Can guys explain this to me?

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Why do some guys, not all of course, feel threatened by a girl and see her as competition rather than someone he should care for and respect.Usually they are nice and respectful at first and some guys stay that way but some guys feel they have something to prove and start to play up. I get that girls do this too, but i'm interested in why there are some guys who do this. Is it a power struggle? If its a woman that they feel no control with? she threatens his ego in some way? I get that it depends on the type of women, soe can be loud brash and yell "I'm a strong woman!"- those women are usually weak and also have something to prove. I'm just talking about normal mature level headed girls.

Answer 1

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I think that you may be interpreting this yourself as it happened to you. Men don’t see women as competition as rule, however you will always get some people that are extremely competitive in general but hide it (this is a much larger group than you might think), but obviously it is difficult to hide things in a relationship, so it may become apparent. Your point that men will sometimes feel pressured by the idea that they are not dominant in a relationship and as such try to do something about it is a little flawed in my opinion. Men who feel emasculated by women like that will not try to compete with her- after all, she might win. What they will do is attempt everything in their power to be dominant, or at least look dominant, and in many cases try to put the woman down. The most likely explanation is that the men you are describing are simply immature. This immaturity will lead to the men feeling unnerved by ‘level headed’ women, who might not share their sense of adventure or a happy go lucky attitude. This would also explain why these men do not show enough affection, as you said, because in their emotional immaturity, they lack the experience or empathy to understand a woman’s desire to be loved in a relationship, as it may not be high on their agenda.

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thank you you have helped me see things a bit more clearly :)

Answer 2

i soooo understand what your talking about! i mean what i've learned is that it's just there personal issue or issues that they have with themselves. all you can do is stay away from those type of guys and be the strong woman that you are! those guys are just bitches

Answer 3

most guys always want to be dominant. society makes us feel the stronger one in the relationship should be the man. when they meet a girl with more under control than they have they feel like that is threatening their strength and dominance.

Answer 4

it's all about our human-instincts. right from the day when we've been created. you can do nothing about this. they compete just to figure out who's the best, who's the strongest. it's okay as long as they won't start lying to you just to win you as a prize or a trophy.

Answer 5

they are the macho ones... the ones that see her as the "little woman"... that she should be protected and cared for... they don't see her as an equal...