I am feeling hopeless and have no money. Need someone to talk to/counseling?

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I have major issues in my life and there is no one to talk to. My family is tired of hearing it, but they have no clue how severe things are and how important it is that i get help. I have a fiance(3yrs) and she isnt compassionate anymore either. I need free counseling of some sort really fast cause im scared that being trapped in my own head so long will make me do something drastic. Ive held on sooo long and I know things are bigger than me at this point. Im very scared and alone--I dont want to die, but for the 1st time in my life ive contemplated how much better things would be if i were gone. Clearly I dont want to think this way or i wouldnt be reaching out. Please help by giving me information so that i may get counseling asap. I have no money 4 it though as that is a large part of the problem. Please just help and dont take advantage of my vunerable state by making snide comments. I really need help.

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Thank you all soooo much. I appreciate every single one of you. I am religious btw and you guys gave me great ideas and a great start. Especially you likewine. I would really love to talk to you if that is possible. Would you call me if i gave you my number? You seem so level in your situation and I could learn from you. You also didnt cross the line by tooting your own horn for what youve done and i can appreciate that.

Answer 1

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I understand more than you know about your situation. I will tell you my current story and then give you my advice....I am 35 yrs old, single, never married, and my friends and closest family members live two hours away. I still have not finished college and become more desperate every year that I have not graduated. I have dated, but I mostly have met women who only seek me when they have problems and leave once I made them feel better about themselves. I live in my car for almost 3 years now. I do not smoke nor drink. I consider myself an attractive guy. I have no close friends and at times cried myself to sleep. I also spoke over the phone to family members, but they don't know what to tell me anymore. The reason I live in my car is because I don't want to spend more than half of my paycheck in rent and instead pay my debt. It has taken me more than 3 years, but I am almost there. It took me 5 years to get myself to raise my gpa back to over a 2.2. Unfortunately, I keep dropping classes, I'm still single and alone, but I have a good job. Well, a few months ago I decided to quit my job and focus in school. They did not want to let me go and offered me a part-time with benefits. I accepted, but now am quitting in 1 month. I am taking next semester off and I will be traveling most of next year to get my head straight. I never been a fan of counselors or psychologists, because I believe every human being is responsible for their own fate. You may need a psychologist to analyze what is going on inside your head, draw complicated pictures, and tell you all your problems exist because you were abused when you were a kid...but that is not the solution. It is up to you and you alone. Sometimes hitting rock bottom is another chance to start all over again. First, you have to eliminate drugs from your life...I don't even believe in medication. I believe eating right, good sleep, and exercising and taking vitamins is what you need. This is really tough and not many people can do it. That's why it is easier to go to the doctor and get depression medicine, but you become addicted to this. As far as alcohol and smoking and other things, they unbalance your brain, not balance it. Love your body. I wish I could say that I have a fiancee like you, but I don't. That is where you should start. Give love and it will be given back to you. My fellow employees respect me more now for working part time and going after my dream, than they did when I was full-time and did not have the courage to leave my stable paycheck. Not having money should not tie you down. Unlike me, I know you do not have money to travel, but instead change your daily routine and take one day at a time my friend. If this advice helps you in some way, then that good karma will come to me and help me realize that I lived a productive life. That will be my strength to keep on living and it should be yours. Grow from this experience. Try driving through a new street in your way to work, surprise your fiancee with a serenade. Use this time to become the person YOU WOULD LOVE TO MARRY ONE DAY. Reinvent yourself to someone you will love. I am and it has taken years and will take many more. This is the life we live in. Don't give up...God bless you.

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Thank You Likewine...you've inspired me which isn't an easy thing to do. Thank You

Answer 2

call the mental health america its a number and they will get you help and probono too...i went there and got free counseling.

Answer 3

try matthew 6:23

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life!!!!!!

Answer 4

Don't know if you are religious or not but you don't have to be part of a church to talk to a pastor. You call any church and and they will be willing to counsel you. Some will not shove religion down your throat. Some will just be there to listen as they are trained. Some hold degrees in psychology so it is worth a shot.

Edit- Forgot to add that almost all pastors will do it for free.

Answer 5

Things would be better for whom if you are gone? Quit being such a whiney bag, blaming others for what ails you, and tell yourself that you are going to be positive from now on.

Answer 6

You NEED to talk to a psychologist and perhaps get on some medication for awhile. We are all going through financial issues and it causes a lot of stress for many of us. Talk to social services to try to get free help. I wish you happiness, it will happen, if you just take it one day at a time. Many of us do it.

Answer 7

Look up free counseling on line contact the local University their are professors that are usually very willing to listen and help.

Answer 8

Think really hard about the things you are unhappy with, figure out a way to change them as much as you can, and then stick to your guns, and do what you can. People probably seem distant to you, because they are tired of seeing the same routine with you, and solid evidence of effort, would help them see that you are struggling.
I think the more effort you put in, the more you find that there are people out there who will talk to you about your issues. maybe a friend, strangers are also good to keep things in perspective, because they are more often than not , cut and dry.
Loved one's are hard to talk to, because they know you, and their sympathy for you, only masks the truth, and sometimes people need truth, to heal.

Answer 9

What's your story?

email is way better......
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Answer 10

Each county (that I am familiar with) has a mental health department where residents can for for free or low cost counseling (sometimes it is based on a sliding scale according to your ability to pay). Contact your local mental health facility. They can not only provide you with counseling, but can probably help you with some support groups also. Don't just try to go it alone. It sounds like you need some help. It is available. Go get it!

Answer 11

You don't say what area you are in for us to post a link with to the resources you need.

Google mental health. there should be a national website. Call that number and explain you are in desperate need of help with your depression. They will get you the help you need. Counseling, medication etc.

I hope things get better for you soon.

Best of luck

http://www.nmha.org/ There is a crisis number on there you should call.

Answer 12

call a suicide hotline. they will help. remember there is help