. Bottle feeding is the right decision for some situations.

Answer 9

No her kids=her choice.

Answer 10

I don't think anyone is selfish when it comes to making this choice.They decide what works best for their family & really their opinion is the ONLY one that matters.Breast or bottle,as long as baby is fed-that is all that matters to me.JMO

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Mommy to 1 week old Baby Evan

Answer 11

i think its selfish to judge her on that matter, she has twins and with her life style it might be for the best, just imagine if she is out nursing and having all the photographers taking pics of her.

Answer 12

its her choice. dont be a stalker.

Answer 13

It's not really anyone's business but no I don't think it's selfish I wouldn't want to either.

Answer 14

I think breastfeeding is like everything else, a choice. However, basing it off what your mother did seems indecisive.

Answer 15

I think that it is the wrong reason...(by FAR!)

...but in the end, her choice.

Hope she doesn't regret it.

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ok, then...in my opinion...I think that it is ridiculous to use what your momma did as a reason not to breastfeed. Maybe she is not educated on the benefits of breatfeeding...maybe she just doesn't want to breastfeed. I was totally unaware of how important breast milk was until AFTER I had my baby. Hence my "hope she doesn't regret it" remark. I regret 110% my decision. Some people don't....everyone is going to think differently on this topic as we ALL know.

Answer 16

If she really didn't want to, no one can make her but she shouldn't use that excuse. I breastfed all my 4 and I can tell you that she is missing out and so our her twins.

Answer 17

If she made her decision based on a decision her mother made 30 years ago, that's a bit strange. However...have you tried to breastfeed twins? I have, and it is VERY difficult. There is a good possibility that she doesn't have enough milk to feed both babies and just remembering who ate and who didn't and trying to get some sleep is very tough. I think we haven't heard the whole story.

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Mom of 7.

Answer 18

If her only reason for not breastfeeding is because her mom didn't do it, then yes I do think its selfish and ignorant.

Answer 19

yeah.
thts stupid!

Answer 20

its her choice, but it is terribly unhealthy for a baby
scientists have yet to make a formula that has all the antibodies a mother's milk has for her baby.

Answer 21

I think that is really stupid. Who cares about what her mom did. It has been proven that the best milk for new born babies is the MILK FROM THE MOTHER!

Answer 22

**** that *****..who gives a **** about her

Answer 23

No I dont think that is selfish at all..
Bottle fed babies grow up just the same as breastfed babies
Get over it, its her choice
Also I wasn't breastfed and I'm perfectly normal!

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breastfeeding 15week old bub

Answer 24

They are her children, her breasts, her decision. Plus, I am sure the general public doesn't know the whole story, as usual.

By the way, I am as unbiased as they come here, since I really don't care about her one way or another and I am a mother who couldn't breastfeed the first time, but plans on trying again this time around.

Answer 25

Yes I do. And ignorant too. How can there be so many questions about how it's selfish. It's selfish because she's CHOSING not giving her babies the best. It's one thing to be unable to give the best but to chose not to give the best is selfish and stupid.

Answer 26

I'm not sure the decision was made selfishly. She is probably very uninformed and not very bright. I can't imagine anyone just "choosing" to artificially feed - but there is a strong propaganda war waged by the formula companies on American mothers every day. A lot of moms who don't do their research fall into the trap of believing artificial baby milk is as good as breast milk. Also, Latin women living in the US tend to breastfeed in low numbers. Who knows her real reason, but I feel badly for her babies who are not getting optimal nutrition and immunological benefits. Because they will have superior health care I am sure they will turn out "just fine" - but who knows what allergies and other health problems they will incur over the long term due to not being fed a biologically normal diet during infancy.

Answer 27

i think it is totally her choice just like anyone else, there is no rule or law that says you have to breastfeed

Answer 28

I have a feeling her reasons ran a bit deeper than that... and the fact that her mom didn't breast feed and she turned out okay -well, that's just the reason she gave the press.

we don't know her situation - she might have breast implants that are keeping her from breast feeding, or she might be on medications that pass through the breast milk, or she might have a contagious illness like HIV or Hepatitis or something that would go through the milk, and maybe she just wants to keep whatever her secret is...

Answer 29

OF COURSE it's her choice. I could not breastfeed b/c my meds are secreted in breasmilk. It was MY CHOICE not to change my whole lifestyle and risk my health for some hippie vision of ideal maternal bonding. It is perfectly fine to formula feed a baby. As an actress and singer with a very busy lifestyle, breastfeeding probably is not a very good option for her. It isn't selfish, it's practical and healthy. But whether it is or not is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS.

Answer 30

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i think if she dont want to breastfeed her husband should. it't batter fotr hte bagbies according to dodctors, and it will make the conection with the babies with the papa better.

Answer 31

No, why would it be selfish? It's obviously her decision, and I highly doubt she's going to regret it.