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y husband and i have been going through a rough patch since we discovered i was pregnant in January 2008, now i have had the baby she is 3 months old my husband has started watching porn on the INTERNET body is not what it used to be and i dont like my husband becoming aroused over these women. How can i explain to my husband how i feel without making him feel like he is being attacked, he says that it helps with his sex drive does that mean i no longer turn him on. have any other women had a similar experience with there husband

Answer 1

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First of all, congrats on the baby.

Second, this happens so often to couples after baby comes along, you and your hubby are not alone.

Third, tell him exactly how you feel because HE is actually attacking YOU and your new family by bringing this into your home without your permission or consent.

I DOUBT very seriously that your body after having a baby has anything to do with this. It's probably that he feels a lot of pressure to provide and is missing the freedom of single life. And porn girls just getting wild represent freedom...

So.

Tell him how you feel. Go do something good for you (working out REALLY does make you feel happier) and if he doesn't straighten up then run for the hills girl!

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Thanks heaps for the advice.

Answer 2

Ohhh well, why don't bring up some naked men on the computer, tell him to leave the room, shut the door and enjoy yourself? See how he likes it.
Seriously, you guys need some couples therapy because there is so much here that you need to talk about.

Answer 3

Make him stop. It is not good and will make him not ever want to stop watching it. He needs to get away from it. NOW

Answer 4

yes, i also have the same problem but i have resolved this problem by giving company to my spouse in watching porn movies. I also need these movies to get aroused.it works.......

Answer 5

i have definitely felt that same way. my bf had porn on his computer and it makes you feel like you are not enough for him. and that he is getting satisfied in some other way other than you. it makes you feel like crap i really did not want him to touch me cuz i felt like he cheated almost..cuz its like i cant please him i really think you need to talk to your husband on how it makes you feel. also watch porn and see how it makes you feel do you feel turned on? so you can see what he gets out of it. if you see that it makes you feel pointless than you need to talk to your husband..it could turn into a addiction.

Answer 6

I disagree with these guys above, men need regular sex and just based on the sounds of your comment you two are not having it...if you expect him to not masturbate then how is he supposed to relieve that pressure buildup, and btw just because a man looks at porn does not mean his wife does nto turn him on, but your intimate moments may have become too infrequent to satisfy him...and dont forget its not just how you feel, its also about how he feels as well.

Answer 7

maybe consider right before sex watching porn together. go to your nearest sex store and rent/buy one. it will get the both of you in the mood and i'm sure he won't watch porn as much anymore. my husband and i do it and he loves it. if that doesnt work just sit him down when he is in a good mood and let him know how it effects you.

Answer 8

Is quite normal ito feel this way and it's quite normal that he watches porn. Some men find it hard to see their wife as a lover after giving birth not because of body image but because you're a mother now. I would say have a serious talk and put down some ground rules. Try to be understanding and get him to understand how you feel. Men like visual stimulation when they masturbate so it's normal.

Good luck

Answer 9

My husband and I watch it together and he watches it alone. Yours is not watching it because he doesn't find your body attractive. I have not had any kids yet and I am young and in good shape so I am totally confident about my appearance, and that is why I can say it is not YOU don't get yourself down about it. He will not be comparing you to them, this is a totally different outlet that some guys enjoy

Answer 10

i didn't have problem with porn, but i did have problem with my body after giving birth. so i fixed it by exercising every day and eating right. since the frist baby i had 2 more babies - have great abs and very well toned body. have absolutely no problems with porn - i look way better than women in porn. and i don't care whether my man watches porn or not - i am not jealous of anything cos i have high self esteem. instead of feeling sorry for yourself and forbidding him to watch porn (which he will continue to watch anyway, just in secret) u better start exercising

Answer 11

Just one question for you? Does he come to you after he has been watching? If not then you have a problem. Most men after the birth of a child see there partner differently. Now you are not the sexy hot bi#$h you were before your are now a mother of their child that should be treated with respect. think it is called madona whore syndrome. Men need help.

Answer 12

FORGET IT.
Porn addicted people are not cureable.
Put-off your worries, always try to enjoy your life.

Answer 13

next time you catch him, give the man a ********....
if you want him to stop watching porn, then have sex with him so often that he can't get it up to jerk it off.....

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