My ex threatened to files charges against me with my human resources department?

Question

I dated her for 8 months and I broke the relationship up several months ago. She was fine with it and never came after me and didn't make a big deal at all at work. (We work in the same company, but in diff building, so we dont work together).

I tried to be friends and would show up to say hi every so often. I'd ask her for lunch, but she declined.

She never really reciprocated and once I asked for lunch again...she finally said no and asked for me to stop. She told me she had found emails that I had sent to my ex during the relationsh (true) and had no interest in pursuing any kind of relationship with me.

She threatened to go to the human resources department if I insisted.

I think i made the situation worse by trying to be nice. Am I missing something?

Answer 1

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YOU broke up with her. It sounds like you cheated on her with your ex. So....why can't you just move on and leave her alone? If you are foolish enough to continue pursuing her after she has so blatantly told you to get lost, then you probably deserve to be reported to Human Services. Get a grip!!

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Answer 2

Leave her alone and you will be fine.

Answer 3

Asked....and answered....move on

Answer 4

Besides the fact that you are paying for being an emotional cheater? No you're not missing anything.

Why not just grant the woman what she ask for, respect her wishes and leave her the hell alone?

Case solved, no more issues or concerns about being reported to HR.

Answer 5

I'm guessing she mistook you being nice with you trying to get back together with her. She may be upset that you sent those emails to your ex while you guys were together because she may still have feelings for you. Just leave her alone and you won't have anything to worry about.

Answer 6

no she still angry about the breakup , so for your sake and your job leave her along before she start
telling lies on you out of spite...

Answer 7

Beat her to the punch. Go to your HR department first. Tell them what's going on -- that you used to date but broke up, but now she's threatening to report you to them for something you didn't do.

That way, if she follows through on her threats, the HR people will already know ahead of time. It will look much better for you then.
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Answer 8

You need to move on. She found out you had feelings for someone else, and she decided not to pursue you anymore. Respect this and move on. Leave her alone or she will have a reason to file a complaint, because she's turned down your offers to lunch and whatnot.

Let it go. Don't be nice - don't be anything. Just leave her alone.