My husband owes his exwife alot of money for back child support. is it possible for her to "forgive " his debt?

Question

can his debt be legaly "forgiven" or wipped out? even if he has been ordered by a court? if so how would one go about doing this?

Answer 1

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No.....not legally. Once child support is filed in the court system, during the finalization of a divorce, the state has it filed in the "child support enforcement" division. Once this is done, it is required by law to pay the amount due, for the child/children, each month.
His ex has no say as to whether or not the support should or would be paid......it is up to the state. Your husband can file "hardship" papers through the state and they will find a way for him to pay the child support.

My brother-in-law went through this with a child that was 21 years old and he hadn't seen her in 20 years......he didn't even know where she was. The state of Michigan came after him for $55,000 in back child support and a warrant for his arrest. He lived in Florida at the time. He is still working to pay that child support off. And any Federal taxes that he and my sister get, go to the back child support. And any and all vehicles, houses,....etc....have liens put on them by the state until the child support is paid in full. He did file a hardship request and they have worked with him. But he will never get out of it. Lesson learned.

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former paralegal & my sister and bro-in-law's experience

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thank you,for not being like all the others, that jumped to say" dead beat dad" my husbands story is simlar to your bro in law. i just wanted a few answers not condemation. thank you you answer was helpful.

Answer 2

I am still trying to find logic in any woman who 'forgives' a debt of child support. Why should she? He produced the children as well as she did and he is financially obligated to help provide for the children. For you or your deadbeat husband to ask her to forgive this debt is irrational, irresponsible, ignorant and you both are obviously unaware of what it costs to raise children...which i find extremely sad. You ought to be ashamed of yourself and embarrased for even asking a question of the sort.

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I have just taken my ex back to court for non-payment of child support, medical needs and school supplies...next time for him is 6 months imprisionment...

Answer 3

Sorry to burst your bubble but that is a debt to his children, not his wife! If you want a man that can afford to wine and dine you, choose a man without kids. She needs that money for THEIR KIDS. So quit crying because child support is not a debt like a little family loan, it is HIS OBLIGATION! Not a debt!! Grow up and I hope one day you are not a wife with children that needs the father to man up and pay! He owes because he didn't man up and pay. Do you want to have children with a dead beat dad that can't even support his own kids? Start fresh and meet a man without kids.

Answer 4

If its court ordered then he has to pay it. If he doesn't he can go to jail or when he files income taxes the whole check could go straight to her. She could also make it that it get deducted straight from his work check. It better to just take care of it because if not when they do catch up to him its gona be a lot more money to pay off.

Answer 5

The two of them would have to go to court together where she would then state that she does not want his back child support and the judge will make the final decision on whether or not it'll be granted.

If she's on any kind of public assistance, it definitely won't happen.

Answer 6

We don't pay child support as we have custody of my husband's two children but we pay substantial 'maintenance' to his first wife, every month on the dot because that's what the Court ordered. You are suggesting that your husband should try to wriggle out of paying child support - shame on you!

Answer 7

Oh that's a sticky one. Why would he not pay child support in the first place. Not to discourage you honey but what would you do if you were in the place of the other woman? He's done it once there's no way to tell he won't do it again and you may this time be on the receiving end. Think a little.

Answer 8

If it is court ordered, she can no longer leally wipe it. Laws have changed now, she doesn't have the option, though I can't fathom why should would ever want to. He owes his children support. Child support services will collect it whether she wants them to or not until it is paid in full.

Answer 9

And why the hell should his debt be wiped out? Its his child, he should of been paying child support!

I really hope that this dosent happen and he has to pay the full amount, like he should do anyway! If you cant afford kids you shouldnt have them, seperated or not.

Answer 10

so, you have a dead beat dad as a husband.
what kind of husband is he gonna make, when he can't even follow through the responsibility of taking care of his own child?

Answer 11

Nope. And that's a debt that shouldn't be forgiven. You want a husband with disposable income? Then don't marry a deadbeat.

Answer 12

Child support means you support your child or children, WHY shouldn't he pay.

Answer 13

His child .his obligation ,what type of a man wouldn't want to anyway !!!! Karma !!

Answer 14

Not if she's smart.

Answer 15

Yeah , she can forget about it ... but I doubt that'll happen anytime soon .