Why do men cheat when they are married?

Question

I have been married for twenty years. My husband has been working out of town for almost a year, comes home ever other week, and i go see him. I know that he has been acting different lately. I know that he is looking for another woman where he is staying, i don't know if it is because he is bored with me or we are not in love anymore? I get lonely too alot. i am not trying to find someone else like he is. Trying to move on. Don't know for sure what to do. I know that half the men that are in this company cheat on their wifes and girlfriends because of the time away from their home and family.I feel when he is here things aren't the same, i wish he would open up to me, but he keeps it all inside. What should i do?

Answer 1

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Join the club - all men never or hardly open up. My hubby is the same away.

I'm married 21 yrs.

He's probably cheating or going to be.

Try separating - men need kicked in their head. Maybe he'll notice something bothering you when you leave. Who knows

Probably he's going through MALE MENOPAUSE.

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I think he feels i don't appreciate him and i don't care enough. If he would talk to me instead of keeping it all inside i would know. I feel sad for this lack of communication, for being married for twenty years. I hope we can get through this.

Answer 2

Cheating has nothing to do with being married or not. The cheater is selfish and doesn't care how many people he or she hurts with cheating. It's all about what the cheater wants. They think they will only hurt the spouse....wrong.....they hurt kids, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors and co-workers. It's all about what the cheater wants. And this doesn't change. If the cheater is caught, they will only be more careful next time.

Answer 3

Men cheat becuase they feel like what they have is old news. They want something newer. Show him how much you care for him, and be a bit spontaneous at times. Even if he hasn't told you he is cheating on you which he probably won't but try to show him that you are better than the other girl.

Hope it helps.
Good luck.

Answer 4

People cheat because they want to.
They cheat on "good" spouses and "bad" ones.
They cheat because THEY WANT TO, so they DO.
Go talk to a therapist about it, because trying to *understand* it would really be like trying to understand the migratory patterns of unicorns.
Hang in there, Honey.
xoxoxoxoxo

Answer 5

have a serious talk with him, and let him know how you feel, and tell him that you are lonely too, but will not look for another. listen to what he says, if he is willing to cheat on you, you are better off leaving him, its not worth it

Answer 6

They know they can do it, there selfish, horny, ungreatful and they think you'll forget about it and divorce is a big thing so they think you wouldnt consider it

Answer 7

Really seek some counseling. Together but, if he is not willing, go yourself. It can really help build self-esteem.

Answer 8

For sex and variety

Answer 9

Who cares why?

If he's cheating, and you know it, do something!

Answer 10

why do women cheat when they are married?

Answer 11

Men cheat because it´s in our nature. Surely ,you didn´t expect him to only sleep with you for the rest of his life. Helllllooo. You´re on Earth. We are humans. All men in their right mind will cheat. Most of the time it has nothing to do with whether they are in a relationship/ marriage. We do it because we want to and we don´t telll our partners because fro one we don´t want the drama and secondly sometimes marriage offers some advantages such as : The p**ssy is always there just in case we can´t find any strays at the time. Additionally, sometimes after being married it´s cheaper to keep her. You women are so naive. Why are you out there getting married any damn way ? No where in any religious book ,is there a passage which states you have to get married. Now you´re hurt. Well, Mrs. whatever your name is; I respectfully suggest that you first get your body in shape and put them legs up for another man who´ll give you the attention that you think you deserve.

Answer 12

I would think its because they no longer love or value their wife, a man will act differently towards his wife when he is seeing someone else. I think men cheat because they have a desire to and someone makes themselves available to them. Some men have low self Worth's and having someone new interested in them is a big ego booster, making them feel young and desired again. When it happened to me i suggested therapy which he refused because he wanted to be with her, she was younger, she liked to smoke dope like he did she represented his youth i guess. I imagine he looked back on his life and felt it wasn't what he expected. I decided to get a divorce because once they begin to cheat they rarely just stop. He doesn't value you or respect you, maybe he doesn't even like himself as was the case with my ex husband. They seek validation in someone else rather than work on what they have because they are selfish and their wants come before the wife's.

Answer 13

Men always try to be manly and act strong and independent and like they don't need anyone but their Selves. when men actually want to feel wanted and needed. They always need the other person they don't have to act strong to or in front of !! and just be themselves and loving =)
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so while your in a different city hes in another alone with no one to love or be with so he looks for someone to take your place while your not there.
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You should just move to that city with him or love your man good; cause hes gonna end up cheating on you.
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men are like animals if you don't give them the food they go somewhere elss looking.

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