My granda passed away so suddenly!!!!..................…

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i am very sad now....i feel like .......... i am useless anyone can help me to cheer up before i go berserk...........T.T it happened when my grandpa talked to me.. i ask him he wan durian.. he blinked his eye and.......... left this world...................................…

Answer 1

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I am very sorry for your loss. This is very devastating I know, I understand how it feels to lose someone or something. It is suddenly taken away from you with no warning, no time, no sign, nothing!! I work in a hospital and this happens all the time but it is different when it happens to you.

Everyone grieves differently. There is no set amount of time for you to grieve. You can grieve as long as it takes you, not like someone else who may want you to hurry up and get over it. Grief counseling is good advise. Attend grief meetings. Dont pick up or fall off the wagon!! Drinking and drugging isnt the answer. It is a problem, so believe me it doesnt help anything!!
I'm going to share whith you what a woman in Memphis, Tn shared with me. I had a problem and I did not know how to pray or talk to God. I was so angry at God for so many reasons, I know how you feel. She said introduce yourself to God, Introduce God to your problem, God specializes in everything. And she said to talk to God just like you aresitting an arms length from Him. Try it once, try it again. It works.
He is our Creator and He knows us thru and thru. He knows how much we can bear!!
It will also help and it gives me comfort to read Spiritual material. Not asking you to turn religious overnight just asking you to get it off your chest. There is only so much that a human being can do for you but God loves you unconditionally, God cares for you. He understands and He will Comfort you whenever you surrender your will and conform to His will, He can help you thru this very sensitive and sentimental time.

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thakns. you really cheered me up a lot.

Answer 2

I believe he is right there, still beside you, but without a body. You can talk to him, he can still hear you (probably even better now -- his body ears were getting old!). You'll know when he's around... you might start seeing coins all over the place, or butterflies, or dragonflies... or you might smell his pipe or his cologne.

If you ask him to come visit you in a dream, he just might (I had my brother and also a friend visit me about 2 weeks after they each passed away... I just asked God to pass on a message to them for me, just in case I wasn't allowed to talk directly to them... IDK!).

Feel better soon sweetie ((( hugs )))

Answer 3

My condolences to you. It's tough to lose a grandparent, especially if you were close to them. You're going to have to look at the positive side of this; and yes, there is a positive. You, unlike so many of us, had the privilege of being with your grandparent when they passed. He wasn't alone when he faced death. He had you beside him. Do you know how many elderly people pass away each and every day without anyone by their side? Consider yourself very fortunate to have been there with him. In a way, it was your final gift to him.

Answer 4

My condolences to you. Hold onto all the good memories and imagine him as the brightest twinkling star you ever seen.

There is nothing i can do and say that can cheer you up, really.

There is a good joke, it mite make you smile.....
Moses and Jesus playing Golf
It was a beautiful, sunny Sunday afternoon while Moses, Jesus, and another guy were out playing golf. On the first tee-box, Moses pulls out his driver and blisters a shot up the right side of the fairway, rolling fast towards a water hazard. Moses quickly raised his club, parting the water while his ball rolls through to the other side safely.

Imagine that your granda!

Answer 5

The tornado of emotions must be unbearable, and it is too great to handle on your own. You'll be going through a roller coaster and a whirlpool of emotions as you go through these stages of grief.

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

I suggest that you go to a meeting of GriefShare. There are thousands of meetings world wide. I've put a link below. You'll meet people who have gone through what you're going through, and they can help you heal.

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www.griefshare.org/findagroup/