Why would I say the wrong name while having sex?

Question

Ok so i know this has probably happened before but while having sex with my gf i popped out the name of my ex. Not only do i feel awful about this, but its eating me up inside as to why. The only thing i can think of is she was on top and the only girl that ever did that before was my ex, so my fool male mind shot out the name it associated the feeling with. I know all the girls that will reply to this will probably think me some scumbag, but I'm not cheating on my current gf, i love and adore her more than anyone i've ever met, that's why this is killing me. To boot I honestly hated my ex, she moved in with me after like 2 weeks, stayed eating my food, using me as a taxi, and just caused more problems for me than anyone i've ever been with for 6 long months. I didn't have the balls to boot her to the curb and let her live on the street so that's my fault, but why in the world i moan her name?! I'm sitting here with the greatest girl i've ever met, and i blurt out THAT name. Not even a famous name like Heidi Klum, but my freaking ex! I keep asking myself WTF, but nothing comes to mind really other than i'm a total moron. So if any guys, or girls have any idea what the hell i was thinking please enlighten me. She's sticking around for now, but i don't know for how long, all i know is i feel like i don't deserve her.

Answer 1

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LOOOOL... I have done the exact same thing...!! Let me help you here.. Tell your current girlfriend... how you felt about your ex. Like you I HATED my ex too for the SAME reasons lol.
ONce you'r done explaining that you have no feelings for your ex. Explainthat your were so concentrated on making her feel so amazing that you had lost concentration on what you were saying!!! its not a lie its a fact and thats why this happens!!! I mean you were with your ex for a long time. Tell her how crazy you are about her.. that she is the one and only. make her feel as if you are dying inside because you would never want to hurt her in anyway. finish all of this off with something like ... please forgive me... or.... you'r the love of my life - and making that mistake is killing me - I'm so sorry!!!

Good luck budd ... I feel your pain.

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That helps a great deal thank you all for the responses, I still feel retarded, but not as bad lol.

Answer 2

i hope u appologized to ur girl a million times

Answer 3

Well it's a moronic thing to do, even if you dont mean to. It would be like having your gf's face right next to your butt and you ACCIDENTALLY let a wet fart go on her. Either way, it's insensitive and dumb! You have to learn to control your tongue and guide it with common sense and discretion!

Answer 4

Old habits are hard to break. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Answer 5

Beg her for forgiveness.

Answer 6

take it easy and stop blaming yourself. If your current gf is upset, talk to her. Mistakes happen

Answer 7

Mistake. Your only chance is to show her how much you love her.
Express your feelings in every way.

Answer 8

sounds like your brain is out to get you! only thing you can do is crack open your head and punch that squishy ******* til he knows who's boss.

Answer 9

You didn't do anything wrong. I did it once. It's got something to do with your subconsciousness. Your mind keeps memories stored up and when you come in a similar situation, you remember your past experiences. It doesn't mean you still love you ex, you just related your current experience to a past one you had. Try and explain to your current girlfriend. Im sure she did a similar thing once in her lifetime, like when you are having a conversation with someone and you are remembering something of someone else, and you say their name instead of the person's name that is currently with you.

Answer 10

How forgiving is your g/f. That is a tough one cuz of the particular situation that in which it happened during sex!!! Oy vey. Well if she didn't belt you in the mouth and knock out a few teeth then there is a chance for you yet. My ex b/f who is now my current b/f and I were having an argument and he slipped out and called me by his ex g/f's name. Ohh that did not go to well. I pulled out my baseball bat and was going to use his head as batting practice however I didn't. My advise is to just sit her down and tell her honestly how you feel, that you do not know why you did it. Cry, beg, plead whatever it takes, I mean if she means that much to you. If she is a woman who is willing to forgive, then so be it and don't bring up the subject, I mean don't go on apologizing forever. In the future, however, try to think before you speak. Remember the old saying "open mouth, insert foot. I have a habit of blurting things out to quickly myself. I am trying to learn to "slow down" as time goes by.

good luck

Answer 11

You're obviously a sweet guy, and you love your girlfriend and your not cheating on her, so you have nothing to really worry about. Just explain to her what you explained for the question and tell her your feelings about it. It may be awkward but I bet she's waiting for some kind of explanation and if she won't hear it than maybe you should reconsider partners.

Answer 12

Just say sorry the next time you see her.If she forgives you then you are going
to have a great relationship.Just explain to her why you said the ex's name instead of her name.

Answer 13

take care not to moan names from the next time

Answer 14

if that happens again play it smooth and she will probably not even notice. if she does notice say you said something else that ryhmes. like if you said "Sarah" then make up something quick like I meant to say "hair uh...there is a hair...on my face..."

lol

Answer 15

If you haven't been with your new girlfriend very long then I can give you the answer to your question. Your brain has been trained to say that name. Repetition will teach you to do and say things without thinking. Its not your fault. I did the same thing but luckily I got to play it off.

Answer 16

Hey, you're not a bad guy! and she's sticking around because you're a GOOD GUY! Sometimes these things happen...I don't know why. I'm a girl and i know for a fact that when guy guys have sex all the blood is everywhere but in the brain! haha just kiddin' I'm trying to say it's normal that sometimes these things slip out when you get carried away! Tell your girl what you told us, you don't like your ex- i'd love it if my boyfriend said that! Ýou should know she might be taking advantage of the situation and making you feel bad...i know cuz im a girl....it's a great way to get more attention... Im assuming you've already appologized a million times, that should do it! No one is perfect and if she loves you she should stop being jealous and move on!

Take care!