My husband and son-in-law have a personality clash how do we deal with this at thanks giving?

Answer 1

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It sounds like your daughter married someone like her Dad and he doesn't like himself when he sees himself in his son-in-law. Tell them both that this is everyone holiday and all they have to do is eat, watch tv and keep their mouths shut for ever one else around them.

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Answer 2

Are they children that they don't know how to act in a social situation? This is kind of sad. You shouldn't have to deal with it at all. Tell your husband to grow up and stay away from those he can't play well with.

Answer 3

tell them to grow up! Shouldn't your husband be an adult and know when to shut his mouth in public by now.

Answer 4

You don't have to do anything really. It is there issue with each other. If you are looking for tension reducers talk to your husband before son in law comes over. Make it very clear that if he says or does anything to "ruin" thanksgiving his *** is grass for days. He is the adult in the situation and should act like one. If sonny acts like a tool then let him. He will be the one that is embarrassed. Then you can talk to your daugther and ask her to talk to son in law "mom talked to dad about being on best behavior, I want the same out of you. stop acting like a jack *** and be nice on thanksgiving" Any person that can't control their emotions is too wrapped up in their ego. They have total control over responses. The best response is no response. Just because someone says something you don't agree with doesn't mean you HAVE to respond. It is your ego telling you that you have to. Your husband and son in law must decide do they want to be right and ruin thankgiving or do they want peace. Every time they argue they are choosing to win over peace. Sad.

Answer 5

Get your husband aside and tell him to mind his manners while his daughter and husband are there. It is a time to be thankfull not haveing a family fude. When your daughter and husband get there, get your son-in-law aside and tell him the same thing. That way they both know what is expected of them for the few hours that they are in the same house. Tell them that they must burry the hatchet for that one day and get along for the sake of the rest of the family. Good Luck.

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Answer 6

try making a meeting with two of them before the thanksgiving day, help them to resolve their issues but if they are too stubborn to do that, ask them to atleast try to behave during the thanksgiving for everybody's sake
then the issue can be dealt with after that

Answer 7

Keep them apart at the dinner table.

Answer 8

Try to talk some sence to both of them..separately though They're adults and should be responsible for their actions. They should be civil to each other no matter what.so they won't spoil the party.