Does this girl even like me or not?

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My friend Kim, and I have been friends for about a year now. When we first met she was flirting with me, she was twirling her hair, smiling and laughing at my jokes. Someone said that I think Kim likes me. I didnt belive them. She was always smiling at me in Chem labs. When I held study sessions, she always came even though she was a Chem major, she always smiled at me, and twirled her hair. I was distracted. I gave her a cupcake she smiled.

Then we lost contact, and regained it in the summer, we texted all summer long. I was working, and she "boooo" ed me. She also told me she had a bf, and I was kinda bummed out. Then the fall semester came, and she smiled at me when she saw me.

She told me she had to go to her bf's boss's wedding, the day after I saw her she looked like a wreck. Then, her roomy came by, and said Kim misses me. She said that I should text Kim, and that I should come visit her.

3 weeks ago, I saw Kim, she smiled at me, and I said we should hangout sometime. She always complains she is too busy. She smiles and waves at me when she says goodbye. Then, yesterday I saw her, she gave me a brief smile, not as big as normal, and I invited her to the movies. She never showed up. I did not specify a time though, perhaps that is why. My friends thought Kim likes me, but she seems to be hot and cold about me.

My girlfriends also suggested she may like me, but has feelings for her bf as well. What can I do to better my friendship with Kim? I told hler yesterday that I missed her, and she should come over and watch a movie, but never showed up? Did I saw something wrong?

Please tell me what to do? I dont want to lose a good friend? I want to be there for her always. I love her. One the other hand, she needs to quit playing games with my heart. She needs to choose either him or me. Im 19 and never kissed a girl. I was always waiting for the right girl. I think she may be it.

She needs to quit playing with my emotions, I am going to get hurt by her. She is hot and cold. I dont get her. She is still with her bf.

I NEED TO TELL HER TO CHOOSE EITHER HIM OR ME? I CANT STAND HER PLAYING WITH MY EMOTIONS ALL THE TIME! IF SHE CHOOSES HIM, I HOPE SHE GETS HURT LIKE THE WAY SHE HURTS ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK OF HER. I THOUGHT SHE LIKED ME, BUT I GUESS I WAS WRONG! WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Answer 1

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Well, I think you should just come right out, and tell her how you feel about it. If you don't like that she's doing that. Ask her how she feels about you, don't be afraid to be straightforward. If she says she likes you, then ask her why she's always playing around with you feelings. I'm getting that she is just as confused as you are. I've been in the situation she is. Don't make her choose between you two though, and if she says she doesn't like you like that tell her that the way she acts makes it seem so, and just tell her how you feel.

Sorry I'm rambling a bit, and I hope this is helpful, and makes you feel a little better. :)

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Answer 2

i don't think you are at a "me or him" stage. she may be afraid of commitment period - not just with you but anyone.

if you want to see her give her a time/date/purpose. she may blow you off not because she doesn't like you but because she is not organized to commit to you or anyone.

last but not least - a friend is a friend is a friend - that is precious in itself - i miss my friends - i also blow them off because i am a hermit and or i don' t think what i do matters - that is a me issue not a them issue.

what should you do - well if you like her as a person be a friend - maybe just an occasional friend.

Answer 3

i think you have got it wrong here, the girl could just be trying to be friendly. a couple of smiles don't necessarily mean she likes you. yeah she might be flirty but thats the way some girls are and sometimes they don't even know that they are doing it.
whatever you do dont ask her to pick yourself or her bf because she might not think of you the way you think of her and this will damage the friendship you already have.
to be honest think she is trying to get the best of both worlds and if i were you i would not react, ok she may be pretty and stuff but she is not 100% interested and to be in a successful relationship both of you have to be 100% comitted.
anyway best of luck with whatever decision you make. :)

Answer 4

Okay, first of all, if you really care about her this way, you shouldn't say you want her to get hurt if she chooses the other guy. You should emphasize this to the point where you feel good for her if she enjoys her decision.

Second, if she's running hot and cold on you, you should sit down and have a talk with her. It's not healthy to just make a date to the movies and never really talk about what's going on. If she talks about her boyfriend, fine. It doesn't sound like you're trying to get in the way of their relationship. Just don't make it to obvious if you're bothered by her and the bf.

I guess the main question is, do YOU like her? You say all your friends think she likes you, but have you asked yourself how you truly feel about her? You're saying to tell her to choose between you two. Is this because you have feelings building up after this year you've known her? If you love her, you have to decide if it's the romantic way or the best friend way.

In terms of just trying to find out if she likes you, just ask her. Us girls love it when you're straightforward and we hate it when you're subtly suggesting that we like you guys. But don't just blurt out "hey, do you like me?" like a 3rd grader. Talk about how you guys have been friends for about a year now and lead the conversation to the point where she knows you're going to ask her if she does like you.

What can I say, about not kissing anyone? That's not a big problem. Alot of people don't kiss until their twenties, but you shouldn't worry. If you think this is the right girl, don't just kiss her. She'll take it the wrong way. First, you have to find out how she really feels about you. Secondly, how long has she known the bf? Have you 2 known each other longer? If so, she shouldn't be offended if you tell her how you feel. Don't say that you know her better than her bf, though. Trust me, we hate it when that happens.

As for you, you could take this advice or leave it. I'm not saying it'll work. But trust me, this is some answers from a girl who's been through a heartbreak by a friend.

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Personal experience.

Answer 5

kim sees you as only a friend that she can rely on, nothing more....

you are the one who is in love with her, but she isn't really in love with you and she really isn't playing games with you.

that is who she is, she is just friendly....i bet she is like that to all her guy friends, not just you.


sorry, but you misinterpret her generosity and kindness.

she loves her bf, just be her friend and find another girl who is really attracted to you.