Why do people treat sex like it's a guaranteed relationship sealer?

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I am not saying be a whore, but I know people who had sex on the first date, and are still happily married.

I know people who waited 1 to 3 months, and realized after they had sex they did not want to be with each other because they didn't really like each other.

I know people who have dated for a whole year, did not have sex, and was in counseling within the first two years of marriage.

I know women who say "I was with my husband for 10 years, and didn't realize how much I didn't know him until I got a divorce"

I know men in the church who got married god's way which I do believe is the right way, and now feel like they are trapped in a marriage they don't want to be in because it looks good to the church.

All I am asking is, why do people think sex seals a relationship? There are proving facts that one night stands can result in a marriage, waiting 1 to 6 months can result in a marriage, and 6 months or longer can result in a marriage which at the end of the day all 3 can end in divorce. Does it really matter how long you waited when you get a divorce?

Answer 1

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It depends on the people. I don't believe that sex makes or breaks any relationship but it is supposed to be a very intimate part of the relationship. That is why some girls want to wait, before they share the most intimate part of themselves and their lives with someone they want to know them. And someone who doesn't know the man they married until "after the divorce" is someone who never should have gotten married in the first place. Yeah, sometimes things work out, but true relationships are formed from getting to know someone, and marriages are formed from deciding that after knowing this person, you want to be with them for the rest of your life. When you have sex with someone you feel that way about the experience is completely different then when you have sex for nothing more than the pleasure of it.

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Answer 2

Sex is important in a relationship and if you don't think so then you've never had sex before. The time frame that people choose to have sex is up to each individual, if they want to bang within the 1st 10 minutes then so be it, or if they want to wait 1 year to bang, then so be it.
And if you want to dig really deep into this, sex kind of is a deal breaker...Most men who file for divorce do so because their wife doesnt want to have sex anymore.

Answer 3

Why?


Because its a reflection of their level of maturity.

How many people have you seen here that say they hate their significant other but "they sex is great'?

Anybody can *****. That takes no talent whatsoever. Getting to know someone through listening to them and interacting and asking questions makes the relationship work.

But people prefer to think with their glands....hence the result mentioned.

Answer 4

I have never treated sex as a relationship sealer. I have had a few one night stands and I've waited a year with some. My husband and I slept together on our first date and were just looking for a fling. We happened to click on a lot of different levels, including sexually.

For me, sex is an important part of a relationship, but not the MOST important part.

Answer 5

It really depends on the people involved.. it's different for every relationship, depending on the two individuals. I don't like it when people make assumptions like "they slept together too soon, I give them two months tops" or "good thing they waited til marriage, they'll be together forever!" Those are both generalizations that really aren't true in many cases.

Answer 6

i really dint think it is. i think that girls give their pu*** away because their scared that their man might leave. its only a fake

Answer 7

I forget where I heard this but it was possibly on discovery channel {I could be wrong} but it appears people and dolphins are the ONLY mammals to engage in sex for " fun". love does not need sex to exist " I am proof:(" sex is for procreation ! unless a man and woman are making other people ? then it is for pleasure ...
To base a long term relationship on what the sex is like is a divorce waiting to happen "sex will not last forever" age and health they cause changes . not to mention injury! so any reasonable adult who commits to another person for life can not run the devotion on sex alone . In the event that they are together for added reasons and sex winds down those two who have other things to hold their devotion to their partner can get through it . As apposed to the couple who build with sex for sex and commit for the great sex ...have nothing else to be all in for when it slacks off or goes away. Divorce!

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