Jennifer Lopez decided not to breastfeed, just because her mom didn't. Do you think that's selfish?

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Just because someone's allowed to make their own choice doesn't mean they made the right one. She's allowed to have her opinion and so is everyone else. Why are people so afraid to disagree with someone these days? "It's her choice" is not an answer. Of course it's her choice, thank you for stating the obvious, I'm interested in your OPINION on not breastfeeding just because you "don't want to" and not giving any regard to the health benefits of breastfeeding the babies are being cheated out of.

Jennifer Lopez is just an example. I read an article where she gave that as her reason.

I think it became out business when she made a public statement about it in a magazine. Do I think it would have been our business otherwise? Probably not. But you guys are really missing the point here. Whether it's Jennifer Lopez or somebody not famous the question is really about whether choosing not to breastfeed without a good health reason (like not being able to produce milk or being on medication that would be harmful to the baby) is a selfish decision.

Answer 1

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geez, you really got attacked on this one!! :(

yes, i do think it's a little selfish. if breastfeeding is the best thing for your child and there's no medical reason that you can't do it, then you should atleast give it a chance.

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Thank you. I agree, to not even give it a try because you think the babies will be fine without it is a very uninformed decision. I hate it when people hide behind that "it's a choice" bull...in my opinion choosing to deprive an infant of the natural antibodies they need is a BAD choice.

Answer 2

its her choice whether she breast feds or not...really it is none of anyones business

Answer 3

Uh, no. How on earth is that selfish??

Answer 4

No her kids=her choice.

Answer 5

I think that it is the wrong reason...(by FAR!)

...but in the end, her choice.

Hope she doesn't regret it.

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ok, then...in my opinion...I think that it is ridiculous to use what your momma did as a reason not to breastfeed. Maybe she is not educated on the benefits of breatfeeding...maybe she just doesn't want to breastfeed. I was totally unaware of how important breast milk was until AFTER I had my baby. Hence my "hope she doesn't regret it" remark. I regret 110% my decision. Some people don't....everyone is going to think differently on this topic as we ALL know.

Answer 6

its her choice, but it is terribly unhealthy for a baby
scientists have yet to make a formula that has all the antibodies a mother's milk has for her baby.

Answer 7

its her choice. dont be a stalker.

Answer 8

no. and its none of our business why or why not she does anything.
< EDIT>>>>hey shes an actress! maybe she doesn't want her boobs to look nasty. whatever her reason is whether its because of her mom or whatever WHO FREKN GIVES A SH**!!!!!!

Answer 9

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i think if she dont want to breastfeed her husband should. it't batter fotr hte bagbies according to dodctors, and it will make the conection with the babies with the papa better.

Answer 10

It's not really anyone's business but no I don't think it's selfish I wouldn't want to either.

Answer 11

If she really didn't want to, no one can make her but she shouldn't use that excuse. I breastfed all my 4 and I can tell you that she is missing out and so our her twins.

Answer 12

No, why would it be selfish? It's obviously her decision, and I highly doubt she's going to regret it.

Answer 13

I thin it is a personal choice. However, it would have been better for the babies to be given breast milk over formula.

Answer 14

I think that is really stupid. Who cares about what her mom did. It has been proven that the best milk for new born babies is the MILK FROM THE MOTHER!

Answer 15

yeah.
thts stupid!

Answer 16

well how can she breastfeed when they'll be with a nanny 24/7?

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breastfeeding mom

Answer 17

They are her children, her breasts, her decision. Plus, I am sure the general public doesn't know the whole story, as usual.

By the way, I am as unbiased as they come here, since I really don't care about her one way or another and I am a mother who couldn't breastfeed the first time, but plans on trying again this time around.

Answer 18

I have a feeling her reasons ran a bit deeper than that... and the fact that her mom didn't breast feed and she turned out okay -well, that's just the reason she gave the press.

we don't know her situation - she might have breast implants that are keeping her from breast feeding, or she might be on medications that pass through the breast milk, or she might have a contagious illness like HIV or Hepatitis or something that would go through the milk, and maybe she just wants to keep whatever her secret is...

Answer 19

Yes I do. And ignorant too. How can there be so many questions about how it's selfish. It's selfish because she's CHOSING not giving her babies the best. It's one thing to be unable to give the best but to chose not to give the best is selfish and stupid.

Answer 20

i think its selfish to judge her on that matter, she has twins and with her life style it might be for the best, just imagine if she is out nursing and having all the photographers taking pics of her.

Answer 21

Well i don't think it's necessary to breast feed...I wasn't breast feed and i'm not going to breast feed my kids when i have them.

I don't think it's selfish, It's her kids and her boobs

Answer 22

i think it is totally her choice just like anyone else, there is no rule or law that says you have to breastfeed

Answer 23

No I dont think that is selfish at all..
Bottle fed babies grow up just the same as breastfed babies
Get over it, its her choice
Also I wasn't breastfed and I'm perfectly normal!

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breastfeeding 15week old bub

Answer 24

I don't agree with her decision but I wouldn't call her selfish. Bottle feeding is the right decision for some situations.

Answer 25

I think breastfeeding is like everything else, a choice. However, basing it off what your mother did seems indecisive.

Answer 26

i know you don't want to hear "it's her choice", but if that's what she is doing then more power to her. i was formula fed and turned out to be fine. sometimes it's just not for certain people. i don't think she's being selfish at all. it seems like breastfeeding has come back after not being so popular at one point, so we should just be happy that there are people who are still doing it. it's whatever works for them.

Answer 27

Jennifer Lopez is not a good example of anything in my opinion. I don't really care how she's feeding her baby.

Answer 28

OF COURSE it's her choice. I could not breastfeed b/c my meds are secreted in breasmilk. It was MY CHOICE not to change my whole lifestyle and risk my health for some hippie vision of ideal maternal bonding. It is perfectly fine to formula feed a baby. As an actress and singer with a very busy lifestyle, breastfeeding probably is not a very good option for her. It isn't selfish, it's practical and healthy. But whether it is or not is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS.

Answer 29

You ARE asking for people's opinions. You are asking whether we think her personal choice was SELFISH or not.

The answer is that EVERY, E-V-E-R-Y decision that has to be made when you have a child is SELFISH. The decision to have a child in the first place is SELFISH. People have children because they want to have children. The world is not going to end if you do not procreate (nor is the human race as there are over 6 billion others on the planet). In fact, the world would be much better off if there were fewer of us around than there currently are. We have children out of a central desire for them. THIS IS SELFISH!

If we choose to breast feed, it is also a selfish decision. If we choose not to breast feed, it is considered a selfish decision. If we use disposable diapers = selfish, cloth diapers = selfish. Baby carrier = selfish, sling = selfish, and the list goes on and on.

We make our decisions because it is what WE WANT. Any benefits of one decision over another don't matter because our primary motivation for choosing what we have is because we want it. Pure and simple selfishness.

So, you ARE asking for our opinion and EVERY choice that you make when you have children is selfish.

Being selfish or making selfish decisions doesn't mean we're bad people. It simply means that we are human.

Peace,
Jenn

Answer 30

I have a question for you....

Why is this world obcessed with what celebrities do??? They entertain us with acting, mucis, and in some rare cases, the celebrity might be someone like a politician, in which case they help to run our government.

Why is it any of our business what they do on their free time if it isn't illegal?? Even if it were illegal, and they do their job properly, why is it that the public should be allowed to know about their PERSONAL life?

Ok... i'm about to go on a rant here, sorry.

People were all pissed off when the Patriot Act went into place because they were going to have their privacy invaded, but then 10 minutes later when that news subject changed they were bitching about how paris hilton is a stupid b^^^^..... Why should it matter what she, or any other celebrity does? It's their life, and let them live it.....

Think about how stressed your life would be if you had people walking around taking pictures of you all day making fun of the way that you laughed and the fact that you had pimples on your face on NATIONAL television... just becuase you posted this question here..... in a sence, you are a minor internet celebrity becuase people here know who you are...

Answer 31

I'm not sure the decision was made selfishly. She is probably very uninformed and not very bright. I can't imagine anyone just "choosing" to artificially feed - but there is a strong propaganda war waged by the formula companies on American mothers every day. A lot of moms who don't do their research fall into the trap of believing artificial baby milk is as good as breast milk. Also, Latin women living in the US tend to breastfeed in low numbers. Who knows her real reason, but I feel badly for her babies who are not getting optimal nutrition and immunological benefits. Because they will have superior health care I am sure they will turn out "just fine" - but who knows what allergies and other health problems they will incur over the long term due to not being fed a biologically normal diet during infancy.