Do you think once a man is married?

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he acts like a child again and expects you to take care of him. Leaves his dishes around the house, his clothes all over the floor, doesn't help with the kids, doesn't do yard work, dishes, laundry, and you can't leave for a few hours because you will come home and he hasn't taken care of anything while you were gone?

Answer 1

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No. I think a man who does this after marriage is headed for divorce.

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agreed.

Answer 2

A man who is immature will act that way.

Answer 3

No, that's once a BOY is married. MEN, on the other hand, pick up after themselves and help around the house. This is why I strongly encourage women to marry men and not boys. You can tell the difference by how responsibly and maturely they behave.

Answer 4

That has nothing to do with marriage..he was already like this BEFORE you married..being married brought it all out

Answer 5

I think that SOME (absolutely not all) people will do what their spouse lets them get away with. This would be a gender nonspecific ting, because any person could do this, not just men.

Answer 6

You should know if your man will be like that. Usually they get more comfortable, but they don't chenge thier entire personality.

Answer 7

That's like saying housewives act like children...all the bills are paid, no really "important" things to do. My husband gets lots of things done for him so he can be a man in other ways like dedicating himself to being a good provider.

Answer 8

No that is NOT all men, just immature ones. Read up about "The Peter Pan Syndrome"

Answer 9

Like children, men will do what you let them get away with.
Unlike children, they have adult reasoning capacities and the ability to make sound decisions. For example, the decision to clean up after themselves and fulfill responsibilities in exchange for harmonious home life sexual gratification :)

Answer 10

yet you, in your infinite mature wisdom, keep giving him sex ANY TIMES HE WANTS IT.



AND you clean up after him EVERY SINGLE TIME.


Remind us, WHO needs to grow up in this relationship?



both of you have the maturity level of a 9 year old.


he wants a mommy/sex slave and you are stupid enough to act like one.

Answer 11

He don't give a f*#k about you !

Sorry but I had to let you know,

sense you asked !

Answer 12

Not any men i know do that you must be talking about boys or old baxstards

Queen of Beer my point exactly

Let me buy you a round what will you have dear. lol

Answer 13

I think you got some really great answers from the other posters. Read them over twice to get the sum of what they are saying.

Answer 14

that don't happen at our house.

Answer 15

uhhuh yeah they do that! and it aint cool! but they dont change either!

Answer 16

Quit b!tchin and get me a beer!

Answer 17

Does he work? Maybe he expects that you take care of the house and pick up after him if hes supporting you, none the less, draw your boundaries and tell him you want him to respect the household and role model the behaviour you expect from you kids (either now or later), so that includes the basic (pick up after yourself, put your dishes away and do you fair part in chores - vacum, unload dish washer, laundry ...etc)

He sounds lazy , if my husband acted this way I would be sitting down with him ASAP to discuss how that doesnt work for me and what we could do to both be happy (maybe I excuse his lazyness once a week so we can relax, but in turn he makes the additional effort to try on the other days)

Answer 18

When the sex stopped that's how I behaved for a while.
I made my own food and washed my own clothes.

When she would 'dump' the kids on me I refused to do any extra work.
e.g. If I come home and house is already trashed I'm wasn't about to clean it while she went out.

Also, we had a serious difference in opinion on discipline and responsibility for the kids (e.g. they are expected to clean-up after themselves) so I refused to clean-up after them as well.
You reap what you sow.

Another common failure-mode, is how he does things is never good enough for you. You can choose either to do things your way or accept how someone else does them.

Otherwise, get the book in the source and read it together, go over the section on how to build a loving chore-chart in particular.

Everyone is so quick to say zomg what an immature boy but it really is hard to say. Maybe he is being a man and enforcing limits and patiently waiting for you to grow-up.

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His Needs; Her Needs; Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
Not the messy spouse

Answer 19

My guy is the opposite. He always tidies up after himself, he makes the bed, etc. The first time I met him he walked me to my car. The windshield was covered with snow. I started to clean it off but he stopped me and said, "I can't let you do that!" He cleaned my windshield; I thanked him and asked him if he'd like a hug. He said, "Yes please." That was how we started and all this time later he's still quick to offer to do things and he's very helpful and capable around the house. :-)

Answer 20

you married a boy.

Answer 21

I don't know who you married but my husband nor my ex never did any of that. In fact if I had another " child" to take care of he'd be the first one put up for adoption!!!

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Tell him to grow up

Answer 22

If a man is acting like that, I think that they acted like that before you married, but they were trying to impress you so they tried to "show off" by helping out more than what they are accustomed to. Once you get married they no longer feel like they have to impress you, and stop.

Answer 23

That's a BOY NOT A MAN!