Why is he acting like more of a roomate to me?

Question

My boyfriend inherited 10K, now thats not alot of money. First thing he did was quit his job, then we decided to get a business going and are supposed to be usung this to start it because we are both unemployed. I am doing all the work and he stays up for hours on t he computer looking for ways to spend this money that has nothing to do with business. Not only am i afraid he is going to blow right thru this money, but I am getting no attention or affection from him at all, we dont have sex, he is just too busy having money. I have tried to talk to him, but he calls it "anxiety", i call it a kid with a little cash. Any input or suggestions? please!

Answer 1

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Was your relationship a lot different before he inherited this money? How long has it been since he inherited it?

Money can be a strange thing, especially when you are unemployed and low on it! Whether or not 10K is a lot of money depends on the person and how badly you need it. His "looking for ways to spend it" on the internet is not unusual for someone who just inherited a large sum of money, but letting you do all the work, not paying attention, and not being willing to talk about it shows a lack of character or some friction in the relationship. You should go to him as calmly as possible and let him know (without anger) what your honest feelings are about this. If this continues, I would count your blessings that you aren't married to him and look for someone else to start the business with.

- Olive

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Answer 2

Just push him on the bed and get on top of him and start kissing him. If he says no and stops it, than he's gay. I wouldn't stop ya, baby.

Answer 3

call it by its name! he is acting very inmature, he will probably end up spending all the money, with no business, you seem very smart, talk to him, if it doesnt work well then just know that it was his money there was nothing else you could do, now if it was your money you would have done something with it, as for the no attention, no affection part, once the money is gone, if he tries to come back to you all loving, I would dump him- good luck

Answer 4

Hes gonna blow the money. You would have to be a complete moron to quit your job after getting 10k. If he is that stupid, then he cant run a business. Dump him. Hes a loser

Answer 5

I can't believe he quit his job for 10k. I understand he wanting to be his own boss but 10k isn't much money. Now he acting the way he acting because he is focus on making his business work. When a man get in that mode just give him his time to focus on what he needs to do.

Answer 6

It's his money; stick around and support him if you trust his judgment, leave and find your happy place if you don't love him enough to see it through. Neither of you signed up for this, it's a matter of choice. If he falls on his face, he did it alone; if he comes up and you see him a few years down the line and he's happy and successful, oops...you blew the call!

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Answer 7

Not to be rude, But you seem to me to be pretty smart, and a survivor Why are you with him? 10 as you know and I and anyone especialy if we have kids are aware you don't quit your job because you have ten thousand in the bank!

Unless he has another job, or was working patheticaly unhealthy or unsafe job environment or otherwise but you still get another job.

getting clean and a business are great ideas but a better one is take half of it to the bank and invest it.

but given its his money and not yours you can't do much, But I'm guessing you could find a man your happier with, who deserves you. and does not make you feel like a roommate.