Should I forgive my best friend?

Question

My best friend of twenty odd years decided to send me a email the other day commenting on my grammar and said that my English was very bad. I had made a comment about a person in a picture and she picked me up on it, saying how, it was only a simple grammar mistake but that I should improve my english.
I took this very badly, and probably replied in haste with a few horrible comments, she then said she knew I would act this way, but what I cant understand is, if she knew I would act this way, why would she do or such a thing.

She has apologised but when she does it doesn't seem very sincere because she then comes back with, I was doing you a favour by pointing out your english errors, Im sorry you feel this way but......etc etc.

I ended up texting her and apologising , saying I probably overreacted but she then left my 16 hours to stew, thinking that it was all my fault...again what friend does this?

Im seriously stressed and upset about the whole situation, we have been best friends for years and it came out of nowhere, do you think I should forgive her and move on or would you end the friendship??

I'd really appreciate your advice peeps .

Answer 1

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"but what I cant understand is, if she knew I would act this way, why would she do or such a thing. "
To answer that, it's what best friends do. Because she knew you would act that way, she still told you it was wrong. Although it's not a big deal, at least she was honest.

I think maybe you did overreact a little bit of the grammar mistake but at the same time she shouldn't be blaming you either. Just apologize to each other and everything would be fine. If you want you can even tell her the next time you make a grammar mistake, just rewrite the correct spelling and that is great (:

I mean...I'm always the one who uses the wrong words in a sentence or something and my friends would just correct me by telling me that the word I just used didn't make sense in my sentence, so they explained the definition for me and I end up laughing about cos I'm so silly :D

You guys have been best friends for so long, don't let anything small like that ruin a friendship, okay?

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Thanks for your advice. We're still friends.

Answer 2

Only you can decide that, but the pair of you do seem to be a bit over serious about trivial matters. Perhaps you need a night out/in together and get wasted.

Answer 3

I do this, actually. I'm not sure if she does it because she's mad at you or it just bothers her. Because, grammatical mistakes really bother me. And I've had this same scenario with my best friend.

Answer 4

personally i dont think friends should talk t o eachother like that but since it happened i say leave it alone. uve said wat u had to say and so has she. if shes really a friend shell call and apologize because it was her fault for being rude. if she doesnt then u know she wasnt that much of a best friend anyway, because if she was this would have never been a problem

Answer 5

That is not such a big deal...so she pointed out a few mistakes you have. Thank her and try to improve...isn't that what friends are for?
Honestly, I'd be terribly shocked to hear if you ended the relationship over something so simple.
Of course you should forget and move on, and apologize to your friend from snapping back before thinking. Why do you think she'd advise you and tell you your mistakes. Is it just to criticize you and make fun? I don't think so. She did it to help you improve.
Your being too sensitive.
Get over this its small and work hard on strengthening the relationship.

Best of Luck =)

Answer 6

ok all of my friends i've known for like 10 years and this is just natural when you've known someone for so long argument's happen. maybe shes just jealous about something or just in a bad mood altogether just leave her alone she will call and things will be fine