OK so why does it take me foreverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr to get over someone? IN FACT i never get over them :'(?

Question

i have this disgusting tendency to be hung up on everybody. i mean sometimes its ppl i casually date or boyfriends..I HAVE A REAAAALLLLLLLLLLY HARD TIME LETTING GO so usually i end up going into on and off again cycles with almost all of my ex's and i have a long extended grieving priod for break ups it usually lasts til i find someone new to get hung up on for next time (so this could be days, months, weeks, YEARRRSSSS) depending on how long it take me to find the new person :( what in my chart shows this about me and what can i do about it?
aquarius sun (feb 7)
pisces moon
cancer rising
capricorn mercury
taurus mars
aquarius venus



here is a detailed version
Sun Aquarius 18.41
Ascendant Cancer 1.34
Moon Pisces 4.43
II Cancer 21.35
Mercury Capricorn 26.08
III Leo 12.56
Venus Aquarius 4.43
IV Virgo 8.58
Mars Taurus 10.56
V Libra 13.01
Jupiter Taurus 26.39
VI Scorpio 23.44
Saturn Capricorn 9.47
VII Capricorn 1.34
Uranus Capricorn 3.49
VIII Capricorn 21.35
Neptune Capricorn 11.17
IX Aquarius 12.56
Pluto Scorpio 15.10
Midheaven Pisces 8.58
Lilith Virgo 29.58
XI Aries 13.01
Asc node Pisces 4.54

*roman numeral ones are houses

here are aspects:
Sun Square Pluto 3.30 -48
Moon Sextile Uranus 0.55 185
Moon Trine Ascendant 3.09 55
Moon Conjunction Midheaven 4.14 207
Mercury Conjunction Venus 8.34 86
Mercury Trine Jupiter 0.31 122
Mars Trine Saturn 1.10 90
Mars Trine Uranus 7.08 7
Mars Trine Neptune 0.20 54
Mars Opposition Pluto 4.14 -78
Mars Sextile Midheaven 1.59 42
Saturn Conjunction Uranus 5.58 169
Saturn Conjunction Neptune 1.30 306
Saturn Opposition Ascendant 8.12 -11
Saturn Sextile Midheaven 0.49 95
Uranus Conjunction Neptune 7.28 51
Uranus Opposition Ascendant 2.14 -45
Neptune Sextile Pluto 3.54 2
Neptune Sextile Midheaven 2.19 17
Pluto Trine Midheaven 6.13 3

Answer 1

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

Best thing to do would be to learn detachment. Pluto takes us far into the depths and it being in Scorpio says more about getting yourself further and further into that recess of not letting go. Cancer rising also tends to latch on and not let go, usually holding on to what hurts rather then what was good about the union. Since Cancer risings usually give more, it takes a lot to break their patience, but when it's broken, I think they tend create grudges since Cancer is a cardinal sign and like other cardinal signs would rather be right about something, or be the first to create a reason as to why they're not ready to let go and/or create unrealistic fears about why they shouldn't let go. Best thing would be detachment, perspective and distance from the thought of the person or the person altogether. Otherwise the same thing will happen all over again with the next person, including how the relationship starts, proceeds and ends. Your chart is similar to mine and I've experienced this a lot. Best thing is detachment.

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Asker's Comment:

great answer.. thank you

Answer 2

You might want to thank your Pisces moon and Cancer rising.

Answer 3

well I'm the same way, it's very difficult to get over someone
but the only planetary aspects we have in common are

saturn sextile midheaven
neptune sextile pluto
and something kinda similar...
moon trine uranus

also neptune in capricorn
and pluto in scorpio.