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Well at uni i was a good friend with a girl (at least i thought i was). While at uni we did help each other when needed.

Well when we left uni she started to act strange. She has been ignoring my calls and texts for no reason. I know i have not upset her at all. This has been happening since Spetember. I know that she could be busy but to not reply to my text and to ignore nearly all my calls shows that she wants to ignore me.
I have been told this in secret form her friend and have been told to act as if i am not aware about it.

Now what i want to know is what should i do? I will totally ignore her and remove her as a friend on fb (although that seems childish). but if and when i see her what shall i say? I am saying this becasue we do have common friends. Shall i question her about why she has been ignoring me. I know that we can lose in touch with people but this si totally out of the blue and strange. I have given her some space. I mean i stopped calling her for months and when i did she still did not really talk

Answer 1

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I've had a few similar situations arise in my life. If she's ignoring you, it's probably best to just ignore her in return. There's really no need to stir up conflict (that can get nasty extremely quickly), so just letting it dissolve on its own is at least the most peaceful way to go about the matter.

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Answer 2

She isn't interested in you romantically, obviously.
I think you just need to leave it alone. If she talks to you, respond, but don't initiate conversations with her because she doesn't want you to do that.
Don't be over dramatic and delete her off your friends list over this. That's something a girl would do.

Answer 3

I think you definitely should ask her what's going on. It could be that you did something that offended her and you just don't know it. It happens. Girls are complicated like that. But honestly, talking it through will help you out.

Also, I don't think you should stress so much about it. I mean, if you think about it, do you really want someone to be your friend if she ignores you and basically doesn't talk to you? That to me sounds like a girl with a diva problem. You sound like a decent person. Don't let one person knock you down.

Answer 4

I'M A MAN. by the way.... you spelled september wrong

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Answer 5

ok 1 she might b trying 2 play hard 2 get but what she's doing is just wrong as u said ignoring her is childish but what else do u wanna do try taalking 2 her ang giving in 2 her plan
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sorry but sometimes people only make friends with u because they need sum1 2 talk 2 4 a short period of time but after that its as if u dnt exist (i've been through that) but idk do what u think is right but if i was in ur position i would ignore her

Answer 6

It is pretty common for people to become friends at uni because they need each other. Sometimes one person has a car and the other doesn't. Sometimes one is good at a particular subject and can provide help on course work. You are stuck in a small community and end up as pretty good friends.

But once uni is over, the need is over. People tend to go their separate ways.

If you are very strong, you just may allow your friend to leave you and carry on with her life. It is a gift that you give her, and you ask nothing in return. It hurts, but it may be the best thing for her.

Another thing to consider is that we all continue to grow, through uni and afterwards. It could be that she feels she has grown in a different direction, or that she WANTS to grow in a different direction.

When you respect a person, you may have to let go. Again, that is your gift to her: unconditional freedom to go or, perhaps one day, to come back, without you saying anything at all. And it is a marvelous gift indeed.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Send a simple text 'If I have offended you, I am sorry. Are you ok?' and if there is no reply ask your mutual friend to ask her if she has received it.

If there is no reply to that, then let it drop. Uni life is different once you leave and people change.