What do I do if my ex-boyfriend is getting over me but I can't get over him?

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I'm 17 and my ex is 19. We were together for one year. He is obviously getting over me as he started college recently at a university and he's added a few girls he goes to school with on Facebook. Me, on the otherhand, I haven't met any guys after him and I'm just always thinking about him so it's hard to get over him. I hate that he's meeting all these girls and I'm not meeting any new guys that I'm interested in. I'm kind of jealous.

What should I do?

Answer 1

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A lot of the anxiety of moving on comes from self-judgments about when and how and why you should move on and what you did wrong. Don’t compare yourself to others or him. You’re not nuts; you’re not strange; you’re not obsessed; you’re not a fool. The only sin you can possibly commit is doubting yourself. You’re just human and you felt something. At the time, whenever that was, it felt right. Accept that your feelings are your feelings and let them be. Feelings are hard to feel and even harder to understand. They’ll pass when the time is right and not a moment sooner.

And now they are different. They cannot be any other way. Life is a series of moments and all you really have to do in this life is accept them. No one expects anything more.

Try to get out as much as you can (but don’t force yourself to jump into something new or go out partying every night). Talk to your friends, even if all you can squeak out is “it’s another rough one today”. Don’t worry about annoying them – even if you do, they are the ones who really know you and they will still love you. You can’t fool them anyway – even if you don’t say anything, they know.

Enjoy an entire pint of ice cream. But don’t go overboard – you’ll just end up feeling worse. There’s no hard-and-fast rule for when you’re about to cross the line. I think you’ll know your limit if you listen to your instincts. In fact, I believe our instincts will never, ever let us down, if only we would pay attention to them. (And remember, if you cross your line, that’s okay. Mistakes are not bad, they are learning, and that is what life is all about, right?)

It doesn’t feel like it right now, but the pain will pass. Reality bites and life will give your heart a ruthless pruning, but you’ll grow back even fuller. You might miss a season or two – don't worry.

You're gonna be ok.

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Answer 2

Guys seem to move on quicker than girls, you have to accept that you two are over and put youself out there, maybe get a makeover...that makes me feel spectacular and like a new woman...do something outrageous to your hair and smile, you'll get noticed if you feel good about yourself and let that lump in your chest gradually fade away. Maybe the reason you aren't meeting anyone is because people can tell you are stuck on someone else.