I need some advice please? :(?

Question

My boyfriend and I share a bank account and we were suppose to be saving the money to pay for next semester's college. Now, most of the time he's the one spending the money and I save, but this time I asked him if we could cut down a bit so I wouldn't worry about having enough to pay for college and he said we would. Now today, he spent much more than he should have and I'm so angry! He said he understood that I needed security for college but he spent it anyways. Does this mean he values his purchase more than me? :(

I need help.

Answer 1

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it's called selective hearing. he heard what you were saying but didn't "listen" to what you were saying. it sounds like he has a "it's my money i'll do what i want" type attitude. well if you both agreed to be saving for college, then BOTH should be doing so. not just one. BOTH. he may not think that he values his purchases more than you. but i think he's rebelling. i mean he's acting like a teenage boy who thinks the money he earns is, HIS money and that he should do what he wants with it. he needs to grow up and take responsibility, financially i mean. why do you think women (a lot of the times, i'm not saying ALL the time) have to balance check books and figure out their finances. because guys (some guys not all guys) can't and it sounds like your guy can't. sit down talk with him. go over your finances with him. talk about the situation.

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I'll talk to him...after I've calmed down a bit.

Answer 2

You should value your education more! Take your funds and transfer them into your OWN account. Make sure you explain to him you value your education, yet you can't get one if you have no money to pay for it. If hes worth it and mature he will understand the separation of funds. He can throw away his own money not yours.