What do YOU consider obsessive?

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with someone..

Answer 1

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there is a difference between regular obsessive and creepy obsessive.

regular obsessive: you cant wait to see them again, you think about them every second of the day, they're your first thought when u wake up and last thought when u go to sleep, you talk about them more than you talk about yourself. you want them to be happy if that means you are a bit less happy at the moment.

creepy obsessive: you keep every single tissue he/she ever blew their nose in. you start planning your lives together 5yrs down the road before your even married and SHOW it to them lol. you have a SHRINE of that person in the back of your closet.

its ok to keep every note you write each other. not ok to keep every peice of trash lol.

its ok to tell everyone u and the other are dating and in love, its not ok to tell everyone u and the other are dating and in love and the other person has no idea what you are talking bout lol.

its ok to massage their shoulders, its not ok to massage their feet and rub their calfs weirdly and when you ask them why they are doing it they simply reply "i like your feet" lol (had that one happen to me)

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haha. thanks :) i don't wanna be "obsessive about my boyfriend" lol but this helped. i am regular obsessive. lol

Answer 2

-Constant texting and phone calls to check up on where you are and what you are doing every hour of the day.
- when your mad at them and refuse to talk to them, they will pop up to your work/ school uninvited.
- checks your fone atleast once a week to see who's been calling
- asks for passwords to mail and messenger, in serious cases DEMANDS the password. but to ask is obsessive enough.
- keeps asking about your past relationship even though you've told him/ her a million times before about them.
- wants DETAILS of daily activity and wouldnt have it any other way.
- gets mad when your out with friends, and later on will slowly pull you away from friends and family.
- thinks their opinion is best and would suggest what job suits you best. In some cases will pressure you to leave your job or not apply to a certain job.
all of these are signs, but keep in mind none of the above are signs of love.

Source(s):

Currently with an obsessive partner

Answer 3

being obsessive is more than just a crush or an infatuation. Obsessive is a break in sanity between the persons reality and the fictionalized reality that they've created with this other individual. there are two important categories amidst other things in a relationship, the first one being your desire for a person. A desire for a person is defined as "to wish or long for; to crave or want." this is what you want to have for that special someone a figment of desire that lets them know they are wanted, thought of, and admired. The other category that people sometimes get misconstrued with is being passionate about a person. Passion is defined as "having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling." This is a very different approach on a relationship, and in fact can be a very negative one. No one should ever in any case be your "Passion," but you should be passionate about something. Does this make sense? For instance i desire my girlfriend, but I'm passionate about photography. The two should be kept very separate in every aspect because once they cross, then obsession is not too far away! If you desire someone, and that person as well is your passion, then you've become obsessed without even know it. In your mind you are just trying to spend time, show affection, and love; but in the mind of the individual they will feel smothered and you'll destroy the relationship from the inside out. So your desire+someone being your passion=Obsession:) hope this helps.

Answer 4

An obsessive person is someone that always wants to be in control in the relationship. An obsessive person will call, text or page you all the time to find out where you are and who you are with. They will drop by when you are at work, just to make sure you are there. If someone looks at you, then they will start a fight thinking you are cheating, when it's most likely that the obsessive person is cheating.

Source(s):

I have been in a relationship where my ex was obsessive.

Answer 5

If you can't live some part of your life without me I most certainly will live all of my life without you. Though I will pay attention and at least act interested when you're telling me about those parts of your life that I simply do not find interesting/enjoyable enough for me to do and I'll even support and encourage you in doing them.

Answer 6

When you stop living your own life and "move in" to theirs. When your entire life is about someone else.

You can be head over heels in love and still maintain your own life, your own interests, your own individuality.

Answer 7

stalking
contantly texting
contstantly msging
catch the person staring at you 24/7
talking to you all the time
asking you awkward questions

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Answer 8

when you think of them 24 -7, and you have to be with them always, you seem to go crazy if you dont see them, when you cant, you have your wall plastered with posters of him, and you have pitchers of him.

Answer 9

When there always calling, always talking about me, never giving me any space, always wanting to hangout, that type of stuff. I hate it when a guy is really clingy like that...makes me feel so claustrophobic.

Answer 10

The constant texting . .

Calling . .

Random "stop-by's" at your house . . .

Answer 11

when you feel like you have ownership think about ,dream , call, email , txt, and keep track of their life

Answer 12

oBSESSIVE IS WHEN SOMEONE DOES NOT LET U LIVE UR OWN LIFE BUT THEY WANT TO LIVE IT WITH YOU, THE WAY YOU DO!

crazy!

Answer 13

More than one phone call per day.

Answer 14

dude, I'm not allowed to make new friends of the opposite sex. =_=