Tried to move on but i cant!?

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my story is that i met this guy from england in januarywhile he was here in the states on vacation, and we really hit it off. i hung out with him only twice for a total of maybe 7-8 hours or so. i FELL IN LOVE. and he really started to like me too, and he told me he did. when he went back to england, i found him on facebook like he wanted me to and we talked occaionally. then i noticed he was in a relationship...slowly we havent talked in a long time. im extremely jealous of this girl because i know that if he was here, we'd be together. now we havent talked in a few months. i know he has completely moved on. i still think about him everyday. everything reminds me of him and its really hard. i even sent him a message recently and recieved no return.

people have given me the same advice to move on already and they'll be another guy just as good or better. its just impossible. ive tried to find a distaction in another guy, but theres no one. i dont know what i expected, i mean really. its just hard to know that he read my message and didnt even respond. its been 11 months, and i still havent gone through a day that i havent thought of him. i hate that he doesnt think of me like that...

what should i do? song suggestions? HELP

Answer 1

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Aww. I had a similar experience. I met this guy at a party but he lived in a different state then mine. Me and him really liked each other and we ended up holding hands when the whole party's picture was taken. I haven't seen him since 5 years. I really do miss him, and most guys in my school at home are really immature and annoying. He was different which made him stay in my mind so long. I've had random dreams about him and he just never fades away. It's amazing how a short amount of time with one great guy can change your life.My advice is not to move on, but try to see the good in the experience you've had with him and connect it to your daily life. Maybe there's gonna be another guy you will meet in the future that had similar or better qualities than the one that's on your mind now. When you least expect it, amazing things will happen. This is proven by me going to that party and you going on vacation, not expecting to meet an amazingly cute and awesome guy, but did so. Me and you have a similar situation, but we just gotta believe good things are in store for us. Otherwise, we will be heartbroken and unhappy missing our guys, my friend.
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i like your answer the best, you are the most understanding of my situation, and that it is hard to forget someone :)

thanks

Answer 2

I kind of understand what you're going through, when I went to Europe I kissed a guy who i got attached to right away. When I left I missed him so much (really overdramatic) but then I stopped thinking about him and found someone else.

this question reminds me of the song: homecoming- the teenagers

Answer 3

Im guessing your a white girl.

Just forget about it, he lives to far anyways. and its kinda dumb to say u fell in love after 8 hours. just kick it with the people in your town and forget about guys for a while. I think you can easily move on unless your some kind of obsessive girl.

Answer 4

i really dont know how i can get u to forget, but u have to know why you cant forget before u can even TRY to forget......... im convinced u have a very hard time forgetting about this passed relationship with him because there was no true closer.... that what u need.....

Answer 5

well this guy is defiantly not 4 u so Just take your time and get over him and date other guy's while you are trying to get over him . this should work it just takes a little time for you to get over him and he obviously doesn't know wat he wants's .

Answer 6

its puppy love. the only sure is time( im sure thats not what u wanted to hear but its the truth only time can help u move on. ive been in the same position. i know it sucks and it hurts but u will get through it. m solution was diverting my attention to other things like friends

Answer 7

You can NOT fall in love in 16 hours. Do you know how ridiculous that sounds? You gotta get up, put you big girl pants on, and move on. Don't waste your time on what may never be.

Answer 8

GET OUT THERE AND DATE..THE BEST WAY TO FORGET SOMEONE IS TO GET ON TOP OF SOMEONE ELSE.. BEST OF LUCK, TRY BOWLING , LIBRARY, SKATING RINK, DRAG RACES, DIRT RACES JUST GET YOURSELF OUT THERE, YOU IN NEW YORK I CAN HOOK YOU UP..

Answer 9

sorry trying to figure this out for myself(not the exact same situation)

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Answer 10

2 words GET LAID, at least 25 times, this month, no kidding now!!!!!!

Answer 11

Yes you have to move on. I think it would help by reminding yourself that you don't really know him. YOU may feel like you did but there is no way you could have. My guess is that you are struggling finding someone. SO, you keep thinking that he is the grass on the other side. I am sure he is not as good as you may think. Or if he is you really don't know that either, but you should spend time looking at other men. I am sure you will find a sweet heart. That is not your man so no need to be jealous. Think what your hobbies are and try doing those. You may just find your dream man doing the same hobby. Take care

Answer 12

There is no need for you to be sitting there, hoping for something that is not going too happen. You have done everything you can , and he has not got back to you. You have really got to let this go,in stop making your self hurt for someone that care's nothing about you. Thank God You are not the girl he is with now, for sounds like he may have cheated on her with you, while he was down to visit.So really pick your self up and get on with life, don't let it past you bye for someone that just used you.

Answer 13

Well, I'm going through what you're going through right now too. And I think the best way to get over a guy is to keep yourself busy. Not exactly mean that you have to look for a guy, cause let's face it, once you think that you've found the perfect one, you'll end up comparing every guy you'll end up with with that guy. And that's not what you want, right? So, my bet is to focus on schooling, if you're still in school, or on your job and friends. If he's yours, faith led him to you once, it'll find a way to work out. But if he's not meant to be yours, then Mr.Right will knock on your door when you least expect it. Don't try to find other guys, because I've been there, it ain't helping. Just focus on something else right now, guy-free :)
I hope this helps

Answer 14

wow u really aren't over him huh? cuz i was looking up a similar question and ur name came up again...all i can say is just try to like other guys..im in the same boat and I still can't get over this guy cuz I just feel that we didn't end right...u still need to talk to him knowing that it's over so ur life can move on and you can go love someone who truly cares for you and wants to be with you...best of luck! if u need any other help, feel free to message me! :)

Answer 15

I've have a similar situation but i haven't seen my guy in three years. Let me just tell you, it never goes away no matter how much you try to distract yourself. You can't move on. I have had other relationships but none compare to what me and my guy had. Theres not one day that goes by where i don't think of him. It gets better trust me soon you won't be so depressed. I haven't seen this guy since threee years and i have no way of contacting him. So guess what? If you were truly in love with the guy you will never move on just like me.

Answer 16

Its going to be hard, i am dating this guy who i have been with for a year and three months, i love him so so much, but recently he started liking this other girl and we are still together, But maybe the only answer is that you do need to move on, or send him a message telling him how you Truly feel, but maintaining a long distance relationship is hard, if he can move on, and you know he has moved on take that pain and use it to your advantage, maybe knowing that he will never be your will help you to move on to bigger and better things. waiting is the hardest part, things will play out and eventually you will find or you will be found by someone who will compare you to the heavens