What is considered trying to hard for meeting men?

Question

I just asked a ? about hitting on men and was told that I try too hard but I don't get hit on by the men that I like (I like white guys). I know that I am attractive because I get hit on by other men a lot and I am not a flashy girl but if I don;t initiate something with men I find attractive nothing ever happens. How can I approach them in a productive way?

Answer 1

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(Why couldn't I have met you?)

Your job is to convey interest and availability, that's it.

Bump into a guy, ask him a neutral question like "what time is it" or "hey, what's that you're drinking/eating/wearing" and then let him respond. If he doesn't get your message introduce yourself, if he still doesn't get the message, move on. It's as simple as that...for a woman.

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Asker's Comment:

that sounds easier than passing notes that say I'm bored please entertain me and saying I think your attractive can I give you my #. I always feel so hopeless after this even though the men are friendly

Answer 2

Picking up guys on Yahoo Answers would probably be considered trying to hard.

Answer 3

Try to relate to them.

Answer 4

being clingy.

Answer 5

if you've ever used the phrase "man hunting" or if you go to bars and go up to more than one guy hoping to meet your soulmate.

Answer 6

as long as you are doing the chasing you will never win. the kind of guy you chase will not make you happy. wait till you meet the guy that will go after you.

Answer 7

Tension and nervousness happen when you don't act yourself.
Smiling and having fun is the key. Don't work hard. Play hard.

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Answer 9

wel ok jusyt do ok heres a start how many bf have you have i mean take tyhe guy that understands your fellings nad sweeta dn kinda nd all ik ho it feels but i has never happend to me ok but i can really help so just get the guy that really really loves you from your heart adn all like i mean heart heart heart ok hope i help if i didnt srry mi soo tired frombabysitting and help other ppl im a kind little girl or well as i would call k well night at my place

Answer 10

Just be yourself, and be confident. Don't let them know that you want them desperately.

Answer 11

Well show off around 40% of your skin to attract possible mates. Then lure them in with a nice smile and say hi. It's kind of a cool for a single guy to meet a girl who is friendly.

Or just walk up to a guy and act out this scene.
Smile and say, "Hi" then if he responds with a friendly hi just say, you know what's got me down? I can't ever seem to find a date for the weekend. It would be nice for someone to take me out to dinner sometime ;-). However, this will not work on men named Cody Paul.

Answer 12

Getting "hit on" by men is nothing more than a reflex by them when they are stimulated by you. If you stimulate them visually, they are not considering any more than that. That is where it all begins. To insure that the guy finds out more about you and you about him, get real. If you honor yourself first, you will draw out the best in others. If that doesn't work, change your expectations.