Brother Trouble Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…

Question

My brother is super immature, he is 14 and I'm 12 but it seems like I am always the older sibling! He hurts me and doesn't care what I say, he makes stupid jokes and all the girls think he's hot even my friends! I hate it and can't take it any more it's not normal he lies all the time. He tells me I am fat and anorexic and I'm not either of thoughs I have allways wanted a nice brother a cant deal with it any more.

Answer 1

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Sweetheart, talk to your parents and then have a little meeting with them and your brother...sounds like maybe he has some problems that maybe they can help him with..ask him to have a serious talk with him and tell him how much you want a good relationship with him and he is making you have ill feelings toward him and you just want a good brother..unfortunately many 14 yr old boys are like this..he will probably grow out of it but until then its best to express your feelings...maybe he doesnt realize how much it is bothering you!! Good luck!

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31 yr old mother of 3! I also have a 10 yr old daughter!

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That was really nice of you I know what to do now and feel confident! Every answer help! THANK YOU SO MUCH! but just to tell you my parents allready know and don't care.

Answer 2

seriusly u have to learn TO IGNORE!!!
He sees that it hurts u and he does it even more....
dont show ur feelings.
or maybe talk to him about it(i dunno if that would work)

Answer 3

everyone has terrible siblings. GET OVER IT.

Answer 4

ive got the same problem. its a brother what can you do? ive been trying to figure it out for years. and ive got five of them!

Answer 5

just tell ur parents!

Answer 6

You should be telling your parents this, not strangers on the internet who really can't do a thing to help you.

Answer 7

time to toughen up and get back at him. Return the favor with pranks to drive him nuts

Answer 8

Sonds like your average lame-*** brother. My sister and brother have been fighting since they were able to walk and talk. Best bet is to just ignore him and tell him how immature he is being. Hopefully he grows up sooner or later.

Answer 9

get him some ritalin and put him in a corner....LOL

Answer 10

My older brother was like that with me...and now were best friends.

I dont know why they do it, but you can't let it get to you. Try giving him a hug out of the blue, it will catch him off track.

In a way he may be trying to toughen you up so he doesnt have to worry about you as much.

Answer 11

my brother is the same way.. but he is getting better now that he is 17, he can still be a jerk sometimes and he calls me fat and anorexic too but dont worry he will mature with age

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I have the exact same kind of brother

Answer 12

Well, honey. You have to deal with it. Unless, your parents are divorced and you can live with the other one. Anyhow, my Brother is two years older too, and when I was your age my dad used to tell me "he's the only you'll ever have" and its true. He'' mellow out with age.
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Answer 13

Just ignore him. I grew up with 5 older brothers who all bugged me at some stage.
Now I love them all dearly.
It is just a teenage thing.
It will pass.
Be patient and try not to get into rows with him.

Answer 14

Dang that's messed up. Maybe you should find a way to show your friends how he really is and the other girls. Like record it somehow or just make him do it around them. Idk. Good luck. :)

Answer 15

WTF?! what's your question? BROTHERS always do that! He's probably acting like that to get attention. Guys do that, i have a 2 brothers that act the same way as your brother!

Answer 16

Eventually your brother will mature, it takes longer for us guys though. Give him time. He loves you he is just too immature to show it and thinks it will make him unpopular. I'm guessing he teases you the most when he is around friends and trying to impress them am I right? Anyway hang in there. Someday when you need him most he will be there for you. You'll see :)

Answer 17

If you wait long enough your brother will become more mature. For now he is just a big goofball who does things to annoy you. You can only control your own self so try to put up with him for now until he grows a bit more mature and nicer to be around. Good luck.

Answer 18

i have a brother like that but sometimes hes nice and sometimes hes not sometimes i ignore him and sometimes i hit him

Answer 19

P.A.R.E.N.T.S?
Don't try and hide your feelings, or else nobody will notice and help. Or you could spill a dirty secret and embarrass him in front of all the girls who think he's hot.

Answer 20

Talk to your mother or your father about it. Or you could always spend the night at your friends house when your brother acts up like that. My brother does that to me sometimes too.. he calls me names, but I just ignore it.

Also, it sounds like he is jealous of you.. if he won't leave you alone, he must want your attention for something, I guess.. if I was you'd tell him to just stop being jealous and to grow up.

Thank you and have a good day.

Answer 21

My apologies, but you can't change your brother, and who he is. What you have to do is rise above him and BE THE MATURE ONE, trust me, all of that immaturity will catch up with him in the future, and he will get his punnishment. If he's in high school, he will soon get either beat up or told off by someone, and if that doesnt help him become mature, i dont know what will. I hope this helped.

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Personal Experience

Answer 22

He's doing all this to get a reaction out of you. Do your best to ignore what he says, and if he says something really hurtful then be sensible with your reaction. Don't cry or shout, just look him right in the eyes and say "Stop insulting me."

You need to be stern and not so emotional. It's ok to feel upset, in fact in this situation I couldn't understand if you weren't upset, but don't show him that you're upset.

Also, the cold shoulder technique would work well on him, just ignore him. If he asks you a question then give him a one-worded answer without making eye contact.

He's being rude and annoying because he's a teenager and he wants to push his boundaries and get a reaction. If he doesn't get the attention he wants then he will give up.

It may take a week or two before things get better but keep trying.

Good Luck.

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My brother is a brat too

Answer 23

hah that sounds exactly like me & my brother. im same age as u but my brother's 15. he used to be soooo enoying to, but you'll pobly find that when he gets older he get abit less innoying (mine did lol). for now i would just ingnor the stupid stuff he's sayin nd he'll probly get the picture that you do'nt care about the innoyin stuff he's sayin nd start to leave u alone. :) hope this helped :)

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experience with innoying older brothers lol :)

Answer 24

i have an older brother too. hes pretty immature also. listen:
THERES NO SUCH THING AS A NICE BROTHER.
maybe they have their moments, but thats it. just ignore him. tell all of your friends how he really is. and the lying part, just get him back with your own lies. and remember, revenge is sweet!!!

Answer 25

calm down i have a bor to he snot like that but sometimes when he gets on my nerves ther are a couple of options,one you can go in your room shut the door and scream into the pillow 2.make sure your parents are around yell realli loudly at your brother to either STOP IT RIGHT NO or if he is hurting you STOP TOUCHING ME YOU CREEPER!i mean realli loud or just scream like there is no 2morrow,trust me he won't do it again or your parents wil stop this.

Answer 26

If it really bothers you that much then talk to your parents and have them step in, before it gets worse.
There's a million ways to skin this cat, so just go about it by trying things one at a time, until you find something that works.
You are his little sister, which means there are thousands of ways that you could embarrass him and make his life a living hell, if you chose to do so.
Tell him that is exactly what you will start doing, if he doesn't start treating you with a little respect.
Most important of all, be willing to follow through with what it takes to teach him a lesson.

Answer 27

Embarrass him in front of as many people as possible. Tell your friends that he still wets the bed occasionally. Or do the big thing and accept his faults, know that in the next few years there'll be times he needs your help and you can let him suffer, or you can have him indebted to you. You'll be free from his tyranny soon enough, especially if he wants to have a chance with your friends.

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life!