Was he cheating all along?

Question

Okay, so I met this guy about a month ago at my college. We were talking for a month and became official last week. He had a so-called ex girlfriend who went away to college, but she was also someone he really cared about. I told him before we started going out to talk to her and let her know that you have someone, and to just make sure you both are on the same terms when it comes to seeing other people. So I log on to aim and I see his icon is a picture of some girl and him kissing! I'm assuming it's his ex but I'm not sure. All I know is that the girl in the picture is not me. I'm not sure what to do about this. In my mind there is no explanation for something like that, and there's nothing to tell me. That to me is all the evidence I need...I really do not want to talk to him about it and just cut ties but...I would really appreciate some advice on this...thanks

Additional Details

His icon had to have been changed today because the day before it was a cartoon character.

I just feel that no matter how old the picture is it shouldn't be coming to surface right now, unless they have something still going...and thanks everyone for the help...

Answer 1

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Just ask the boy.

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Sometimes the best thing to do is just ask...thanks for the simplicity of your help.

Answer 2

If he's been on since you guys got together..... He has no excuses. If he has the time to aim... He definately has the time to change his icon picture. If he hasn't been on..... Then its not his fault. He just hasn't had the time to change it.

Answer 3

you realy need to talk to him maybe the girl in the pic is his sister not that he kisses his sister but you should get the answer from him of who it is and why it is there if you fill like he is lieing to you cut him off

Answer 4

Perhaps he just hadn't thought of changing his icon since he and his ex broke up, if he hasn't been on AIM. However, you will never know for sure, even if you ask him, since he could simply lie. Personally, I would break off this relationship with him and not risk it, before you're with him long enough to really get your heart involved. Good luck, and I hope I helped.

Answer 5

I would be soo mad if i was you and you have every right to be mad, Ask him an explantion and if he doesn't give you a resonable answer ditch his sorry ***.


I'm sure your a nice girl and you could do so much more better.

Answer 6

Well... being a man I know how jealous a woman can be and many times only for little things like this. How old is the picture? did he created the profile when he was dating that other girl? maybe he hasn't had the time to update one with you. If he is with you is because he cares about you. You can also ask his friends, his sister (if he has one)... ask him if he loves you. I picture in a social site means nothing... don't sweat this stuff.

Answer 7

How recent is the picture?Talk to his family and friends and others who know him but do not particularly like him.

Answer 8

Chances are a picture cant really tell you the history it could have been years before meeting you or maybe it is recent. But don't get mad till you know the history and when it was taken ask his friends or his siblings but go to him first. He should be the first person to talk to before just assuming the picture. It could also be a red flag and sometimes they turn out right but don't just assume. Find out facts because sometimes we jump to the negative to fast before the positive. It could just be a old old picture unless their is a date on it. Don't jump to conclusions just yet. Because you might might have an honest guy and you dumped him. Unless you have Proof your self that he is lying. then dump him just get the facts before judging.