Is it fair for my friend to hate me because I didn't tell her this?

Question

Okay, before I say anything I do not want people to judge me because of how stupid my Mom is, because it isn't my fault.

So my Mom has been to jail over 20 times, (She has got serious issues with identity theft, stealing, bla bla bla) and has cheated on my Dad. My Dad didn't want people to think bad of him so he was a bit stupid and went to the gas station, only to see my friend's aunt there. He told her the whole story, and she seemed like she was okay with it. She said, "Oh yeah yeah we don't hate you, it's Brenda (my Mom) we don't like." Of course she didn't know about the jail and everything until my dad had told her. Anyway, my friend is always asking to hang out, to go out together for Halloween, she is always texting me, whatever. Now I'm the on who has to text HER, and whenever I do she hardly ever responds, and when she does she just says all that she absolutely has to, like when I ask her something. The conversation always stops short. She used to always be hyper and show emotion in her texts, and put smiley faces and all, but not any more. She is never busy. Oh, and did I mention that I didn't tell her about my Mom?

She is mad at me about that. I didn't ask her, I just know because I did nothing else and as I said, she is never busy. Please don't tell me to make sure first, because I KNOW. This isn't like her.

Is it fair for her to be mad at me over this? Because first of all, it's embarrassing. Second, I've only known her for a year. I think that conversation should be brought up at a more appropriate time. Not within a year. Do you think this is fair? Sorry it's so long.

Answer 1

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I had a friend like that to and my mom has been in jail and prison 21 years total out of my 22 years of living she is always in and out to get out for a week and she back in jail.. I know how you feel I don't like broadcasting it to all my friends neither and i had a friend that got mad at my over it before to and it is stupid if she is really such a good friend she wouldn't get mad over something like that and needs to but herself in your shoes. I know its embarrassing and you don't want people to judge you cause of it i explained that to my friend and she was over it maybe you should try the same thing good luck

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Thank you both. I would try to tell her about the situation, but she wouldn't understand. She'd give me the "But best friends tell each other everything!" excuse. Oh well. I guess she wasn't a good friend. I've still got other friends who will support me <:) Thank you for understanding.

Answer 2

if she was a real good friend she would know to respect you and your situation. it is your business and not hers. i mean i know friends tell each other things but there are some things that take a while to talk about. she obviously doesn't care to much about you feelings if she is doing this.