Why am I with this fat, hairy, balding, lazy loser who wont hold a job?

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he also is a rude smoker, messy and basically not a considerate person when it comes to sharing a house. In the beginning it was completely different, this was 3 years ago, now I get all this plus hardly any sex or much needed attention, and that was the best part in the beginning.
So what does that say about me, honestly...no jokes please, im already up all night in tears!

Answer 1

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I'm not going to tell you to leave him, because its your life, not mine. But back to your question about why your still with him. Love maybe? Think about why you first moved in with him, and why you first got together. If that reason isn't there anymore, then I'd say think about breaking up, if not, re-evaluate your situation. Hope things turn out all right for you.

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I feel like its my fault, at first it was me that wasn't so good to him while he was great. i think it will take forever to make that up to him, not sure i have the strength. he's a tough one!

Answer 2

Leave him..

Answer 3

where you married in the begging and also do you work alot he could jsut think he has to do nothing while you bring in the cash and it just becomes a habit

Answer 4

you need to get rid of this loser and find someone better

Answer 5

Your probably still with him because you think things would go back to the way they were before. Your a little dummy for sticking around. You deserve better than that

Answer 6

sounds like your afraid of being alone and would subconsciously rather be with him than be alone. just take the plunge and leave him. you will gain so much personal strength by realizing that you don't need someone, and you will be much better nad happier in the long run.

Answer 7

Maybe you are so afraid of being alone, that any ol' scumbag will do. Or maybe you have lost your self-esteem because of the way he treats you. Sometimes people just get used to a certain situation and are afraid of change. Change is scary, but you know you deserve better...so you know you have to kick him to the curb.

Answer 8

You should leave him and find somebody who wants to give you a good life and who makes you happy

If he's fat, hairy and balding isn't it a good thing that they aren't hassling you for sex?

Answer 9

Dump him. Save yourself more heartache.
The time you re wasting with this loser, you could be out there, enjoying single life and possibly meeting a better guy who would treat you better.
I wonder why some girls find it hard to leave a guy who doesnt respect them anymore or who doesnt treat them right anymore.
Once you start to notice a guy's attitude is changing in the negative aspect, like him ignoring you, bringing you down, your self confidence and self esteem is going down, THATS THE TIME to kick him to the curb!
It may hurt for a while, but trust me you will thank yourself a few months later when you look back at your decision...and when you meet a more wonderful guy!

Answer 10

Ladies, you deserve better than that-

Answer 11

The honeymoon is over and now this is the real stuff.

Answer 12

It's simple really. You're scared. No one wants to be alone. But if you really stop and think about it, you might realize that you either A) really love this guy or B) don't love the guy and need to get rid of him.

Answer 13

Leave him. You didnt fall in love with 'THAT' You deserve better and that in the beginning was like false advertising. Go0d luck girl!

Answer 14

leave him.. please dont be one of those ignorant girls who just does nothing and is miserable...theres a perfect someone for you out there.. dont waste ur time with some fat ******* who doesnt appreciate you. pleaseee dont be stupid.

Answer 15

Another prize of a fellow! Please don't let this nightmare knock you up. Sounds like he's not giving up the **** anyway. It's so strange I'm reading all of these posts about guys not giving it up these days and I always grew up thinking it was us females who held out...what gives? Something in the food? lol Anyway plan on gettting rid of that clunker asap but in the mean time if you want sex, buy a good porno and watch it with him. Trust me it will get him in the mood quicker than you can take your clothes off and if it doesn't, then he's a loss cause. I mean think about it...you can put up with a lot of things, but no sex is crossing the line...that's like having a car with no engine...totally useless! good luck! :)