10 POINTS! FIRST TIME RELATIONSHIPS! HELP!?

Question

So im,a 14 year old, male. :/

First time relationship? Yes I've been worried a lot and Ive liked this girl for along time and Im afraid she may the only girl I like out of the high school.

So I need advice please.
Im worried about messing everything up.
Ive got alot of casual stuff about her from her mates like fave food and drink etc.

I'm the type of shy person and I don't know whether I should get her friend to ask?

I've got a nice social life but when it comes to relationships I become shy and all nervous. I don't want to pull off anything fancy to impress her. I just want to love her and cherish her. Hug her, Hold hands, etc.

I just need a few advice on how to get rid of my shyness and show her some curtousy and love towards a relationship.

Also when we look at each other we turn away quickly in lessons and stuff. Is this a sign of your a freak or she's shy too?

Thank you.
Hope to read your answers!

10 minutes ago
You've read my life issue.

THE QUESTION IS -
I need guidance or advice to make a first relationship work? Please can you relate to my life issue also.

Answer 1

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Being in a relationship is a skill, like any other social skill. You learn as you go along. At a general level, relax. Being constantly stressed is not good for either you or your relationship. Use this as a way of learning how to open up to women. Open up and be social with women other than your girlfriend too. This is a great opportunity to work on your social skills. If you can talk to women WHEN you have a girlfriend, you can also talk to women after you have a girlfriend. This takes the pressure off your relationship, because you'll come to realize that you have MANY options when it comes to dating.

IN your relationship. Let her have her space. When you're together, be attentive, but don't be smothering. BE the man, don't just act like the man. Make decisions when you get into the inevitable, "I don't know, what do you want to do" discussions. If necessary, provide protection for her, even if it means having to leave before trouble starts. If you need to decide what to do, sometimes it helps to ask what Antonio Banderas would do, (or his movie characters anyway, since we really don't know the man himself). If you can't picture Antonio doing it, you might consider avoiding the behavior yourself.

IF your relationship fails, as most eventually do, simply move on. I know she seems like the only girl you'll ever get, but trust me on this, there are MANY different girls who would be thrilled to be in a relationship with you. I hope this one works out, since there is a special bond with the first girl you date, but don't cling to her as if she's the only option you'll ever have.

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Thank you very much. In the end it was a wrong idea. I guess moving on makes me feel better. Thanks again!