WHY IS MY LIBRA MOM SO CRUEL UNDERNEATH IT ALL?

Question

on the surface, she is nice but underneath, she is so cruel, she knows that I have an eating problem yet she buys food for me, tons and tons of junk food, sometimes she even hides it from my dad and give it to me. I hate she knows I have a huge problem, yet she is still enabling me and sometimes even buys more than is possible.

For example and I am guilty of this, but I would ask her if she can buy me some french fries, she ended up buying me 2 large french fries, a big mac, an ice cream sundae and 4 cookies. Yes I do ask her for food because I can't stop being a binge eater, but she always buys me more than I ask for, and when I confront her, she says she doesn't know, ignore me, she hates fighting so she shut me out, then she does the same thing OVER and OVER again. I'm starting to think she hates me and want me to obese just like her.

Answer 1

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Don't make a generalization like that for all Libras. Astrology is not simple like that. I'm a Libra with a Cancer Moon, so empathy is one of my stronger qualities. I am certainly not too far off in "la-la" land, as some answers put it, to realize what I'm doing to other people. I do not hide from problems and try to make everything happy and peaceful, nor do I run away from confrontation.

Your mom here has deep seated issues, and I think you are absolutely right in assuming that she is trying to make you like her. She's insecure about herself and her own will power, so she is passive aggressively destroying yours. She justifies it to herself by saying that she's giving you what you want, but what she's doing is truly cruel.

Remember, astrology is a complicated thing. People are not just a Sun sign. You have 10 planets, an Ascendant, 12 houses, and numerous aspects and degrees to consider. If all Libras (or any other sign) were exactly the same, the world would be a pretty pathetic and predictable place. An experienced astrologer would need to look at your mom's full chart to get an idea of why she might be doing what she's doing, and even then, astrology can only predict potential.

The only thing you can do right now is to be strong and to not succumb to what she gives you. I have a binge eating problem myself, so I know how hard that can be to deal with. When you have friends and family throwing food in your face, it's hard to say no. If she gives you what you want, you'll just have to stop asking. If she gives you stuff you didn't ask for, simply say no thank you and give it away. If she is force feeding you, then that's an issue of abuse...

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thanks for understanding me.

Answer 2

Libras lack something called "empathy". They think just because it makes you happy, that is must be *good* for you. Though, they fail to see the bigger picture. If you express to her that you'd like her to show you more tough love when facing your addiction, and make it clear you want to end your vice. She will help you, but really get it through to her. Sometimes you just have to spell it out for them in words because they're too far in la-la land to realize they're actually hurting people.

Though, you can't blame your mother. You can only blame her to an extent... it is called will power, and self control, and these will help you more than she can.

Answer 3

I think Libra moms are like that, TOO LENIENT, they love you and well, don't really go to the best routes when expressing it. What you have to do is tell her straightforward that you need support from her and do this over and over again because they're stubborn to me. And remember, you have to be the one to help yourself sometimes. I still love my mom lots!

Answer 4

she thinks shes being nice! You have to straight up tell her "It would make me HAPPY if you would buy healthier foods for me." She thinks she's making you happy by buying you what you asked for and beyond! Be straightforward. You can't blame it all on her either! You need to have self-control too and not eat as much. Nobody WANTS somebody else to be obese. That's stupid! Especially a Libra. Libra's are all about justice and everyone gets a fair chance. It would help if we knew your sign too!

Answer 5

my mum isa libra and she is just caring for u!!! libra mums rule!!!
u should eat, she doesnt want u to become anorexic and die!!
libra mums are very controlling as parents but also fair they lov their kids too much.

Answer 6

Hmm well I am a Libra and my mum is a Libra too. I know that my mum was soft to me and sometimes too soft so that I did not do enough for myself. I can say that she used to sometimes let me smoke when I was 13 and now she blames herself for me smoking. I must say though I would have probably smoked anyway. I do feel sorry for my mum though because she is nice deep down but has done things and clearly feels guilty.

Often Libras like to do anything to please their children and do not want their children to leave home etc - so they will try to do everything for them. They are experts on relationships and can use this in a bad way like to make people dependant on them. Some Libras crave the attention of having people need them and feeling appreciated so much that they often cannot see the wood for the trees. I am not like that though - honestly. My partner is on a diet so it is an excuse for me to eat all his crisps and snacks! and I do not need feel guilty because I am doing him a favour HAHA!

Source(s):

Sun in Libra, Moon in Gemini, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Capricorn

(My mum is Sun in Libra, Moon in Pisces, Venus in Libra, Mars in Capricorn)

My father has Sun in Taurus, Moon in Taurus, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Taurus - He was the strict one. Sometimes I would go to my mum and beg her when my father said no. It made me compete with my father a bit for attention which was a bad thing).

Answer 7

You sound like such a whiny baby right now. Whining about it WILL NOT help you get anywhere. You say she hates you and buys all these fatty food for you when you asked for it once! Your mom can buy you a lot of junk food and you could have the choice to not eat it. Then would you be obese today? Probably not, it's called self-control. You're just going to have to accept that being obese is your fault too. Don't be blaming it on your mom and all the libra moms. Now you're making everyone think that all the libra moms out there are cruel to everyone and self-absorbed freaks that don't give a **** about their children. That's not the case at all.
If you want your mom to understand, then you have to say it to her in a way she can comprehend. Not yelling or shouting at her for all the damage she caused. Tell her straight-up that the junk food she buys is not helping her and you. And maybe when she does go buy groceries, tag along and buy the things you need. You have to tell her all of it and make this issue serious. If you keep putting it behind you, then this problem will keep repeating itself. Make an effort to be on a healthy diet before it's too late to change anything.

Source(s):

I'm not trying to sound mean, I just want to tell you my honest opinion.

Answer 8

It's not about her being a Libra, it's about her being a mum....YOUR mum. When i had Anorexia, my mother (a Virgo) would put food in front of me because she was worried and didn't want to lose me, now i'm not saying you're anorexic, but i am saying that just because your mum is a Libra it doesn't mean that this has anything to do with it. It's something that comes naturally to mothers; my adoptive grandmother is a Scorpio, and she loves to cook for people and becomes very offended when people do not eat the food put in front of them...but this doesn't mean that it's a Scorpio thing...she just wants to look after the people she loves. Obese people tend to think that food=love and even more so if they are mothers....your mum probably thinks that by giving you food, she's showing you how much she cares about you....even if she's ignoring the fact that you have a tendancy to binge, as far as she's concearned, you need more 'love'.

Source(s):

Cancer