Why does a guy feel the need to pick on me for wearing CONTACTS?

Question

I was hanging out with my crush. He's 19.

He was just sitting there staring at me without blinking and all of a sudden he's like "Oh! So you wear eye contacts? I didn't know." and then he totally gets in my face and kind of snarls at me and says "I don't have to wear contacts for my eyes and you know why, Jessica? Because my eyes are perfect, unlike yours."

Why does he feel the need to say that to me?

Answer 1

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either he was trying to be funny with dry comedy which sometimes gets lost in translation when you have feelings for the person directing the joke, normally something you would just bat off is taken to heart because you care about their opoinion of you so much, and if the only comment he makes to you about your appearence is negative, whether it was meant for comic effect or not, will be registered in your mind to be mallicious.

sometimes guys just don't think! If wearing contacts bothers you (i mean affects your self-esteem and btw there is nothing wrong with them or glasses) and he doesn't know it bothers you then his comment, from his perspective, has no nasty merit to it. He may actually believe your eyes are beautiful and so thinks that making fun of them wouldn't bother you at all.

it all depends on your relationship. I'd say if you've been friends for some time then he didn't mean to hurt you, but he has and you should let him know so it doesn't become part of his regular chat! Now, if you don't know him too well, and vice versa, then his comments were just plain and simply out of order, he has no right to speak to you like that, you need to know someone properly to set the context and limits of what you do and don't say to each other, like a social contract and he said it because putting others down gives makes him feel better about himself a.k.a a bully. in which case you should move on and waste no time on him, you deserve better!

but you will know if this is the case. if it helps I used to make jokes about my girlfriend becoming fat, now I only did it because she is NOT fat, or even close to it, but she can eat like a horse haha. little did I know she was feeling crap about this until she said to me. I was in shock, totally horrified that she thought i was serious because in my head she is absolutely breathe taking and I'd never change her appearence! so, as you can see it may be a matter or perceptions and perspectives, and more importantly your self-perception!

hope this helps!

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ddd

Answer 2

He doesn't sound very mature

Answer 3

he probably is flirting

Answer 4

because hes an idiot.

Answer 5

Because he's a prat! Get another boyfriend..

Answer 6

sounds lke hes just joking around with you

Answer 7

he was prob flirting

a wuld av went " yeah really, so how many fingers am a holding up DUMBAS :P haa