How do i get my girlfriend to try to convince her mom to let us be together?

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Me and my girlfriend recently got back together but her mom doesnt want us to be togther in fear of us hurting each other again. We know we wont but we cant seem to convince her mom because if she says one word about me she has to move. Also my girlfriend doesnt want to lie to her mom about talking to me which i dont blame her, but there has to be some way to get through this right?

Answer 1

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Well "mother knows best" is at present here. "We know we wont" ..there are no guarantees in a relationship that either partner will not hurt the other. Of course it isn't always intentional however fact is it's bound to happen and the possibility of excepting this fact shows emotional maturity. The info here is very vague in regards to the mother's main concern of harm that could possibly come from the two of you reuniting based on what she knows. I'm guessing either you are in your teens or your gf is and living at home. Say the relationship ended once again..are the two of you able to handle it maturely and accept the consequences because I think that would be the best approach to go about. Show the mother you consider taking responsibility on both your parts given the relationship does take a turn for the worst, this will not only suggest that you consider a more realistic thing to acknowledge rather then to say we had our differences & all from here on will be roses and cream. A mother must always look out for her daughters best interest, show her you genuinely have nothing but good intentions for her daughter and only if this is the truth. If it's real love then her mother will come around. If whatever reason the mother does not want you speaking to the daughter is based on lack or loss of respect you must do what you can to rebuild this. Do NOT sneak around with your gf it will only make you look bad and further worry the mother, so props to your gf for being honest because that takes more courage. Maybe set some rules with her mother so she feels comfortable enough to build trust on her terms.. that's a start. Good luck (:

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We know what we want and we know the consequences, but were ready to take everything on together. Her mom just wont listen to her and i cant talk to her mom without causing them to move.

Answer 2

Instead of asking your girlfriend to convince her mom, stand up for her and do it yourself. If you are really not going to hurt her, then prove it. I think this is the best way to show yourself and gain their trust.

Answer 3

talk to yur gf's mom yurself!