Should I worry about my bf and his new co-pilot?

Question

I have been with this man for a little over a year, and recently he got a new co-pilot. She is 25 and he is 28. At first he seemed uninterested in her being his co-pilot, but after they spent a whole weekend working together she is all he talks about. He even mentioned that she has no boyfriend and she has perfect breast for her size. He usually is unfriendly to his co-workers and a homebody but in the last week he has been staying late at work "just bulls@#ting" with the guys. Keep in mind some of these flights last 6 hours one way. Also he has seemed irritated and stressed lately at the kids and me. I am usually a very secure person, but I was married before him and this was my ex-husbands signature right before he would leave me and the kids for another woman. My head tells me he would not cheat or leave me, but my heart is saying watch out and get prepared. Like I wrote before, these are all signs I have seen before, just in different types of men. I have expressed my concern about this to him and he thinks I am overreacting.Am I overreacting? Isn't this the classic way people become friends with someone? Or is it just a way out?

Additional Details

we are not married and have been living together for a year.

Answer 1

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Don't over-react first off... this will just stress you, your kids, and him out.
Remind him of why he is with you! do something special with him, take the kids to a sitter one night and something he loves.
Make him feel special. This may be a reason he's talking to her. Men are like dogs, they will take attention any way they can get it... if their owner doesn't they will go to the neighbors. Some may disagree but I've seen a fair share off problems with this and this is personally what I've learned.
If he is interested in her, the least he could do is be up front about it! Just because he may like her doesn't mean he will cheat... it all goes back to the attention required to keep a man happy.

But, if he really is interested in her, don't fight it. I don't know how serious you are (living together or what) but if he is seeing this as a way out, don't drag it out! It will only make it worse...hold your head high, remind him of why he's with you, how awesome you are, and how he's lucky to have a woman like you!

Good luck!

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Bad Relationships and GFs with bad realtionships

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Thanks for the positive side, and the understanding. When I think about it I do believe that I got so used to our relationship that I did forget to make him feel special...going to try tonight and see if we can talk some of this out!

Answer 2

he is cheating.

Answer 3

These are all red flags. And you know that just trust your instinct... Better yet go out for a quiet dinner and just talk. You wanna know the truth right? Even if it hurts? Talk to him (calmly) and ask him what's going on.


Good Luck.

Answer 4

I think you know good & well what's going on here. And how disrespectful of him to talk about her to you all the time!! Making comments about another woman's breasts and body to his wife? are you kidding me? I just want to know exactly what type of relationship the two of you have where he thinks it's okay to be so openly disrespectful to you. You need to put your foot down and be firm with him while demanding the truth. If this continues, leave him. Life is too short to be dealing with this nonsense. You deserve better. In the meantime, be prepared for what can happen, because this sounds like a divorce waiting to happen. I definetely would not tolerate this from any man & neither should you. Also, you should find out what it is that keeps you attracted to these types of men & get rid of it.