Women, Do You Consider Yourself A Strong Person?

Question

Not physically, but mentally and emotionally...

When you and your partner fight, or have an argument or a conflict, and it hurts so so so bad, how do you deal with it?

When you want to talk about the issue because you want to fix it because you want to have a happy and healthy relationhip but your partner doesn't want to, how do you deal with it?

Answer 1

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Yes, I consider myself a strong personality, otherwise I would not have survived 22 years of marriage and raising two teens. When I have trouble communicating I back off the verbal and write.
Sometimes I email the husband. Sometimes I write hand written notes. Then there is always texting and twittering, and writing in journals.
Even though he may never read what I write in the journals it gives me peace of mind.
Don't give up. Men often do not want to hear a woman speak === they can not deal well with this type of communication. Sometimes my husband walks out of the room, or the house because he can't deal with it. Marriage is difficult. Hang in there.

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I'm tired of putting up with his inferiority complex and with him saying mean things to me. :'-(

Answer 2

I wait until he is sober

Answer 3

I am one of the strongest women I know. We finish our arguments within an hour or two, so there's no time for pain or resentment to fester. It would be good if you could learn to do the same.

Answer 4

you are asking the wrong group!

they got the same problem you have ,
and cant solve them !

Answer 5

I'm a lot emotionally stronger than I would have imagined...we don't know what we can handle until it's dumped on us, then we muddle through.

When I had arguments with someone, I waited until we cooled off, then discussed the issue until we came to a resolution or compromise. Sometimes we ended up having to agree to disagree. If the other person doesn't want to discuss it, you cannot force them to. However if the issue is something that needs to be addressed for the relationship to move forward then I suggest couples counseling.

I would not choose to stay with someone who always avoided conflict and refused to discuss important issues. I couldn't live like that. We talk about it, deal with it, and move on...not avoid it and hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 6

If we fight which is rare we usually dissolve it quickly if he says something i deem is hurtful i say I love you and walk away he then knows he step out of bounds and tries do redeem himself quickly lol

Answer 7

No need, we resolve our issues right then and there - I thought the ultimate goal of an argument was to bring up issues that need addressed, not create more.

Answer 8

I seriously drop my **** for days !!
Stop doin all little things that matter to him .
He hates it but then it all comes out how i feel an what he as said or done an then its fine he makes the effort ?

Answer 9

Different people deal with these issues differently. I find that if I am angry and upset, I have a tendency to say hurtful things that I really do not mean (in the heat of the moment). For me it is better to back off and cool down so that I can discuss the situation more rationally and less emotionally. Perhaps your partner is the same and just needs some space and time before he is ready to "talk". If however, he never wants to get back to the issue and resolve it, it will only grow into an enormous problem. You can't just stuff it and stuff it and never resolve anything. This is not healthy for the relationship or the people in it. You have to talk it out and resolve it eventually or it does not go away.

Answer 10

I'm the strongest woman I know emotionally. 25 yrs married, for years I tolerated him sticking up for his 'family', I would walk out of their house in tears and would wait until we could discuss it in private, I NEVER gave them an attitude back. They were drinkers and would call me horrible names. My x yrs ago did all he could to turn my daughters against me, except for one, so I never see them, still I pray about it. I had a still born child at 6 months, thousands of miles from home with no support, then hemorrhaging which made me have a hysterectomy,
I have been alone with our grown autistic son going on 6 yrs now because my husband insists on working overseas, we have no family in this state.
Last Easter I found out my husband had an affair almost all of 2008, which really threw me over the edge emotionally, because i thought if nothing else he would be faithful. I forgave him, he's coming home soon. To top it all off my beautiful german shepherd of 11 yrs. died and I had to bury him by myself.
Jesus gives me strength, and is my source of peace and joy.

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when i wanted to talk about an issue i had to wait for the right moment and then walk on eggshells to approach him for yrs. but not anymore. he's a narcissit.

Answer 11

Yes, I consider myself a strong person, to the point where I can appear unfeeling sometimes.

In case of a conflict, I try to identify a root cause and think about how to address it.

If your relationship is not healthy or happy, and your partner is not willing to address the cause of the unhappiness, perhaps you are with the wrong person.