What to do for friend on anniversary of her father's death?

Question

My best friend's father was murdered three years ago, and the anniversary of his death is coming up in the middle of November and I was trying to come up with some ideas as to what I could do for her and her family. I'm very close with them, but it's hard to think of something, given the situation. Does anyone have any ideas about what I could do?

Thank you!

Additional Details

WHOA. Some people are taking a nice gesture as something mean. There's a nice way to explain how you feel, making someone feel as if they're doing something bad, when only trying to help, isn't it. I in no way shape or form meant as a way to "celebrate" I simply only wanted ideas as to what I could do for her that day to get her mind off of it.

Answer 1

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Maybe you could go somewhere where they went with her dad that she remembered really well, bring back some good memories. focus on the great times they had together and not on the the ones they could have missed. I wouldnt go somewhere just to take thier mind off him, that could upset them, like they feel thier forgetting him. It's a good idea to do somthing for them, let them remember that even without their dad they are still loved.what a nice thing to do! :)

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Thank you, someone who understood the question!

Answer 2

wow... isn't that something you shouldn't want to remind her of? It's not something to celebrate. It's hard enough when we remember the date a loved one died, but we honor those days with memories. We don't celebrate it. That's very private and very personal. She needs to have time with her own thoughts, not people doing things to remind her. Just be there for her if she needs you, or if she needs to be alone, respect that. That's about the best thing you could do

Answer 3

My best friend's son died four years ago (he was only 3 years old). I text her every year on the day he passed to say "thinking of you". That's it. I don't call her or show up at her house. Its a day she spends with her family to remember her son. If she wants to talk she calls me.

Answer 4

help them remember his life and the good job he did creating a family, letting the second of his death overshadow the years of his life is an injustice to them

Answer 5

Leave them alone. That's not something you try to celebrate or remind people of. Let them be a family and do whatever they wish on that day.

Answer 6

Invite them over to your house and make them dinner. Have a good time but also remember what happened. Be there for them