Am i wrong !! SHE BITCHES ALL THE TIME..?

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hi im 22 with 2 kids and i one on the way. my wife has depression and i work. me and my wife have been threw alot with each other to be so young. she bitches ALL THE TIME ABOUT LITTLE ****. about me taking out the trash, me cleaning the house, me helping with the kids ect. i think i do my part with the kids but the house is always dirty because the kids. i do clean but when i come home the house is a mess. she could at least keep it clean into i get home then i can do my part. when i tell her she says she watches the kids all day. but when i come home i be tired. so the first thing i do when i get home is not clean. she hates me because i cheated on her 3 years ago and we been together 5 years. she never got over it. does she have a good reason to ***** ALL THE TIME.!!!

Answer 1

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Ok well first screw you for cheating on her. But it was her choice to stay with you anyway, so I can't feel too bad for her. Secondly, I have 1 child, my husband works and there are some days he gets home and the house is a mess. She has 2 children & she's pregnant. I think she's most likely very overwhelmed. I am overwhelmed sometimes with 1, I couldn't imagine her situation. And while I am grateful that my husband works to support us, I still wish he would help out more around the house when he is home. Not do everything, but do more than he's doing. I don't bitc* to him the second he walks in the door. I usually ask him for more help when he has his days off. Maybe if you try to step it up a little at home without her asking, she'll back off. Do the dishes without being asked. Help the kids pick up the toys before bed. Vaccuum the living room when she's in the shower to surprise her. Little things really do add up.

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thank you

Answer 2

Try birth control...please.

Answer 3

You probably hurt her really bad. If you really loved you, I doubt you would have cheated on her.

And there's this thing called hormones. They tend to go full blown while a womans pregnant.

Just be nice and do what she asks.

Answer 4

yes, what an unhealthy relationship

Answer 5

I'd b*tch a lot too if I had 2.5 kids at your age...that's young to be married at all, much less to have half the Brady Bunch.

You both have valid gripes but your situations are self-made. You two chose to make babies and marry young and do the "grown up" thing...so take responsibilty for your home and family (both of you) and act grown up.

Perhaps couples counseling could help. You could both discuss, in a controlled environment, how you feel about the situation and why...and the counselor could help you two find ways to work through your issues that both of you would feel are fair so neither feels they are having to do more than the other or being unfairly burdened.

Good luck...I think you shall need it.

Answer 6

I feel for the kids.

Answer 7

being home with 3 kids is not easy. you should help. i know you're tired. she may be as well. both of you need to come together. your job doesn't stop when you have kids. it's not a 9 to 5.

give the kids a room to play in. have them play there and only there. that will help with toys all over the house. how old is your oldest child? think about putting the oldest in a part time pre school. 3 days a week or so.

please stop having kids. you are way too young to have 3.

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

Maybe she's mad because you are keeping her knocked up all the time. Birth control should be in the foreseeable future.

Answer 10

Well i think she needs a break- do you let her go out? She also probably has trust issues with you. It's a fulltime job being a mom. Just sit down and talk it out, at least for the kids. You want them to grow up right, she probably is lazy because she has given up, and doesn't feel good about herself. Just love her and let her know you appreciate her and quit making babies, especially if you are not happy together! Good luck!

Answer 11

You're not even mature enough to be in a relationship let alone parenting.

Answer 12

You need to control your fertility. YOU both are two YOUNG to be acting so childish. You both took on grown up issues and responsibilities too soon. You're lazy, inconsiderate to the needs of your family, careless (because you're producing children you can't handle or afford) and sleeping around putting yourself and wife at risk. Grow up and try to become the father, provider and husband you signed up to be and stop being silly, small and immature.

Answer 13

Sorry but this is what usually happens when two get married at a young age and then compound the stress of an early marriage with kids and youve got the worst possible marital scenario known to man. You two have had to grow up quickly here and she obvisiously cant handle all the everyday stress so she takes it out on you. Your affair tells me that you werent ready to settle down either. So now the time has come for a major decision; will your marriage survive all this turmoil or would it be better to end it now for all involved and go seperate ways? Professional counseling could help but only you two know for sure if you guys can survive all this hell. She would get custody of the kids with child support,and possible spousal support and the house as the courts wont throw the kids out on the street if she has nowhere to go. Both of your options here suck any way you go so you need to decide which one is the better of the two, stay or go. Now even if you did end it now, theres no guarantee that you two couldnt/wouldnt get back together at a later date and things would be better. No easy solution here,sorry and good luck. Also if you or both have any more questions or need to vent, my email address is [e-mail] and Ill be glad to help as the best I can on here

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Answer 14

When I was pregnant with my 3rd I worked 40 hours a week as a Journeyman Baker, cleaned to house, cooked dinner, took out the trash, and took care of 2 kids and my husband. And yes there were times I was depressed.

I don't understand what her problem is. Just because she is pregnant, she has a right to treat you like crap? B*tch and moan? All the time?

I suggest she get counselling for her anger issues. Being pregnant is emotional and a lot of hard work but this is the 3rd baby, both of you should know by now, what pregnancy is like for her.

Being a wife and mother never end...she should know this by now too.

I would hate to live with someone such as your wife.

You both need to sit down and talk about everything.

Both of you can not continue going this way or else you will be divorced in a year.

Edit: your an idiot Shauna! LMFO... Women like you always make me chuckle.

Sounds like your just a little bit bitter! Life doesn't sound like a bed of roses for you, as you would try and make people believe.
You sound really bitter and angry...just why is that?

Your husband doesn't sound like a stellar husband or father. By the way you talk.

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I hate these self righteous women who curse out men morning, noon and night because he has a problem with his wife who is lazy, b*tches and moans, has anger problems, makes excuses like staying home and not doing anything is such a hard deal. Why because she's pregnant? They choose to have kids, they choose to get married, they choose the tradiotional roles. And she can't live up to the end of her deal. So he must be an a**hole for wanting, needing and expecting more?
Self righteous women keep your crap to yourselves. Stop cramming it down other peoples throats.

Answer 15

I am a wife who is exactly like yours.

let me tell you what the problem is.

When men are b*astards - we remember. And all the small nasty things you do - like not showing her you care by taking out the trash - builds up over time, because you already made a mountain of bitterness and deciet and non caring by your affair.

I am constantly in a bad mood and b*tching to my husband - because he drinks, gambles and spends large sums of money without me knowing, doesnt be helpful or show affection to me - and now - if he fails to say goodnight to me, it is a big deal. Why? because it just shows that after everything horrible you men have done you STILL DONT CARE.

So Ill give you some advice. Leave your wife and get a woman who is a sex addict, who takes drugs, who drinks, smokes, and does nothing at all - so you can live like a lazy male pig with her. Because she will be just like you, she will not b*tch about anything.

good luck!

Answer 16

women today make me sick, i was 23 with 3 children, i kept my home very clean as did all my young Friendsw/ kids, and a hot dinner every night, he was a fireman.
i did everything except the yard and the car, my husband did that, plus we had company over, holiday meals, vacations, we took the kids out, and i only weighed 120, i always looked nice.
we din't complain about HORMONES, what a farce.

Answer 17

Okay, as for the people who keep saying you're "too young for marriage and kids" thats bullcrap. It wouldn't matter now anyway. Its done. Secondly, if you did more, your wife wouldn't ***** at you. If her plate is full, even if you work, your genitals helped make those babies, and while YOU had fun doing it, SHE had to sow the oats you left in her (carrying, birthing, raising, etc.) so it sounds like YOU need to man up.. SHE's got a lot to do, since she's acting as a single parent while your out in fantasy land pretending you don't have responsibilities. How about you shut up and do YOUR job as their father? I don't have to ***** at MY husband. When he gets home, he has an hour to hang out and relax, then he gets up and helps me get things done and spends time with the kids to occupy them while I get some things done. I RARELY have to ask for his help. he's just man enough to know his responsibility. And by the way, I was 19 when we got married, had my son right before I turned 20, we've been married for 5 1/2 years, so this has nothing to do with age. My husband and I are completely functional and both my children are 2 levels higher in education than they should be. I've been a stay at home mom the entire time.
You two need a marriage counselor, and you need to lay off of her, stop being a *****. She's pregnant, and playing the part of Mommy AND Daddy since you've decided your wants and needs are more important than your wife and children. Grow up and bit and if its still not working out, THEN ask a bone headed question on here.

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Answer 18

Yeah well being pregnant and having two kids isn't a walk in the park either. You're stuck in the house all day or left to run errands WITH the kids. All you have to talk to all day is kids that talk about My Little Pony and the latest toy commercial of crap they want on TV. They eat, make a mess, play make a mess, you cook, you clean, change diapers, clean, feed again, play again. TRY CLEANING ABOUT 50 MILLION TIMES A DAY! On top of that you have to curb the nausea, throw up, eat stuff that tastes like cardboard, stay awake and feel like a zombie, let the dog out, clean the cat litter like you're working with ebola, cook 3 meals a day, make lunches for the sorry male ***, watch cartoons ALL day, make all the doctor appointments for yourself and two kids and keep them or make them for your husband. You have to get the groceries while keeping two kids quiet, FAT CHANCE! You have to do all this and put up with a man that thinks because he works 8 hours a day that he's done his job. All this crap and then you have to get up with them, put them to bed, give them naps. TRY FINDING TIME TO WASH YOUR OWN ***!

You cheated on her? At least my husband hasn't done that just yet and if he did, the kids and myself would be GONE!!! At least that way I don't have to clean up after his *** anymore!

Take out the damn garbage, take care of the kids for about an hour a day, cook one or two nights a week, do some laundry once and a while and let her go out twice a week by herself even if it's just to get groceries or have her hair done sometimes!! Stop being such a selfish jerk. Try putting on about 30 lbs and running after two hungry poop machines that do nothing but destroy the house! Get over yourself and be a better husband before you find your *** kicked to the curb with all your crap when she figures she'd be better off without some whiny kid trying to play house.

Answer 19

Hi, I'm the same age as you with two kids (maybe one on the way) and married to a disabled veteran, 27, who works and I work as well. Let me tell you, two young kids is tough enough without the added stress and hormones of being pregnant. On top of that, you betrayed her trust. Now, I'm not saying its ok that she's bitching all the time but your wife is extremely stressed which is bad for the baby. You need to sit her down, alone without the kids around would be nice, and plainly ask her what you can do to make things better for her. If you have a problem with what she asks CALMLY state why you have a problem with it. It's called communication. Women are extremely verbal creatures so verbal communication is necessary for a good marriage, no matter the length of time or age of the couple. Please try to be understanding of her pregnancy though. Most women are bitchy when pregnant.