My girlfriend broke up with me... I dont know how to take it in... Plus I have other things making me worry?

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My girlfriend broke up with me and this relationship was so much to me. She gave me my first kiss, she was always so nice, we were perfect in my eyes. We lived far apart, but I litterally walked 5 miles to see her at least 3 times a week. We lasted for 4 months, when she broke up with me... the hard part is that a couple days later she started dating a chick. It makes me feel like **** to think that I did something wrong, in fact, so wrong to turn her all the way to lesbian, and even harder to take in, is that she looks happier! I know I should move on, and I am... but She ment everything to me, and I feel like I was just being used.

Other than this, my mother took custody of me, so I see my dad only on the weekends, and I really hate it over here. She yells at me, loses it all the time and I hate it. I've considered running away over night back to my dads, or my papa's. My friend recently died over here, my gf broke up with me over here, and I feel like this town is not where I belong. The school is so violent and ghetto, I am angry with my self and feel like an idiot for having so many problems. So far yahoo answers is the best thing because I can talk to people and they can help me.... Maybe it's just a stage, but I truly feel like I'm alone. I dont get along with the people here, and I'm just really depressed. Thanks to anyone who has enough time to read this.... I've helped alot of people on here I believe, and I just want some back. Not in a rude way, people do help, but you know... lol (I'm glad I can even say that...)

Answer 1

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first off, i'm going to do my best in answering this because i think you deserve an answer, not because i know the answer. i actually don't know what i'm going to say to try and help, but i'll definitely give it my best. after all, isn't helping what yahoo answers is for?

so, as for the break-up with your girlfriend, i don't believe that you did a single dang thing wrong to turn her into a lesbian. no one can turn anyone into something they have to be born as to be, in this case, homosexual. that wasn't your fault whatsoever. in fact, i think that you weren't anything but good to her. walking 5 miles to her house 3 days a week? come on, that's commitment and love there! and though it may be hard for you to see that she's happier, i would think that she would have to be since now she's with someone she is attracted to sexually since she's a lesbian and you are a guy. anyways, i don't think she was using you on purpose, and that her using you wasn't how it started, but how it ended. she seems to have been confused about her status as homosexual or heterosexual. and as harsh as what i'm about to say may sound, there are so many other girls who will be more perfect for you. first loves cut deep. sometimes it's not the person you fall in love with, but love itself. and sometimes it will take you time to realize that what you're missing isn't the person, but the love itself. we all fall in love with love.

As for your situation with your parents, you will probably have to talk it out with them or take it up in court. running away is not the best idea. we all feel like running away from our problems sometimes, but most times, what we need most to do is fix things as best as we can. get closure. i used to want to leave my school too because of all the friend troubles i had gotten into there. i wanted to start fresh so badly. go somewhere where i didn't have to be whoever's ex-bff. i hated my school because it seemed like my past followed me around wherever i went. but i fixed things as time passed and i am still surprised when i think how much i love my school and my life. i love where i am and am glad that i didn't just go to another school. i got my closure and i grew stronger as i worked to make things better. and when it seemed like things just would never get better, they did. life hurts but you can't run away everytime it strikes. sometimes, you need to fight back.

these teen years are tough. last year, i had thee toughest year of my life. everything was going wrong left and right, things were falling apart and i felt like i just couldn't save them from crashing. but somehow, i did. and now i know that life will get harder, but it will also get better. i know what it's like to feel like the only one with seemingly unfixable problems, but the truth is, it's something we all go through. you're not alone. don't ever feel like an idiot for having these problems. you can't help what life throws at you. but you can help what you do with what life throws at you. work on accepting what cards you're dealt, and then focus on how you're going to play the hand. because we can only control our attitude towards things that happen to us. that's the only thing we can effect all our own. fortunately for us, it makes all the difference. try smiling, it'll make you feel just a little better. a happy face is needed to get through in these kinds of situations like these. :)

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that's the best 2 points i've ever gotten.

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Thank you... :)

Answer 2

Maybe she was always struggling with becoming a lesbian and you were unfortunately caught in her mess. You're going to find someone that makes who happy and who loves you. You have the rest of your life.
And the other stuff... is a part of life. Living through it gives you the experiences, gives you the strength to get through anything.
I wish you all the best.
And whether you are religious or not, you are in my prayers.

Answer 3

Dude, you'll get over your girl. She wasn't that perfect. Obviously I dont know her, but she wasn't. You're under 18, and didn't have your first kiss until her. This is confusing as f***. I know. DO NOT use thinking about her as a distraction to your own life and other problems, that can be a very easy thing to do.

The BEST thing to do is use the "breakup energy". Everytime you feel bad about losing her, play an instrument, draw.. etc. Something that is engaging. This will make it very productive for you.

Good luck on your family stuff, just deal. You are alone, and life sucks, but everyone has problems. Don't think you're bigger than everyone else. (I'm not saying your problems don't mean anything, just that you have to deal with them)

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Answer 4

isn't there a way you can ask the court, or the sheriff to give you to your father? I'm sure there MUST be!