I told him I did not think he loves me, so I just wanted to be friends,?

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I told him I wanted to be friends because I did not think he loves or cares for me, I told him I wanted to still be cool you know every now and then speaking, or texting, but he said no. He removed me from all online social networks and would not reply to any of my calls or texts. I called him a lot after freaking out because I still cared for him and wanted to remain in contact with him, he came very upset and told me that I don’t mean a thing to him( I don’t want to believe that, after 1 year and 7 months of dating) and that I was crazy and need help ( I don’t want to believe that, after 1 year and 7 months of dating) I was very, very, very good to him... I just want to know why would somebody say that to someone that he maintain such a close friendship with for so long, the just erase them and not want to be coo, ok or anything with that person? He was good to me also... it has been about 15 days since I called, and text and sent him what I then called my last email saying... I just wanted to be friends what was the harm in that and that he hurt me, and no good would come of him not treating people right. I told him in the email I was here if he need and I have not contacted him again. Thing is I really care for him and I can not stand not being able to communicate with him at all. I’m not asking for a girlfriend boyfriend thing I just don’t understand why we cant still be friendly. I want to know should I wait a month or so to reach out, and if so what do I say. I’m not mad at him, and I don’t want him to be mad at me. Should I just leave him alone as he asked? We have been through this before and some how we always started to speak again but this time feels different somehow. I remember when he told me we would always have something special... I don’t see how a few phone calls and texts should make that change. I don’t understand... I know he said we cant be friends because we have been intimate, and had emotions.. but I feel that’s the exact reason we should be... because we do(did) at one time or another share so much how could we not. When should I try to say something to him, if at all? If so what should I say to open the lines of communication? I cant seem to get over him? I sit and wish and wonder.... if he thinks of me, if he thinks he said too much that he cant contact me. Is it possible that he really did not care after all that time, and what he said 15 days ago was what he really felt. Any advise is REALLY appreciated.

Answer 1

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From what I read on your question, you didn't do anything wrong. You were just being polite, honest, & truthful about the status of your relationship with him & for somehow, he just wanted something more from you besides being friends. He was caught off guard by what you said & decided to completely shut you out of his life. I know that you care about him way down deep, but right now he's hurt, angry, & confused about the situation he's in & what to do next. Give him time to completely think about what he's going through & let him sort these things out for himself. Trying to call, text, or e-mailing him will not do anything to patch things up quickly between the two of you. It's best for you to just leave him alone & move on with your life. I know it's hard, I been there before. It hurts so much that you can't stand the pain of heartbreak every single minute of the day, but put your thoughts of him aside & move on. That's the best you can do in this situation & in time, it will get better. My thoughts & prayers go to you during your difficult time.

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Thank you so much what you said makes sense, hard to accept but it is reality, just wish I knew for sure one day we would speak again. But your advice is dead on, again thank you for your heart felt, decent, thoughtful and respectful answer!

Answer 2

Leave him alone - you are acting crazy.
When he is ready he will contact you.

Answer 3

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