Our daughter wants her father and I to pay for marriage counseling for her should we do it?

Answer 1

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If my daughter couldn't afford to pay for a counselor, of course I would.

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Answer 2

If she's not in a position to pay it herself then yes. If your worried about it not being your responsibility then work out a repayment plan with her. I would think that since she's your daughter you would care about her happiness. And if she is seeking counseling, then she is obviously unhappy and needs help. If she came to you for drug and alcohol counseling, would you refuse that just because it should be her financial responsibility?
I would do it. She may not live with you anymore, but she is still your family. you should try to help her in any way you can.

Answer 3

Truly a first! Our children are always our children even when they grow up and marry. If there is a genuine hardship, and your daughter and her husband truly cannot afford the marriage counseling fees, help her. The big challenge if you do agree to help will be staying out of the whole situation, except when asked. Often, it is easy to get caught up in the "I am paying the bill, so what I say goes," talk but you will need to refrain from that, can you? Here's hoping that you do not get asked to pay for the recommitment ceremony or the divorce as well!

Answer 4

If it didn't create a hardship for you, I would do it. Obviously your daughter is having a hard time and maybe her husband is telling her that they can't afford something that she believes they need so she has turned to you.

Counseling is great if you find the right person for you as a couple. It didn't do my marriage any good. You could check out Retrouvaille.com for her and her spouse. It's one weekend and minimal cost if any at all. It saved our lives.

Answer 5

No. That's her responsibility. It makes me wonder why you would even consider it. She is an adult as is her husband - let her be an adult. She needs to figure it out on her own. That's the only way she'll mature and grow stronger - with her husband or without him. She can't come running to you for everything. If it's not an emergency leave it to her.

Answer 6

If you can easily afford it, then possibly, but if your daughter really wants to save the marriage surely she shouldn't pass the buck asking for others to make the final decision whether her marriage can be saved...sounds like she's not willing to save the marriage 100%

Answer 7

No. I assume if she wants marriage counseling, she's married and an adult. Both of those make it HER thing to pay for...not yours.

While she's in counseling, you may want to suggest she work on those excessive feelings of entitlement too...that could be part of the problem in the marriage.

Answer 8

Why would you pay for something that's her responsibility only? Doesn't she work? Doesn't her husband work?

Answer 9

Did she ask you because they both want counseling but can't afford it? It depends on her reasons for requesting you guys pay for it.

Answer 10

No she's a big girl, they have to take responsibility for their own marriage.

Answer 11

if they cant afford it and you and your husband can realy see that they love eachother, then yes...but if clearly she can afford it, then let her do it.

Answer 12

Lol she flew the coop. She's no longer your dependent. So no, absolutely not should you pay for it.

Answer 13

If they can't afford it and you can, yes.

Answer 14

Hell no she made her bed let her lay in it.. why should you pay for her mistakes and issues shes grown.