He believes rumors over me? I really didn't do anything! help please!?

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jerry - my best friend in the whole world.me and him like each other as more then friends.

bob-my friend i just met this year.he tells me everything.but i don't tell him anything about me.I don't trust him.But his been threw a lot and he just needs someone to talk to.his a player and is all the time joking around with me saying me and him need to get together and everything.

They hate each other.Jerry is jealous of bob.Jerry tells me all the time that he thinks i like bob and etc.But i really don't.I like jerry so much. There was some rumors that went around that i was trying to touch bob's **** during class and a lot more. Jerry heard them and he was mad about it. We started talking again after a couple days of not talking. But yesterday he bought it up again saying that i did do it. He don't believe i didn't do it. He said he thinks i like bob and everything. I was going to stop being friends with bob a couple weeks ago because he was just coming in between me and Jerry, but bob said it was jerry's fault at the time and went to fight him. I jumped in the middle of them and said no, and talked to him. I had to be his friend or he was going to get Jerry suspend. ( he plays sports, he can't get suspended)
What do i do? Is jerry just hurt from it all? I really didn't do those things.I don't feel anything for anybody but jerry!

Answer 1

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Bob might be a guy who needs someone to talk to and needs help and sympathy, but he is jeopardizing your relationship with someone you really care about. You have said that you don't trust him and that he makes advances towards you.

I think if you put yourself in Jerry's position for a minute it might help you understand. What if Jerry started hanging out with a questionable girl. (Maybe imagine someone at your school who you don't like and is sorta a female-player/ho). All the time, Jerry swears that he and this other girl are just friends, but they hang out and joke ALOT. One day you hear a rumor that Jerry was trying to touch her ta-tas in the gym. What would you think?

If Bob is the kind of person who says, "You have to be my friend OR ELSE I will do something horrible to you (getting Jerry suspended)" then you need to stop being his friend! What kind of friend would do that to you?! Can you imagine if he ever became your boyfriend- how controlling he would be? He takes from you and doesn't care who he hurts and will do anything to get what he wants! You are enabling him, by continuing to put up with his behavior! He is bad news.

Talk to Jerry. Tell him you only want him and will stop hanging out
with Bob. AND STOP HANGING OUT WITH HIM- For real!

Good luck

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thanks.i'm going to end the friendship with bob.

Answer 2

Well talk to Jerry one on one and tell him all of this. Tell him how you feel about him and that you would never do anything with Bob. Maybe if you just got everything out in the opened and explained things he would understand. Hope this helps. Email me if you need anything.

Bella

Answer 3

You have to sit down w/ both of them.
Tell Jeremy your not going to talk to Bob and invite him to a movie.
Tell Bob to knock it off and that your not talking to him
(he sounds like a jerk, any guy who wants to fight one of my guy friends shouldn't hang w/ me.)
:P

Answer 4

make jerry change his mind. try to show that you like only him and NOT bob. And tell bob that you can't be a friend to him any more and ignore him everytime if he come to you. I hope jerry soon forget about that dirty rumor

Answer 5

If he doesn't trust you enough to believe silly rumors than you don;t have a relationship because a relationship is built upon trust

Answer 6

Tell Jerry what you just told us at the end! If he really likes you he will believe you. Explain to him that it's just a rummor.

Answer 7

you don't need them in your life!!