I'm seen as a nice guy, however will i get anywhere with them?

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Im in college at the moment, and my course has 28 people. 26 of those are girl , me and one other lad-though he is gay. So in effect, people say especially my old high school mates, wow you are lucky! However, whilst hanging around with them now for 4 weeks, i have learned sooo much about girls now, as in my high school my group was just lads as mates. Now though, i do like some of them , as in like/love them more than a mate, but cannot tell them that though. In college, i try to be nice, friendly as can be towards them, i am flirty, but never tease them or annoy them. I ask to carry their stuff occasionally, when she needs the toilet i would go and wait outside for her etc. She does have a boyfriend, ( Thats one of the great things about being good friend with a girl, they trust me. Tell me about their boyfriend, what gets on their nerves, the texts they send, and even their secrets. They was joking about someone in our class, they did not show the other lad, but when i asked they did show me.) ANYWAYS, if or when she breaks up with her bf, trust me it has come close, i would deffo support her, and would not want to ask her out straight away. 2 days ago whilst sat down at lunch, her mate said wow you two would look great as a couple, i didnt know what to say lol. She said what him , as there was lots of people, then she said im going out with someone. IM JUST CONFUSED , most girls go for a bad boy look, i just prefer being nice and flirty, i hang around with her everywhere, sitting next to her etc, if she does break up, i dont want to ask her out for fear of losing her.... What should i do ??

Answer 1

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as a young woman, women love the nice guys. you just happen to be, sorry, but kind of too nice lol. if you want to show her the bad boy in you, stick up for her whenever possible, let her see you hang out with the "bad boys". but beware, if you actually hang out with them, there could be a chance they will rub off on you. but honestly, if the girl is worth it, she will love you for who you are (the flirty nice guy) and if she does break up with her boyfriend, give her some time to heal (obviously) and think if you want to ask her out because you really like her or just dont want her out of your life. if the answer is the first one, then just go for it. life is too short :) i hope that helps a little

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Answer 2

i think,you if that girl leaves her bf, i dont think u should get together with that girl.. if you get togther, trust me you guys will not be as close as when you guys are friends.besides,you still have 26 other girls to go..actually i do have a very close "girl friend" ,eventhough i knowmany secrets about her, but i dont think is right to get to together,because im affraid it will ruin our friendship. if you think you really really like ,than just go for it, but triust me you guys gonna have alot of problem.!!

Answer 3

u still a virgin?=)if so get laid and get more balls to just go up and talk to one of them. remember theres plenty of fish in da sea, so if one turns u down dont get dissipointed just go hit on a different one its collage bro one of em if not a bunch will be bound to like you. im 16 and get laid when ever i want some cuz i just strait up ask or ask to go on a date and usually get some at her crib or at mine at the end of the night. be confident chicks dig that.

Answer 4

Try to get over her as soon as you can. She has a boyfriend and presumably she's happy with him - you're being incredibly selfish.

With regards to the whole "nice guy" thing, are you being nice to her for the sake of getting with her? If so, you're a stereotypical "nice guy" in that you're a complete ****.

By the way, the reason that girls seem to date "bad boys" isn't because they're unkind. Most girls do not want to date a ****. However, they don't want to go out with someone who's insecure, desperate or needy - they'd rather date someone who's assertive and self-confident, qualities which "nice guys" do not usually possess.

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