Worried about telling husband my depression has come back, how can I tell him without him worrying?

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4 years ago I went threw a bad boute of depression and tried to end my life, now I am on a new medication it dosent seem to be working but im worried to tell husband because he has enough on his plate how can I deal with the depression (I have bipolar)

Answer 1

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First, you have to get back to your doctor and explain that the meds don't seem to be doing the job: maybe he can increase your dose or try something different.

Second, there is never a good time to tell a loved one that we are on the verge of crashing again, but if we don't tell, they can't help us. And you have to know that he wants to help, right?

So don't be dramatic but don't downplay or hide anything-- he deserves to know all. Just tell the truth: 'Honey, my meds aren't working, and I'm feeling pretty down. I went back to the doctor and we are trying something different. I just want you to understand that if I get a little blue the next couple of weeks, it has nothing to do with you. I'm sorry my illness has made both our lives more difficult, and I love you even more for the way you've stood by me.'

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thanks for that. I am bipolar so he probually can tell when things arent going right anyways.

Answer 2

Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: "Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen." I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.