Why does married life get so boring?

Question

Is this true? I mean most of my friends who are married tend to talk without excitement about their lives having family.

Like this friend of mine who when I asked him how he and his family was he said "Oh, we are just dealing with daily stuff, school, work, the usual". I mean he and many others used to say how happy they were at the beginning or when single. I'm single myself, so I would like to know if we all end up talking like that or is it that these people aren't having the right family life? What to do to maintain the bliss?

Answer 1

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Married life doesn't have to be boring, it is only when the people don't try to keep life upbeat. Sure it is the same person that you go to bed with, but that can be exciting if you make it that way. Kids can bring such joy, but it also means a strong commitment to each other to give them a happy life. It sounds like your friend needs to make some date nights with his wife like he did when he was single. they are still the same people as before only they have settled down to a routine and should spice it up between the two of them.

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Thanks, I think you are right!

Answer 2

Ive been married since 16 and my marriage is ANYTHING but boring, my husband and i laugh on a daily basses, we make jokes, we tease each other, and we watch our daughter grow.
The key is to live your life up! Just because your married doesn't mean the flirting should go away. You should still flirt, and be goofy!
Hell, my husband and i Still make fun of each other!
We enjoy our lives because life is to short to be anything but happy!

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lillian is growing beautifully!

Answer 3

It is said "it takes two people to make a heaven but h**l can be accomplished by one" I interpret this as both have to work to put something of value into a marriage before anything good comes from it. After a few years dealing with everyday things becomes automatic you understand each other better as time goes on and soon being apart is a trial and tribulation. Speaking for myself after twenty some odd years of happy marriage.

Answer 4

it takes ALOT of work. we've only been married ~2 yrs, and have a baby now. the sex is a HUGE thing that goes down, way down, and one of the first things to go down, especially when you get pregnant, gain weight. and then mom instincts kick in and all of our love and energy go to the baby before hubby. men get insecure, confused. the sexual frustration can sometimes affect everything else!!

Answer 5

yep if you get married you will end up talkng like that, that is beeing married! I am married and me and my husband alwasy tlak like that when people ask us how we are doing, it is not fun or exiting it is monotone and boring and sometimes annoying. who ever that says it is great they are lying.

Answer 6

it takes work to keep a hoaapy and exciting marriage we have been married for over 31yrs and still very mcuh in love and we always find time for date night if u dont be care ful everthing can weigh u down and life gets too busy and u dont have real time foreach other and thats not good go out as a couple go out with friends but dont let life get boring its your choose

Answer 7

Hmm. It is a tough thing, but if you can be with one person for so many years, it is a great accomplishment. If things get stale, liven them up. I think that having a friendship is the most important of any relationship. Respect one another, learn new hobbies...

Answer 8

Thats just married life cause thats what you do ! its a whole new routine work kids school but you ask any single person what they did over the weekend an they will say clubbing drinkin sleepin its just life really ? so thats why people say make the most of it while your young ???

Answer 9

Because you run out of stories, and the "spark" goes away. You have nothing left to talk about, you get sick of it and bored

Answer 10

I like this saying: Boredom comes from a boring mind. It stops me from relying on other people to entertain me. If I feel bored, I do something about it.

Answer 11

Not true.........Im married and im a wild and crazy guy..but most of all i do spend most of my time with my children and wife but on our time we go out and club as usual as if we where single :)

Answer 12

Because it's the same thing every day and you need something to spice things up.

Answer 13

I am not married and it is called life I think.

Answer 14

who knows

Answer 15

it dont

Answer 16

Well, I've seen married couples or just relationships in general that seem boring and make me wonder why they are together. I've also seen couples that have been married many many years and still laugh and love each other. Loving your spouse is a choice. You're supposed to show them love them first and they respond with love back- not the other way around. How many marriages would be thriving if they chose to show love to the other person first instead of complaining that they never receive it?

I am in a relationship with a man that God set up for me. I used to pick out these horrible guys until one day I finally decided to let God choose for me. I did that and God sent me this amazing, super hot, smart, really funny guy that adores and loves me so much (he actually waited 6 months for me before we started dating). While we were dating I used to feel sorry for other couples because it seemed like they would settle for someone, or think they can't get any better. I did not settle- I was given the best!

I've only been married for a few days now, but I know that daily we are going to have to choose to walk in love and do things to make each other feel loved. I also know we are going to continue to date each other as long as we are both breathing.

You are the one that decides how great you want your relationship /life to be. You can't base it off on circumstances either. Just make a choice that you will be happy with your life no matter what happens.

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My experience and life in general

Answer 17

marriage only gets boring if you let it. If you put the effort your supposed to into it and maintain your individuality still, then married life is far from boring.

I have four kids so yes a lot of my time is spent caring for them and working and it takes effort not to get caught up in that alone, but if you do I promise the excitement stays. Its up to the couple make the most of it and not get caught up in just 'getting through each days crap'.

I still have fun, laugh and muck around with my husband as much today as I did when we met. Our schedule is different but nothing else.

Answer 18

Everything in life is what you make it, what you put into it. Of course someone who has been married for a good number of yrs. cannot be compared to a newly married couple. It just doesn't happen that way. But a couple CAN be happy at any age, it's all in what you put into it as what you get out of it. My daughter has been married for 12 yrs. & has a happy marriage. They do not have any children, but do take a vacation away from home EVERY yr. She plans their vacation mons. ahead, they do have a couple dogs who are their "boys". She finds homes they can rent where they can take the dogs w/them as they are small doxys & don't make "hair ball" messes all over to have to worry about cleaning up after. But they MAKE their lives happy. Do go out & eat whenever they want, & all in all have a comfortable but happy life together. So as w/everything else in life, you get out of it just what you put into it. As long as you have your health, at least you can keep going & doing special things from time to time...best to you...:)

Answer 19

If people would spend more time dating they might have a better marriage. Dating is all about seeing if you can stay with the other person the rest of your life or not. These days too many people get married just to have kids or they THINK they are in love. I once got married after 5 months of dating. I knew nothing about her and consequently got divorced. Since then I've had one rule and that's if a girl can stick with me for more than two years I'll marry her. One made it 22 months and then cheated. The one I'm with now has been with me for three years. We are happy and we aren't going to be married but we are buying a house together. I know I'm going to die before her so it's going in her name.

Boring is what you make it. I you can't bring new things into the marriage every once and a while then of course it's going to be boring. You need to do new things together to keep it exciting.

Answer 20

Only for people who stupidly get married.