I'm worried that I'll never get married, advice?

Question

Now I'm sure this sounds silly since I've just turned 18 a few months ago, but I'm really worried that I'll never find the right guy and get married. I've only had 2 boyfriends, neither very serious and 1 guy where we were kinda dating but it was never official. I'm still a virgin, not really in a rush about losing it though and it's not that I'm ugly, I'm just average but a little chunky (definitely not fat though). My mom keeps telling me I'll meet someone at college when I start in the spring but I don't think I will, I'm just so shy. My biggest fear right now is that I won't get married and I'll be alone forever. I was just at a wedding on saturday which really got me thinking about all of this, and now it's all I think about. Do you think I'll ever find someone?

Answer 1

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Hey girl,

Are you a true virgin still? If so, PLEASE DON'T LET ANYONE touch you!!
The first person I was with I met in college. He looked healthy to me, but it is not all about the surface. HIV isn't the only threat, there are also STD's. It ain't even worth it... I say as soon as a guy wants to do something with you, give him the boot. No matter how infatuated you are with him! Please? :)

Now, with respect to relationships... I am 22 and for the past two years I was feeling like I was so happy to finally have met someone I could marry one day. Now I'm not so sure, he is not quite what I expected... I think marriage will come to you when you are ready. True love will find you. It will respect you and wait for you.
Relationships can become so complicated. IT takes years to get to know someone!

You are especially young! I am young! ... I think all we need to be concerned with is going out with our girl friends, guy friends. Studying. Not waiting by the phone for some guy to call us.
We need to be independent right now...
When I get out of my current "relationship" (or long distance nightmare), I want to stay single. I am not going to get married until I have enjoyed my life thoroughly.

I do not want to end up a single mother. Just think about it, girl! I'm just sayin'. We will be OK! We need to work on making ourselves beautiful and strong on the inside before any man can step up to us. Otherwise, they'll take advantage...

Sorry so long!!!

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Personal experience. Past and present.

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Asker's Comment:

thanks thats exactly what i needed to hear! i'm sorry about your relationship, hopefully everything works out. i don't want to get married right now, i'm just afraid i never will, and yes i am a true virgin lol

Answer 2

If you can still post this question in twenty-something years then maybe you'll have room for concern. But until then, no.

Answer 3

You're eighteen? Relax pls when you turn 25 and you single then come back again

Answer 4

aw hun dont wry about it. seriously you will find love wen you least expect it! trust me thats what happened to me. ive had one bf ill be 19 soon but i started dating him wen i was 16. didnt even bother dating. didnt put up with any bull crap. was a virgin. and played really hard to get. wen we found each other i wasnt even looking for anyone or interested. i knew it was going to happen whether im 16. 19 25. and so on. so as long as you know one day it is going to happen trust me it will! dont search dont worry just believe someone is out there for you. and there is. Good luck!

Answer 5

First of all you are way to young to be worrying about getting married. You will lose guys at that age if they think you thinking about marriage. How about you enjoy your life and worry about marriage later. So go get educated, get your life together then start thinking about marriage.

Answer 6

18 eh? when I was that age marriage was the last thing on my mind, actually I had no intentions of ever getting married living with my parents who needed a wife? well guess what a few years down the track I got hitched to a wonderful woman didn't see that coming. been married 20 years know & loving it. so just wait bide your time you will get there your still young & free, take your time you will have some ups & downs but you will get there, so just enjoy life while you are still young. You go girl.

Answer 7

yessss girl! I use to feel like that at that age too buttttttt

now I am 22 and engaged to the best man in the world <3333

be patient love will come when you least expect it =-)

Answer 8

I actually turned 18 a few days ago and i'm still with my first boyfriend. You'll be fine, u've already had two boyfriends so u have a good chance of getting another one and ur gonna be starting college which means a lot more boys to choose from and a lot more parties. Plus ur only 18 that gives u plenty of time to find a guy and alot of relationships don't get serious until college.

Answer 9

just chill and don't worry stuff like that. Being 18 and all you should have more important things to worry about! I'm sure he'll come along... especially when you least expect it!!!

Answer 10

Sweetheart, read and re-read these wise answers -- especially idolking -- if you can write this in 20-25 yrs.then I'd be concerned. Your life hasn't hardly started! I hope the wedding wasn't for one of your friends! Contrary to popular belief, marriage is dedication and hard work, and its not 2 halves making a whole! You need to be whole all by yourself. Enjoy your life!

Answer 11

I have found that if you stop worrying and don't look then it seems to happen. When you go to college maybe some of that shyness will wear off. Find some good girl friends and do things with them and stop worrying about the future. Live for today. If it is in the cards Mr. Right will come along and appreciate you even more because you are a virgin. That is pretty special in this day and age. I was worried once too and when I said to myself that it would never happen, it did.. So just enjoy life and do good in college and have some good fun before you settle down and are stuck at home with kids. It's funny how we worry about this and then when we get a man for keeps we think how much fun we had when we didn't have one.