Why is the beginning so wonderful.....then tappers off to nothing?

Question

when people first get together and there is this attraction and desire for one another, its so strong you cant keep your hands off each other, when you sleep together you have sex at least 3 times in one night. then a couple years later...your lucky to get it one or twice a week. I dont get it, I still want to be that way, but he doesnt. why is this in so many couples?

Answer 1

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it's called repetition. Repetition in relationships will inevitably cause the relationship to become tedious and boring. All you need to do is remind him what it was he initially fell in love with . Most of the time both partners make an extra effort in the begning to keep things fresh and exciting. This wears off after a while in the same way a woman becomes less and less bothered by the way she looks around a man the more time she spends with him (she spends hours getting ready everytime she sees a guy for the first few months, then half an hour, then 10 minutes, then, before too long it's no make-up and she's put on 30 pounds) this is just the way it tends to work out. All you need to do is just inject a bit of spontineity into your relationship, MIX IT UP A BIT! take up a hobby together like salsa dancing. this is not only fun, but you will be dancing sexually together which will add a little more spark ;-) dont just stop at that though, there are hundreds of fun activities to do. Just dont spend all night, every night inside watching telly.
Hope this helps.
Anthony

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thanks.

Answer 2

Well, to tell you the truth, I think people just get bored of the same routine or are just so worn out from the daily life. One thing that works (sometimes) is switching it up a bit. Try a date or something, spark the mood a little better, maybe drink a little if nothing else.

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Answer 3

OMG i had to post something on this cause i'm going through this now. Its like you fall in love with the fantasy and the obsession at first. But then over time everything gets too comfortable. Feels like all the excitement is gone. Funny thing is i see it and he doesn't, hes just fine with the way thing are. I miss the thrill and adventure we had to get to each other. The sex is still there and all but i feel like i miss the beginning. I guess its true about what they say, the thrill is in the chase...

Answer 4

sex-wise only or with the relationship, too? sex-wise, no idea, but in the relationship, people just get used to each other and it's no longer about learning about someone and finding out everything because you're just so in love

Answer 5

I don't know what your issue is but i don't know any relationship where the guy doesn't want to "get it/" unless he is cheating... its almost always the girl who doesn't want to "get it"

Answer 6

It's human nature. You spend a ton of time with someone then eventually people just get sick of each other and want to try new things. Now granted everyone isn't like this but some people are. This is why there are so many divorces and so many people that cheat on each other. It's an ugly thing, it really is.

Answer 7

I'm in the same situation:(
I don't know why he doesn't want to do it as often as I do. I would do it five times a day if he would allow it. It's not like I'm fat or gross or anything, plus I am willing to do whatever he wants to when it comes to sex. I just don't get it:(

Answer 8

wtf, sex 3 times in one night?

LOL

Answer 9

absence makes the heart grow fonder, familiarity breeds hate.

in other words: you have lost the ability to be interesting, fresh and new, you have become boring, yesterday's news.

thats why married couples have problems. they just get bored.

Answer 10

Thats why you need to wait, watch and be careful. Only be with someone that you truly and deeply love, and they also reciprocate the feelings.
Someone you could share everything with, your best friend, brother, father, uncle, partner, soul mate all combined in one person.
You will never be bored or tired of each other because its an everlasting bond and friendship
Dump this one!