If a guy you really fancy, has a girlfriend, there is not anything wrong with being just friends?

Question

obviously i dont want to form resistant between him and his girlfriend, but do you think this is still ok

Answer 1

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No, as long as you don't except him to one day dump his girlfriend for you.
If you don't flirt with him and try to "get" him from her.
If you can emotionally deal with and don't get attached to him more than friends on a deeper level than just a passing fancy... you deserve a single guy..

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thnx

Answer 2

No way - men cannot be just freinds with girls in 99.99% of cases.

Answer 3

yes because u're intentions are to hook up with him. So u wouldn't be a true friend!

Answer 4

if your not flirting or being suggestive, then yea its ok (:
don't be a boyfriend stealer !!!!!!

Answer 5

Yeah, if you're not trying to seduce him. And that's okay.

Answer 6

hmm now this depends on the situation. personally i think it's grand as long as you understand the boundries, as in try to stay away from touching to much or even flirting slightly, just be a friend and eventually the feelings may go but you have to understand he has a girlfriend and it isnt fair on her to get her paranoid or jealous about you.

i have a boyfriend and recently discovered my best guyfriend really liked me. it was a major shock at first but we're still really good friends so i guess it can work out, but dont start thinking hell dump her for you or dont try and change his mind

Answer 7

Its ok I would say as long as you don't try and come between them of cause problems (you must respect their relationship). Though one thing I would say from your perspective is it may just be torturing yourself emotionally. I would also say it is a bit odd for a guy to want to become friends with a single girl during his his relationship, in less he naturally comes into contact with her through work/school or something ie she is friends with his girlfriend.

I think however if you were friends before his relationship and like I said you don't intend to cause problems etc then it should be ok, though his girlfriend might be warey of your motives so the friendship may be difficult to maintain. Though what I would say in this situation if his girlfriend does get insecure about your friendship with him and you have done nothing wrong then its her problem not yours so don't feel responsible for her irrational insecurity.

Another thing I will add is most guys can tell when their girlfriend is being a bit unreasonable about a friendship. However because they are in a relationship to avoid rocking the boat they are likely to go along with what she wants to keep the peace. After all if he was to just ignore her feelings on the situation it would look like he doesn't care and at the end of the day his girlfriend is his number one priority as if he was to rock the boat to much it would look like he cares more for you then her.

Answer 8

If your like the little hoe i had to deal with you would not just trying to be friends. As long as you are not like hey baby i am in love with you i want to be with you! then there is no problem but if you also want to feel awkward then go for it. If you really like the guy let him be happy but also find something that makes you happy! dont sit on the backburner and expect things to be all fine and dandy.

Answer 9

it can depend, if when you are around him you are flirting it wont be sending the best of messages especially if his gf is around as that can create tension in their relationship. However, it is always possible to be friends jsut try to keep ur feelings to yourself unless you feel that he may have the same feelings for u, on the hole though if you can keep the friendship go for it, u only have one life. live it to the full

good luck xx

Answer 10

Hi Angel, a lot depends upon whether the guy can accept that, but no one can stop someone from doing something that they want to do, and conversely, no one can make somebody do something that they don't want to.
Not without force, which can then lead to criminal charges.
Hope this helps,
Mike t.