Why do I feel like this... 10 points for best answer?

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I already asked this question in mental health section, but i didn't get the respond I need so i posted here in this section 'cause I so in need for a good answer...

Few days ago my sweet boyfriend (he's the first man in my life) that I love and trust blindly hurt me when we were talking about his book that going to be published soon and he admitted that used his writing talent from the start to make me love him only because I’ve never been touched by any man before and never been in love so he wanted to be the first and he said it exactly like this:
" I wanted to make love to you because I knew if I would be the first man inside you that there would never be another man to ever get your love"
I haven't showed him and sign of pain or anger or anything, I pretended everything is good and I’m ok with what he said but I spent two days crying and feeling so much pain and lonely thinking about the big fake fairy tale I was living.
And then things wont worst yesterday when some guy I used to like very much called me after long time never heard from him, I thought everything going to be great with his call and he can make me feel better after my big disappointed with my bf. But the shock was that he didn’t even recognize me and said he only called because he found my number in his cell phone so he called to know whose number is this. I felt it right in my stomach like a stab that deep pain but I swallowed my tears and said like it doesn't matter who am I then hanged up the phone. I felt like crying but couldn’t drop a tear maybe one hour later I dropped some tears then nothing just went to the kitchen and have a late dinner which I don’t usually then went to bed…
And when I woke up this morning I started to have this weird feelings or better say I have no feelings at all... I felt like nothing happened at all in the past few days I am not happy or even sad nothing at all. My mother yelled at me and insulted me because of something I told and didn't feel bad for it and didn't even got bothered with her words. And I watched this poor sick child with cancer on the TV and it was normal to me I didn’t felt pain for him. I tried to do my exercise but I couldn’t and thought like: what for?
I tried to listen to some music but couldn’t feel the rhythm, I tried to pray but I couldn’t reach to the spiritual level in the prays and also tried to write about my failure relationship and some poetries but felt like there’s nothing to write about. I truly don’t know what’s wrong with me! Even when I am writing these words I don't feel like real worry I don’t' know how to describe it exactly but I only wonder why am I like this and how did I reach this level.
So please would any body tell me what’s really going with me?
Anything would help really.
Most appreciated

Answer 1

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

Your bf said he wanted to be first, that then he would be the one forever. What does he say now?
He is done. Talk to him maybe you have misunderstood his meaning.
Good luck, time will help heal your pain

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Asker's Comment:

Yes you were right honey. Thank you so much for your smart answer.

Thank you all for giving part of your times, and i was really confuse who must have the 10 points thank u all

jimjam thanx for yur understanding, you're totaly right

Answer 2

Why do cretins who have to blab on for ages always state '10 points'?

WE KNOW IT'S FIKKIN 10 POINTS - YOU BRAINDEAD CHILD.

Answer 3

i think you jsut feel numb, at first you got hurt of what your bf said so after a while u cant stay crying about it i know excatly what your saying, you just feel numb of what your bf said and everything feels likee bllah like u got no felings at all i been thru this so manny times.

Answer 4

sometimes when people are in great pain over sumthin serious, they are frozen, you know? Like how you described, no emotion. I have been like this before, dealing with a death in my family, cried alot, then was like a zombie. You need to tell your boyfriend that it bothered you when he told you his selfish act. Let him know that it's not gonna be the same since he admitted that to you. Hopefully things work out, if not, then maybe that was a good thing he told you, better to find out now than later, when things got more serious.

Answer 5

I have been through the exact same thing. Your BF is a manipulative and he took advantage of you which is horrible and deep inside you feel used and hurt kinda betrayed. I understand. if you would like to talk about this more than fell free to go here

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Answer 6

this is very weird, and it sounds strange..i'm sorry, but i don't know why you can't feel..

but i think if you want to cure whatever is happening, you just need some love and caring person to comfort you..go to someone that you know always is happy and loves you...maybe they would cheer you up....

if i were there i would give you a big hug...

Answer 7

Damn that was long. Ummmm there is nothing wrong with you. That's how a heartbreak feels. You obviously love him and he was trying to tell you that he wanted to be your first love but he was stupid and he was just confessing because he probably felt bad. It happens. He wouldn't have confessed it if he didn't care. Hope it helps.

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Answer 8

I think you're probably going through a kind of shock process. My advice would be to get out. This boyfriend sounds like a loser. Get rid of him. Anyone who would say that to a girl is not worth being with. Go on a vacation. Go to your favorite place, just get out for a few days and start fresh upon coming home.
Also, please continue to pray. I don't mean to preach, but if you think about it, in the toughest times, Heavenly Father will never abandon you. He loves you more than anyone else, and He can help you.
I wish you good luck.

Answer 9

it sounds like you are just emotionally drained, and when you get to that state everything seems a lot worse than it actually is, you didn't get the right response from the mental health section because this is not a mental health issue. it is a fact that women also have about 4 "down days" a month and besides what men think it is not because it is that time of the month it is because women just have more of the "emotional hormones" just give yourself some time and do some things that make you happy just to make you smile again, i would also reccommend you talk to your boyfriend about how much he hurt you, if he cares about you he'll try and make it right.

Answer 10

Well first off, you were hurt by someone you cared about and who you thought cared about. That's emotionally traumatic as it is, and then when you add the pain of being forgotten or not recognized by someone you used to care about and your emotions tend to go a little wonky. It doesn't help that you kept everything bottled up and that you didn't tell your boyfriend exactly what you were feeling. The trick is to trust your very first instinct about people and to let yourself be heard. What's going on with you is heartbreaking but not out of the ordinary. It will pass with time and as you gain back your self confidence, until then you just have to pick yourself up and brush yourself off, and show everyone that you can't be knocked down that easily. And don't be afraid to speak your mind, it works wonders on gaining confidence.

Answer 11

I would say your self-preservation system kicked in. Probably the shock and the pain you felt was too much for you to handle at that point and now a kind of numbness occurred to protect you from more pain.

I really think this is only temporary and you should give it time. In the meantime try to focus on activities that make you happy and put a smile on your face.

Also, don't keep your pain inside. If you can, talk to your boyfriend openly and calmly and describe to him how you felt when he said those things. If you don't express your feelings, especially those of disappointment and hurt, they tend to build up inside you and the result is that "numbness self-preservation mechanism".

Answer 12

its a diffrent stage of your emotions
your over the crying and letting it out part
your still upset about it and it makes you feel apathetic
its basically like
you let all your emotions out
and now you dont have any more to let out
it will take some time but youll eventually get over it

Answer 13

I think deep down inside you feel like you have been hurt so bad that you just don't want to feel anything anymore. Because u think that when u actually feel something, u will hurt again! Which is completely untrue, i've tried to make myself emotionless like that for awhile after my first big heartbreak but after awhile i was thinking 'Why would i feel and do this to myself? By doing i wasn't making myself any better, i was hurting myself even more and not doing anything about it. I mean that's just one guy, plenty of fish in the sea, why should i feel so down just becoz i got the wrong one? that doesn't have to stop me from living my life ,right?'

Dear, think it this way. While u are regretting and feeling like emotionless and all ur bf and ur ex crush are enjoying their life and didnt give a damn about it??
It's so unfair!!! Wake up okay!

Here's what i think u should do!
Dump ur bf! U deserve so much better than a jackass who's so selfish he couldn't even think of his gf's feeling?? Believe me, u will look back at this time and u will totally feel good about it!

get ur emotion back k? Blimey ur hurt now but U will FIND a guy who's totally worth it and be happy with him. U had it with a stupid frog but u'll end up with a prince. Every heart break and jerk u dated, that brings u 1 step closer to him ;p

Got a new mobile phone and its number

And got a total make over!! Go get a new haircut or dye it with the style that u always adore but doesn't have the courage to. Look for inspirations in magz or internet. U will feel like sum1 new and ready to start over!

HOpe i helped ;p

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Answer 14

i be happy to answer your delima my sweet kuwaitia , you feeling inadequate do to the fact that you found out the fairy tale life you were fantasizing about finally came true the romance and love you depicted from tel lie vision corrucpted and intice you to believe what you see in the movie is actually what relationships are all about , this is so far from the trutht, tht fact that your bf and your lover told you this was in fact the truth he felt befor you to engage in sex, he loves you and it is clear you love him so when your older and experience life a lil more you will realize knowlege and experience come with age although you can be wise in your years there no substitute for experience
good luck in love with your prince my princess