Fiancee is turning into a major pain?!?

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Okay so I'm in my third year of med school while my fiancee has started her residency already. When we got together I made it clear to her that I wont be able to give her a lot of attention while I'm attending med school since this is extremely important to me and my family. She keeps complaining about me never taking her out and studying all the time, when she was the same way while attending med school! She really should be focusing on her residency a lot more than she is too.

Not to mention I have to work part time and study a lot, since my field tends to be a little competitive. I think she may also be a little jealous I scored way above her on the USMLE step 1's, since she hasn't been the same ever since she saw my score.

What should I do?

Answer 1

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Oh please. You can find 5 minutes to call her to tell her love her. You can meet her for lunch now and then. You can FIND the time to spend with her, if you bothered to make an effort.

Med school is exhausting. I get it. But you are ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED to this woman. She wants reassurance that your marriage won't fall apart once you're both working in your incredible demanding careers. That's why it's important to set good habits now, before you're married.

Here's what I suggest... on a day-to-day basis, find those few minutes here and there to call her, text her, say good morning and good night, and just show her that you're thinking of her. For the bigger picture, get in the habit of planning your dates ahead of time... maybe as much as a month ahead of time. Plan GOOD dates with your fiance, such as tickets to the theatre, or a nice dinner out, or a TV marathon at home with pizza. When date night comes around, make it the #1 priority.

In short, your classes and studies are important, but so is your future wife. They are all your priority... but they can take turns for what is in the #1 slot. Make sure your fiance makes it to the top of that list with regularity.

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I didn't mean to post this question, it was incomplete and it was mainly me venting, it was late. I certainly do take my gf out and tell her I love her every day. Check out the link to the correct, complete version of this question. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…

Answer 2

you should be single....your not ready to be engaged obviously. Your fiance aka future LIFE PARTNER should be priority in your life if not REALLY important. Therefore, you don't need to be engaged until this can occur between the two of you.

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Been engaged and was in a very serious relationship. They should be your #1